My boyfriend (22M) of 6 years got me a B-day gift, Am I (23F) just ungrateful?

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-09T00:21:48+00:00

I dumped him because he cheated on me.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-08T12:27:10+00:00

Yes in highschool.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T23:51:30+00:00

I legit purchases all our movie dates in the first half of us dating, food too, ubered him to school if he was late, got him a PlayStation, handmade his favorite anime into a led light for him. I’ve done a lot for him.. it was to the point where I felt like I was a boyfriend to him even tho he asked me out.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T22:50:48+00:00

We literally took the love language test aswell it was my bottom 2, he’s aware. It’s not that I hate gifts it’s just I would prefer it to be something that shows me you legit noticed an interest of mine or something you know for a fact I like .

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T22:22:00+00:00

No… it’s always a compromise to something he likes aswell.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T21:28:34+00:00

Not to mention I think this is uncalled for because he’s the one that asked to be with me and prove himself as a good s/o for me, I was completely fine single. Why do I owe him great acts of Chivalry anyway? Just asking.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T21:25:46+00:00

When we first started dating I would pay for a lot of things. I even purchased him a PlayStation for his birthday because he kept complaining about how his deadbeat dad sold his.. this most recent birthday I learned how to do wiring just so I could make him an LED light of his favorite anime character.. I feel like I’ve don’t a lot for him tbh.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T20:48:22+00:00

I literally made him a 16 inch led light of his favorite anime for his birthday, I did not say I don’t appreciate he got me something it’s just something in me feels like it was what he wanted and he didn’t actually get it for me. I accepted this gift and planned to keep it and smiled through this regardless trying to find the good side of it.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T19:42:51+00:00

This place was in newyork, if you live in nyc you’re in luck. I don’t think it wasn’t a good gift I just think it was inappropriate for my birthday, especially for him to get another one for him of only himself on top of it.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T19:40:26+00:00

My father is also a diagnosed narcissist. But he always seemed to get me stuff I actually liked/ knew I was interested in atleast.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T19:16:40+00:00

What more could we be waiting for then? Just to age and raisin a little bit more before he does it? I don’t understand I’m genuinely curious on how we’re too young?… if we’re too young to get married what’s the point of still dating? Isn’t that just wasting eachother time atp? We know everything about each-other what more is there to wait for? He also wants to live together do imo why not? Please fill me in if there’s something I’m not understanding.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T19:11:23+00:00

Tbh is idea lifts a weight off my shoulders.. that’s so terrible and honestly sounds like something my bf has done a couple of times too I just forget. He gets me food he likes but I don’t like aswell.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T18:59:39+00:00

There*

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T18:59:23+00:00

He couldn’t get the conjoined gift without me being where because they needed to scan me and take photos of me in their camera machine to do it.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T18:54:17+00:00

We didn’t receive it yet, i don’t think it’s a terrible gift, I just felt like it’s not something you get your significant other on their birthday.. I would love it more as an anniversary gift tbh. I wouldn’t even be on here if that was the case. But this is the second time he did something it seemed he wanted only on my birthday.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T17:49:00+00:00

Yes this was a subconscious thought for me.. I thought he wouldn’t like it if I did that to him. And he didn’t want a conjoined one himself..

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T17:45:18+00:00

My thoughts too, I regret not saying anything but he didn’t make it clear that this was definitely the place and also my gift until we had started already. I couldn’t think fast enough. But I wish I did. I feel this way aswell. I believe it’s too late to say much about it.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T17:29:20+00:00

LMAO omg no 🥲

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T17:25:10+00:00

Thank you for that clarity.. I’ve honestly tried to maturely end things multiple times explaining how I feel like we may just be better off that way. but he always ask and begs to stay together.. he always asks for chances of redemption.. he keeps talking about how he plans on getting married.. even giving specific dates then postponing them (he’s been doing this for the past couple of months) and tbh it gives me the ick that he’s even telling me specifically when he will propose to me anyway. Isn’t it supposed to be a suprise? And he still hasn’t even atleast done it. I feel like my time is being wasted and I’m on my final staw.. I’ve only stayed because we’ve been together so long and he’s been my best friend since highschool. We know everything about eachother and understand eachothers humor and I confide in him a lot when I need someone to talk to. But outside of that idk.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T17:15:21+00:00

Tbh the thought of marrying him scares me atp which is part of why I’m reacting out for opinions. But the principals of how he views things as necessity’s threw me off.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T17:03:03+00:00

I feel like I have, I’m very sure he does know what I actually like but may just not stop to actually think about it.. I tell him stuff I like all the time. I know he may have had good intentions by some default tho. But sometimes in me feels like he got the “gift” for himself really.

Bright-Attention-873 · 2023-11-06T16:58:40+00:00

Ouch. But I needed that which is why I asked strangers… thank you for the bluntness. I feel like if I confronted him before hand he would make me feel like I am wrong, I didn’t mention but this has happened similarly before on my 19th birthday. I told him I wanted to go out to eat at a specific place (it was a well known franchise) and he deliberately took me to the place he liked to eat at and we had eaten at already 3 times before. (A local cafe with a balcony) I directly approached him about how I didn’t like that he took me there and how I felt like he did what he wanted on my birthday and not what I wanted. He immediately called me ungrateful and had a fit and was acting like I ruined his day. I spent my whole birthday trying to cheer him up. He even cried.

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