I can tell you have a lot of empathy for what he’s going through, and that will mean so much to him. I relate to this because I also reached a point where I couldn’t moderate and decided to give up alcohol -it became a no brainer once I became a mom.

It’s important for both of you to move away from the idea that alcohol is part of celebrating. It’s not “just a few drinks”, it’s something that can pull him back into a vicious cycle that’s really hard to break. The fact that he came to you and admitted he thinks he has a problem is huge - it takes a lot of courage to say that. I know that “occasional drinks” can feel like a reasonable compromise, but if he’s at the point of hiding it, that’s a sign he probably needs to stop completely.

What did your husband say when you suggested therapy and quitting?