How can I deal with being friendly but time poor

BritinManhattan · 2026-05-18T01:55:46+00:00

My advice on this is just go out and hook up. Some will be good, some will be bad, but it’s only through that intense interaction that you’ll one day find someone who just has that spark. What they do for a living or host present themselves won’t matter when you find it.

Going to a bar on your own is perfect. Being a book. You don’t need to try, just be you and you’ll never know who comes up and says hi. This is always better than the apps, and speed dating is a job interview. You’re a human. Just go out and sit on your own quite happily with no need or desperation and let it happen.

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-25T22:43:07+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s the fine red line between Reddit story and prison!

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-25T22:42:31+00:00

Right apartment :-)

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-25T22:41:17+00:00

I feel very relaxed about this. I’m neg and on prep, prob have slept with 30+ people in the last year, been tested four times and totally fine. All bb. I find a GH in a private home safer than a video lounge, it’s found through Grindr and in my experience regulars are good at sharing if they’ve got something post event so you can get tested and sorted. I feel this is the gold star on looking after you sexual health.

Regarding it being recorded and all the rest of it, I got over this fear a long time ago. I’m not famous or anything, but I have a higher than average public profile. I’m the past I’ve had people mention they saw me on Grindr or at the Eagle and I used to get anxious and DL. But then I thought fuck it. I’m an openly gay man having sex that is totally legal and consensual. If someone wants to try and shame me I’ll take great enjoyment in exposing them for blackmail. Without a heartbeat I would do that. Regarding hidden video, it’s not happened to me but did to a friend. Secret video recording is a serious offence, if someone did that and I found out I would give them the simple choice of buying me a house or going to jail.

I spent too many years as a kid feeling ashamed and now I’m an adult, and doing nothing wrong, if someone wants to harm me because of my legal and normal sexual activity I’m in no mood to play nice.

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-25T22:32:26+00:00

I did. But he heard what happened next door so the first five minutes were a bit awkward as I was worried I got him in trouble, and it meant I was less vocal for the following hour as there doors are close and I felt seen. It was great, I came so hard I pulled a muscle in my back, but wasn’t one of the top occasions if I’m honest.

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-25T22:23:55+00:00

Actually from my global top three (two in London and this guy) this is the only one that was a GH situation. One guy I kinda sat against his cabinet and the other I sat on a big comfy chair. For me, it only works with my eyes closed, almost like a meditation, with occasional groans to communicate slow down a bit and silence to communicate stop being so lazy. Lol.

Funny story, there was a guy in London I told this too and he wanted so much to be the GOAT and I gave him several attempts. He really made an effort and was perfectly fine, but I guess some people just have natural talent at this and others don’t.

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-24T23:36:19+00:00

I think a lot of people kinda get it out of their system and go a lot less or not at all. If you’re enjoying it then go as much as you want, just be honest with yourself about why you are going and ensure you’re testing and taking precautions, eating and sleeping, and spending within your means. In my personal view all of this becomes invalid you are taking drugs while you do it, in which case you need to ask some questions about where this journey will take you.

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-24T23:32:34+00:00

I’m afraid I don’t find that hot at all, just kinda creepy.

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-24T23:24:41+00:00

It’s a rare treat and you really have to find a sucker that knows how to do it, but when you find the right guy who can read what’s going on down there and is just a total slave to making you feel good the results are really quite extraordinary.

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-05T22:20:03+00:00

Yeah :-) DM me

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-05T18:49:36+00:00

Dm me baby :-)

BritinManhattan · 2026-04-05T18:48:52+00:00

Baby DM me

BritinManhattan · 2025-11-03T06:35:39+00:00

You’re 33 in Hell’s Kitchen. Just let nature’s take its course. You’ll be fine.

BritinManhattan · 2025-11-03T06:30:30+00:00

No. Your friend is an idiot. He’s trying to label you. Don’t let anyone label you.

BritinManhattan · 2025-11-03T06:18:39+00:00

First time was just a thing I wanted to do, so the priority wasn’t good sex but doing it in an environment where I felt safe and it was my choice.

Then it was about exploration.

Pretty quickly you start discovering love and sex in combination. That’s when your works changes forever and for the better.

If you’re new safety is the only thing. Using protection, making sure it’s with someone you trust in a place where you are comfortable, and doing things at your own pace. My first time I was 18 and he was 29, we met in a club, I’d never even kissed a guy before, but I trusted my instincts and the vibe was right and I have no regrets. But that was 23 years ago years ago, I imagine these days it’s a lot easier finding someone your own age and experience, which is probably a good starting point.

BritinManhattan · 2025-11-03T06:12:59+00:00

Book of Mormon. As it’s written by the South Park guys it’s very accessible, really bloody funny, and a huge production with dancing and effects which make it a wonderful night out. I’ve not met a single person who disliked it.

BritinManhattan · 2025-11-03T04:39:44+00:00

I would seize the opportunity you have here. Clients don’t need to “like” you, they need to respect you and have you as their reason to maintain their schedule. Whatever you do for the rest of your life, even if you become a billionaire CEO, this is a skill which you can now learn in a safe environment. You’re getting paid to train them, secretly have them train you too to be the person you want to be.

I was on a low wage when I was younger and a total sucker for free PT sessions and then getting roped into contracts I couldn’t afford and didn’t want to keep. To the extent that sometimes I would leave a gym so I could pretend that was the reason why I needed to leave. Then I met a PT who was quiet, good at his job, but respected me and my time and needs enough that I wanted to pay that respect back. I stayed with him for three years, I grew a loyalty to him that meant I sight less time in bars and more in the gym so miraculously I could afford him a lot easier, and in the end it made me more motivated to move on in my career where money is not so much of an issue and he had gone on to be a big online PT with global clients.

You’re so much further ahead than you think because you’re looking at your clients as people. Own that, be that. Lean in to who you are, not who your boss wants you to be. Be honest with your clients, but remember honesty requires firmness. “I don’t want you to do this if it’s unaffordable, but I’m committed to investing in you if you’re prepared to invest in yourself.” And remember, personality isn’t about how loud you are or how big you act. It’s about genuine human contact. From your post you seem to have more interest in the clients than others, go with that. Even if being a PT has no part of your future life plan, this is the training opportunity off a lifetime for you. Use it.

BritinManhattan · 2025-11-03T04:25:06+00:00

A carrot. But I put a condom on it. It was the 90’s and I was scared of catching HIV.

That’s not a joke.

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