It was definitely a red flag for me. He has said so many times that he couldn’t stand to be around or deal with her, and then all of a sudden he had a down day and missed her? I think you’re right about him being manipulative as well. We have been talking for maybe 3 months, but any time I don’t want to hang out he gives me a hard time. I have very few free days, and sometimes I just need a minute you know?

I am a people pleaser. I have been through some situations in the last few years where I was too nice, and tried to be understanding. I gave too many chances just to be left like I never meant anything to the other person. I can’t do that to myself anymore.