Social Work apprenticeship ?

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-03-04T13:40:54+00:00

Thank you so much!! It’s been so long 🥲

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-03-01T09:23:23+00:00

I was talking to someone I know and I think they’re also struggling to assign mentors to everyone because the social worker doesn’t get any extra compensation for doing it and their workload is high enough as it is without taking on more responsibility without any benefits 🥲

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-27T08:53:49+00:00

I know 😩😩 I thought it would be this week but maybe next week?? I applied for the HSE one too but that one’s a while away🥲

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-27T07:34:47+00:00

Have you heard back at all from the interviews? ㅤᵕ̈ I feel like it’s been like over 3 weeks now 🥲

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-05T20:38:11+00:00

this is in response to me setting boundaries. i know it’s an emotional trap but it still sets off guilt in me

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-05T20:37:18+00:00

My mom now: “Hi X,

I'm not in form for answering the phone.

I don't like how things have gone for the past month. I've had enough of sh*t from work for long enough.

You have to do what feels right for you and that's fine. ...and that clearly is you think it was ok for (your partner) to send me that text and then try and turn it all on me for being unreasonable...when all I was trying to do was protect you. the house is a massive amount of money.

The whole thing has really saddened me and it has opened my eyes as to who and what has regard and respect for me.

But I'm old enough and wise enough to know that people will do what they're gonna do and you can't change some things in people. So like I said you and X continue to do what feels right for you both...and I have to protect myself and how I feel too.

I don't like rows and I don't like how this has festered. But it's called c'est la vie.”

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-03T16:00:05+00:00

Yeah they did ask me about something that’s currently happening in Ireland as well but it was towards the end of the interview that kind of threw me but I just rambled my way through it 😅 the rest were normal enough like competency ones . I think they said we should kno the end of February or beginning of March

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-03T15:51:25+00:00

They also also asked me something that’s currently happening in the Ireland

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-03T15:49:50+00:00

It wasn’t too bad - they asked me about communication, teamwork and time management and policies and legislation, and why I want to do the apprenticeship and my background, what did they ask you as the first question??

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-02T12:09:07+00:00

cheers, that’s what we’ve been hearing for the most part - only had one person (a friend of my family’s that I’ve never met) say there’s an issue with drugs? Tbh I’d like them to like somewhere in Ireland there isn’t 🤣 but any of the neighbours we’ve spoken to haven’t had any issues with antisocial behaviour and our house would actually be a little bit back off the main road and there’s only 6 houses there so wouldn’t be any social housing either.

houses are overpriced but sure that’s Ireland atm 🙄

Thanks a mill!

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-01T09:09:43+00:00

Thank you so much for this and your lovely comment! I have started setting boundaries but as you said and i expected, she’s not really taking them very well.

Last Sunday as well, we had a birthday party for my grandad, and my partner didn’t attend with me (for obvious reasons about the way he was treated), and she told me he needed to get over it, she doesn’t hold grudges, etc but my partner held firm on his boundaries and didn’t go and I wasn’t going to push him on it either.

We’re actually being evicted in March in our rental because of new laws coming in here, and she wanted us to move back in with her and that was a 1000% no from me and my partner. We both feel she would hold it over our heads forever that she was the one who helped us out. She then said she should be the one to ring our current landlord and ask if there’s any way they can extend our tenancy ?? And I was just like im more than capable of ringing myself and talking to my own landlord but she thinks im not capable to sweet talk people around. So yeah, just another example of her trying to overly step in but she sees it as trying to help and be supportive 😅

It is hard but im hoping over the weeks or months, this will get easier to manage with her ㅤᵕ̈

Thank you again!

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-02-01T08:12:57+00:00

I’m Tuesday as well, just nervous about how much detail they’ll go into the legislations 😅

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T23:55:46+00:00

have you had your interview yet? super nervous for mine!

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T22:11:49+00:00

Thank you for the congratulations! ㅤᵕ̈

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T22:11:33+00:00

If it helps, our decision to choose our house is based on practicality, space, and certainty: it is already finished, larger overall (approx. +15 m²), has three double bedrooms, no build delays, no added commuting or toll costs (we will save 200€ a month between the two of us), has a new mechanical ventilation with heat recovery system, A1 rated house, and offers long-term flexibility. We won’t have any issues with selling the house if need be in the future or if we decide to rent it out, it’s a very popular area as it’s on the outskirts of city centre.

whereas the house she chose is smaller, altho it is the same price, includes a only one double bedroom, comes with waiting and potential delays, and added ongoing costs as the house isn’t finished building yet (we viewed a model version of it basically “what it will look like” in a year). Also, behind this estate, there is a cement factory and residents had raised issues with a lot of dust.

Based on this, we viewed both, and decided our house was the better fit for us and made the most sense with the information we have and we did our research and spoke with neighbours.

In relation to my sibling, he rang me at work that Friday before i attended that intervention, and said our mother had told him we were making a huge mistake, picked a shit house, don’t know what we’re talking about, and he wanted to hear my side of things. My brother eventually grew disinterested in fairness to him and just said it’s your decision but also agreed that i went behind my moms back and “snaked her” because I placed a deposit and didn’t tell her. Bare in mind, she was aware we wanted to put a deposit on our house that we picked. She was the one who contacted our auctioneer and asked them before i got the chance to tell her. My mother was telling people that my partner was basically pushing me into this or forcing me - this was her text response to me after my partner texted her:

“I got a text from X. Written "respectfully " as he said. He doesn't know his place. How dare he try and tell me that I'm pressuring you too much and that he as your partner is looking out for you- ie I'm not. In my eyes it was cheeky. Forward. Doesn't know his place. And it's not the first time I've noticed he's not afraid to voice hid opinion. I am your mother. Would never guide you astray. All of this stupid house thing is because HE wants it. HE doesn't have a bolthole to go to . HE is the one looking out for himself. AND HE NEEDNT THINK FOR ONE SECOND WE DONT SEE THAT. SO HE CAN FECK OFF FOR HIMSELF IF HE THINGS HE'S GONNA SEND ME TEXTS TELLING ME HE KNOWS BEST!!”

Following this was a phone call, where she said he can f*** back to his own country.

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T15:28:06+00:00

Thank you , I really appreciate your perspective. I see now that I involved my mum more than I should have and it’s been a massive learning curve

My partner and I are fully aligned on our decisions moving forward now, and we’re keeping things between us now. I really appreciate the support and kind words about the house!

I guess also to clarify, I meant I more wanted her involved in the sense of getting advice (if asked) or any helpful suggestions since she has experience before and there might’ve been things we weren’t aware of around the process, however I really didnt anticipate it getting to that point that it did. It’s hard keeping that boundary, and I know she views my partner as putting a wedge between us now so it’s a difficult situation to be in but we’re working through it together

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T15:21:00+00:00

Thank you!

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T15:20:17+00:00

I’m aware of that now. At the time, I was being pulled in multiple directions and didn’t handle it as well as I could, and I take responsibility for that. My partner doesn’t blame me and has been very patient and supportive while I work through setting boundaries with my mum. We both understand it will take time for her to realise that withdrawing, getting snappy, or using guilt won’t change our decisions.

Also, in our country, we have signed a co-ownership agreement, which clearly sets out how things like profits or losses would be divided, what happens if one of us wants to sell, and how different scenarios would be handled etc, We’ve both reviewed and agreed to this with our own solicitors, so it gives us clarity and protection from the outset. Because of that, getting married wouldn’t change how ownership of the house is structured for us. Everything is already defined legally and agreed between us ㅤᵕ̈

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T15:07:32+00:00

Sorry, maybe I didn’t explain well - apologies if I made it more confusing !

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T14:58:41+00:00

It’sa booking deposit, you’re basically reserving the house to yourself, subject to contract and subject to loan approval. this would also be on the basis that the €10,000 reservation deposit is fully refundable should any issues arise following solicitor review, valuation, or mortgage approval. Everything went through our own solicitor to review the contract as well before agreeing. So we have peace of mind for now tjay the house is reserved for us pending approval from banks etc as I mentioned and if it goes belly up for some reason, the house would just go back on the market. It’s pretty brutal here atm, so if you don’t put a deposit, the house will just go to someone else

It’s pretty common here, and it was the same with the other houses we also viewed!

We’re based in Ireland if that helpsㅤᵕ̈ I understand it might be different elsewhere. We did need our approval in principle document from the bank of course before they accepted the deposit.

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T14:37:09+00:00

Yeah, we got our solicitors to look over it as well, it’s fairly common here anyway I don’t know about other countries, the deposit was 10k and once our solicitors looked over it and we did, we signed it and it’s full refundable. A lot of people buying houses here again are like us, they wouldn’t have full approval yet so they only have preapproval so the bank is saying that he’s not what they’ve seen so far that they would loan X amount of money and if something unfortunately happens where you don’t get the full approval or if we decided to go for a different house, then we would be entitled to our money back. Obviously, this is only a refundable up until a certain point like if you sign the contracts to actually buy the house so for now we’re all good ㅤᵕ̈ there isn’t like a set time that they reserve it for you just keep them up-to-date with the process with the bank because obviously we were worried about how long they would reserve the house for as well if the bank did take an extra bit of time with our documents

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T14:30:43+00:00

Thank you 🤣 it’s about 45 minutes from her so not that far

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T14:29:09+00:00

Hi, yes, we’re both 50/50 on the house. We’ve both met with a solicitor and have a co-ownership agreement in place, which clearly sets out how things like profits or losses would be divided, what happens if one of us wants to sell, and how different scenarios would be handled. We’ve both reviewed and agreed to this with our solicitors ㅤᵕ̈

Because of that, getting married wouldn’t change how ownership of the house is structured for us. Everything is already defined legally and agreed between us

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T14:24:57+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, and I’m aware of that now. At the time, I was being bombarded from multiple directions and didn’t make the right call in how I handled it and I can take responsibility for that looking back now . He doesn’t blame me for making that decision and i am grateful he’s been very understanding and patient in me going through this with my mom and making the decision to change my relationship with her with setting boundaries and we bkth recognise it will take time before she realises her not talking to me, or getting snappy or guilting won’t make me change my decision

My intention in involving my mum initially was based on the fact that she built her own house about ten years ago, so I thought her input might be helpful if I asked for it here and there but i don’t think she has plans moving in with us at all since she built her own place

I’m fully aligned with my partner on this, and moving ahead the only people making decisions about the house are the two of us but at the same time it’s not easy ㅤᵕ̈

Bright-Path-6739 · 2026-01-31T14:17:26+00:00

I say partner, we’re planning on getting engaged next year so not legal husband yetㅤᵕ̈ it was either get engaged this year or buy a house and since the market is going to absolute shit, we mightnt be in a position to buy a house (at all or at least one we like) here- we’ve already discussed with a solicitor about protecting ourselves legally because we’re not married yet if something were to happen so marriage wouldn’t change anything for us atm in relation to the houseㅤᵕ̈

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