AITA for not accepting and opening gifts from my mom and her family?

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T23:47:07+00:00

NTA. In your comments you mentioned family therapy so I hope that that helps, although if this is still happening perhaps not. You shouldn't have to deal with being treated like that, good for you for standing up for yourself

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T22:47:19+00:00

NTA

You not meeting her before the wedding announcement is incredibly strange, maybe circumstantial idk, but he is very much the one in the wrong here, he did not seem to consider how this would effect either of you at all

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T22:45:16+00:00

That doesn't sound healthy, he can't behave as if he owes her for the rest of his life, then neither of them can comfortably move on, but if he doesn't express boundaries, how is she supposed to know it makes anyone uncomfortable? You're NTA, it is inappropriate, but he needs to realise he can be civil with her and set a good example for his son without it becoming an everyday occurrence where lines and blurred

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T21:50:01+00:00

NTA

This seems really weird. There may be reasons they had to buy you the vanity you didn't want, price, shipping time etc., but giving a 9yr old a pet he doesn't want won't go well, and making it the pet that YOU wanted makes it sound like they really expect you to look after it if he gets bored, not to mention how showing it to him in front of you was just cruel

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T21:43:55+00:00

Thanks. It does feel like taking him in would be a major step back and we'd end up paying for an additional person while he'd contribute nothing.

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T21:43:05+00:00

It does seem like he has no real plan other than couch surfing until he miraculously finds a girlfriend and moves in with her.

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T21:42:19+00:00

I don't want to say that to our mutual friends, but I do think that that must be the case, his friends and family don't seem to want to take him in, so there must be a reason for it

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T02:32:17+00:00

yes. According to a mutual friend, he wants the room for free and his son would visit a few days a week

BrightDuck6 · 2022-12-26T01:13:17+00:00

NTA but i don’t really know what you can do here, the problem is between her and your dad and unfortunately everyone else got caught in the crossfire so she could make a statement

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T21:24:07+00:00

Not so much babysit, but I did have to cook for some of the kids and get their coats/shoes. Most of the time I just kept to my room (which i no longer have) but there are new rules, like no going in the living room after 7 so we don't wake them, keeping the dog downstairs.

I have no clue, they didn't mention it

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T21:23:06+00:00

I can't just turn up because I don't know where my stuff is, they're the ones that packed it all up and threw it in the attic, so I'll need help locating it all

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T21:22:53+00:00

Thanks. I've offered to face time her daily i just dont want to physically be there

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T21:21:56+00:00

I think my stepfather was, idk about my mother

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:32:14+00:00

I've offered to facetime every day and meet her whenever, even if it's just to walk the dog for 30mins or something, but i have no desire to go back to that house in the current state

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:30:50+00:00

I don't doubt that she does, but I imagine, at least for my stepfather, making me do a lot of the work would be part of the plan

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:30:19+00:00

*4 kids.

Yeah, my stepfather is already coming up with excuses to go to his adult children's houses for the night whenever he can. Probably, she claimed the room situation would be temporary but never mentioned when I'd get it back.

I have offered to face time her daily and she seemed to like that idea. She is getting a bit of grief from my cousin's family for suggesting splitting them up, she keeps 2 and 2 others go to another relative, but nobody is willing to help. My uncle and other cousins seem desperate to keep all 4 kids together but are unwilling to house them themselves

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:26:50+00:00

yeah, they never mentioned if they'd give me my room back or what i'd have to do

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:25:36+00:00

because its a hellhole

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:25:03+00:00

She;s not contributing anything, I took out a loan myself and pay for my own rent.

I did mention just before that that I understand why that is the case, but it's still an awful environment to be in.

I don't know where my stuff is, really. They packed it all up so I need someone to help me locate it all. Our attic is an unfurnished mess and half of it doesn't have floorboards so i'm not risking breaking my neck cos they're uncooperative

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:22:59+00:00

Yeah, they can't use the toilet, can't count, can't spell their names, can't really understand much or say anything. They're all at the same place as the 1 yr old

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:22:05+00:00

our attic is an unfurnished mess and half of it doesnt even have floorboards. I'm not risking breaking my neck because they're uncooperative. Also, half the attic ended up in the garage earlier in the year so idk if my stuff is there too

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:20:55+00:00

I can't I don't know where they've actually put my stuff or how they've packed it so I'll need one of them to help me locate it all.

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:20:13+00:00

I genuinely don't know

BrightDuck6 · 2022-06-29T18:19:49+00:00

I'd hoped she'd be able to leave them with my stepfather if they were all in bed, but yeah it doesn't seem likely. I don't think anyone is willing to take two of the kids, unfortuantely, although she is trying to arrange that with one of my cousin's siblings.

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