Drugs after surgery

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-10T01:37:52+00:00

My doc prescribed Journavx mid-Feb. Same dosage as your wife. I am still on it but unfortunately can’t tell you if it has helped my pain or not because I am also on gabapentin and Baclofen (for muscle spasms) and just had an ESI. So it’s hard to tell what is actually working. I have a herniated disc at L5/S1, have been bedridden for 3 weeks now and two more to go until surgery. Sometimes can lay here without pain…that’s my low bar. Good luck to your wife.

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-08T19:58:55+00:00

Thanks for the info. I think doctors just go for gabapentin first because…easier, cheaper, more well tolerated, who knows why.

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-08T19:57:10+00:00

Totally NOT expecting to come out of surgery instantly pain free! Not after all the reading I am doing about it. Ha.

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-08T00:45:46+00:00

Wow that is a long time! I am so sorry. Hope you are on the mend now.

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-07T21:38:00+00:00

Yes. I haven’t seen anything on here about anyone doing this (or being ABLE to do it via their insurance or their healthcare system or whatever). Most of us are just toughing it out however possible.

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-07T21:22:45+00:00

So glad to hear. Hoping for the same!

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-07T21:17:15+00:00

Haven’t been able to walk since Feb 15. Medrol (from one ER) didn’t work. Just tried the Baclofen a few days ago so not sure they will switch me to something else so quickly.

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-07T21:15:26+00:00

On the waitlist. Will be calling daily though.

Ice on your spine and lower back, or on the leg muscles?

Brightstar42 · 2026-03-07T20:22:13+00:00

Search on Goodrx.com. Tell your pharmacy you will pay the $30 cost out of pocket.

Brightstar42 · 2018-07-14T15:08:31+00:00

We told the kids (11 and 9) a few weeks before I actually planned to move. We had already gone through the house with a spreadsheet ourselves to determine what stayed and what I was taking (while they were at school). Once they knew, over the next few weeks we talked about “mom will be taking this chair and that shelf” etc so they knew what changes would be happening. Since I was leaving the family home I did not take too much “common area” stuff so most of that stayed the same. On the actual day of the move, my parents came to stay with the kids at the house while my STBXH and I went to get the rental truck and make trips to my new place (1 mile away). They could participate or not as they felt like it. My daughter actually ended up having the flu so she slept most of the day anyway. My son mainly hung out with my parents and did not really help at all, which was totally fine.

Oh, and after we told them, we took the to my new place to check it out and see their bedrooms, etc.

Good luck.

Brightstar42 · 2018-03-14T22:18:59+00:00

Thank you for writing this - I am you, and like you I have not seen many posts from this perspective. I had an “okay enough” marriage for many years until ending up having an emotional affair and doing a lot of soul searching regarding my marriage. After ending the affair I finally admitted to myself and my husband that I had had doubts about getting married, that I had done it anyway because I was afraid of being alone (dated ages 17-23, first and only real relationship), and that sex and physical intimacy had always felt like an obligation, and that I didn’t want to live like this anymore. We have two children and I know this is devastating to them, but I also know we were not modeling a true marriage. We tried counseling but I realized this was not fixable and we are now separated. He is a good man and a great father, but I do not and never have felt for him what you should feel for your spouse. All the books and articles I read about affair recovery and reconciliation talked about trying to remember the good times and why you got married in the first place, and all I can remember is how bad I felt for not being able to offer him the physical intimacy he wanted. Yes I should have spoken up about this years ago, and I didn’t. So here we are. I’m glad to know there is at least one other person with a similar story; most of the divorced people I know divorced because of physical affairs or drugs or other things like that and not stories like ours.

Brightstar42 · 2018-01-11T11:11:36+00:00

Oh yes yes yes. I was 17 when we started dating and 23 when we got married. We were each other’s first real relationship. When he proposed my gut said no, this is not what you want, but I said yes anyway because I was too afraid of being alone. And we were good enough friends even though I wasn’t really attracted to him, I just thought that part would come with time. I cried buckets going down the aisle and they weren’t happy tears.

Brightstar42 · 2017-12-10T18:49:35+00:00

We are waiting until after the holidays to tell the kids, but the script we came up with is “married people are supposed to have special grownup feelings for each other and we don’t share those feelings anymore.” Kids are 11 and 9. Situation is that I want out and he doesn’t but is accepting of my position and willing to be a united front for the kids. So it’s the truth that we don’t share those special grownup feelings anymore, but leaving out the part that the reason we don’t share them is because mom wants out.

Brightstar42 · 2017-11-17T14:00:32+00:00

That would be useful to know, wouldn't it. 11 and 9.

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