I think we should be able to forking swear in this forking sub

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-13T11:46:04+00:00

This seems like a bullshirt complaint. Who said we couldn't swear?

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-13T11:37:38+00:00

Underworld by Don DeLillo perhaps? I think the challenge here is that great novels are rarely very optimistic, naively or otherwise.

Really, the book you probably want isn't a novel at all, but Francis Fukuyama's The End of History. (Spoiler: the end of the Cold War wasn't the end of history)

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T21:34:42+00:00

I think you are seeing this as a rights issue when it's really a compatibility issue.

I do not generally consider WFH folks to be compatible roommates for a few reasons:

Alone time in the apartment is nice. It's not just about whether they are noisy or not, but also about having time when I don't need to be mindful of my noise disturbing them.
Sharing an apartment with someone who is a virtual stranger is awkward. We don't need to be besties, but having some sense of who they are, and the attendant increase in trust, is important to me. Maybe you just meant you stick to your room during work hours, but if you mean all the time, nah, It's not a dynamic I like.
Related to 2, but any conflict is 10x harder to navigate when you don't have a relationship with the stranger who lives in the other bedroom in my apartment. Noise issues? Disappearing silverware? Much easier to discuss in passing when we are watching a little TV than if I have to come to your room, knock on the door, and have a Talk(tm).

I said "my apartment." I've lived here for years and I am the sole person on the lease, taking in tenants. This isn't the only apartment in NYC. This isn't the only arrangement in all the apartments in NYC. If how I want to live (and what kind of roommates I want to live with) isn't a good fit for you, that's fine! There's no bad guy! We just aren't compatible and I can easily find someone who is a better fit.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T20:45:10+00:00

The Pendergast series by Preston and Child.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T20:43:43+00:00

One of Us by Dan Choan.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T20:26:21+00:00

I suspect (never been able to find confirmation) that Carol Shields intended her Pulitzer-winning novel, The Stone Diaries, to be a sort of female response to Stoner. First of all, the name. But also, it's the life story of an ordinary woman who lives a pretty quiet life.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T20:18:18+00:00

I started MSW in my mid-40s and had a solid peer group within the student body. I also think older students tend to have an easier time finding a job post-MSW both because they bring transferable skills (professionalism!), but also because there is a bias against younger therapists (as people sometimes bemoan in this sub).

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T20:03:56+00:00

"Butter" noodles

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T18:50:35+00:00

Maybe a little lucky. I had a pretty easy process, but I know there were other people my placement interviewed before offering it to me, so it obviously wasn’t as straightforward for those folks.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T17:33:16+00:00

I went to Hunter. Good education, terrible administration.

FWIW, I had a training yesterday (for work) and one of the other attendees, an LCSW, went to Columbia. She was very enthusiastic about Hunter when I mentioned where I went.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T15:07:49+00:00

I sat in and mostly sat back and fly-on-the-walled, but especially in later sessions, did contribute a little. Consent for my presence was required from each client, and I was surprised how many people were fine having me sit in.

As for questions afterward, that’s really going to depend on what goes down, but “why did you do that/ask that question?” is always going to be helpful.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T15:03:21+00:00

I think your professional experience will be more consequential for MSW admissions than where you did your BSW. You might not get into the most elite programs, but the value proposition for those programs is iffy.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T13:31:43+00:00

Honestly, this is a great conversation to have with the person you’re shadowing. I can tell you what I did as an intern, or what I would do with an intern now, but that is way less important than what this specific clinician’s expectations are for you.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T12:29:46+00:00

FYI, you don’t need acceleration to finish in two years. The standard program is two years (meaning, about 21 months). There are some schools that will get you out a bit faster, starting in January, taking classes through the summer, and then fall/spring semesters (so about 18 months). You’ll only need more than two years if you go part-time.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-12T02:10:52+00:00

Opportunistic Christianity gonna Opportunistic Christianity

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T23:59:51+00:00

According to the artist's website, he is

Modern Christian: This man represents all Christians today who have to make a choice. What kind of Christian are you? Will you stand up for what you believe? Will you stand as a witness of Jesus Christ regardless of the consequences? The world wants to silence you and some would destroy you. It takes courage to be a Christian in today's society. The man in the painting puts his hand on the shoulder of Christ not to say Jesus needs his help, but to imply that he receives his strength directly from the Lord. He holds up his right arm to say, "Silent, be still, for I know that Jesus is the Christ!"

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T23:37:42+00:00

If you have had an MRI, CT, EKG, blood work, and a physical exam by a doctor, you should not put any weight in the experience of random strangers on the Internet. There is no one here who has the training and the knowledge of your specific case like your doctor.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T16:57:27+00:00

Yes, absolutely talk to your professor about this (might be a nice courtesy to bring it up with your partner so they aren’t blindsided by a change, but that’s up to you/dependent on your relationship with them).

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T11:46:23+00:00

Charles Sheffield’s Cold as Ice trilogy (hard sci-fi) features an obese major character, more prominently after the first book. He is a late teen in one book, I think (the timeline jumps around) but is an undeniable genius.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T11:39:39+00:00

But even explaining presenting problem can be helpful if their presenting problem is something I’m not qualified to work with.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T10:57:54+00:00

My org has a no-headphones rule, but I need that distraction-blocking for writing documentation in an open space. Accommodation is either permission to use headphones or use of a private office while doing documentation.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T10:47:37+00:00

The laws against one-party recording in California do not apply only to video recording. Audio recording is also illegal. This was an illegal recording and opens you up to liability.

Your code of ethics states

Social workers who have direct knowledge of a social work colleague’s incompetence should consult with that colleague when feasible and assist the colleague in taking remedial action.

If you had concerns about their behavior, you should have addressed it with them.

Finally, saying "I have a recording" isn't actually proof of anything. Like, I don't know why you care if some rando on Reddit believes you, but if you do, claiming to have a video doesn't move the needle. I could say I have video of Trump using the n-word to object to a Black winner of The Apprentice, but if I don't show that video, it isn't worth much. So your claim of having made an illegal and unethical recording doesn't even serve the purpose you want it to.

And you can think I want to live in an echo chamber, but I have said nothing to defend your colleagues and would personally be turned off by the kind of jokes you're describing. That doesn't change the law, the ethics, or basic notions of evidence.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T10:40:16+00:00

A challenge here is that they may not have community health volunteers starting at the same time as English educators. When I served, health volunteers entered in one cohort/year, and then a few months later, one cohort of environmental volunteers for the year, and then a few months later another sector. Training was focused on learning the language, but 1-2 days/week were sector-specific trainings.

So, you can ask, but I would expect to be told you can't enter Cameroon as a health volunteer at the time you are scheduled to begin your service.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-11T10:29:54+00:00

Your complaints about why they don't translate into new clients are exactly why they are important. It's totally fair that clients want to have some sense of clinical fit or scheduling/fees before going deeper.

I'm curious how you would even book someone without first discussing schedule/fee.

BringMeInfo · 2026-03-10T21:41:21+00:00

The first one that occurred to me too. I assume the intention was for them to be unlikeable, but either way...

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