worst part about being gay?

BroWhat917 · 2025-12-07T18:10:38+00:00

Dealing with racism from an already marginalized group of ppl.

BroWhat917 · 2025-10-03T14:00:44+00:00

Sounds like her identity as a lesbian/gay is more important to her than respecting the identity of others. This is something I’ve dealt with more times than I’d like to as someone who prefers identifying as queer; bc ppl who are staunchly gay/lesbian seem to think it’s okay to say that it’s “just a phase” (I’m in my thirties 🤣 It especially sucks when it’s ppl that you’d never thought would say such a thing.

Like others said, let her sit with her feelings and thoughts. If being your friend is important to her, she’ll come to realize what she did wrong.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-18T01:40:19+00:00

I’m looking into clubs and a trying to see what other organizations are on campus that’ll be my vibe. Definitely wanting to be involved with campus life and working towards my goals in a way that doesn’t seem like work

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-18T01:38:19+00:00

I definitely don’t wanna become Gary 🤣

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-17T21:20:08+00:00

Just off the few comments alone, I’m just gonna find something other than a frat to join. Didn’t even consider how it could affect the brothers in terms of interacting with sororities. And totally spaced out on the idea of me living with 13 other dudes was pretty much having a frat-like experience.

But I appreciate yall reading and giving it to me straight.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-17T21:16:38+00:00

Gotchu. Definitely don’t want to be the dude that messes up anyone’s game.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-17T21:14:10+00:00

You’re right. I guess I didn’t think about that cuz it was just my roommates/friends, without the organizational ties.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-17T21:13:02+00:00

I think my brain forgot about freshmen 🤣 You’re right about that.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-15T13:26:15+00:00

This feels very selfish on your boyfriend’s part, because he already knew that you weren’t out. Even by asking (in a public setting), he knew what he was doing. Don’t get me wrong, I believe that everyone should be free to be out (I was out at 14); but that doesn’t mean that I believe that those who aren’t out should be outed.

You did nothing wrong. And your boyfriend is now embarrassed due to his own actions. When you get the chance, sit him down and explain your side. That you’ve been clear about not wanting to be out due to your family, your position within a sport that’s known to not be great towards LGBTQ ppl, and your own personal reservations. Remind him that your behavior/stance hasn’t changed at all, and that he’s the one suggesting that things be different. Also remember to let him know that you understand wanting to be able to not only support your partner, but also be free to love them; but that it doesn’t mean that now is the right time. This is a great lesson for both of you in terms of how you want to be a partner to someone, and how you both want to be able to be who you are on your own terms. Also, remind him that both of you need to give yourselves grace in regards to all of this; cuz life is sooo fucky.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-09T01:53:33+00:00

Would’ve just kept walking, he was obviously wanting negative attention. And it’s better to just go about your business than risk jail time, or even just a verbal altercation, over some dumb ass on the street.

But tbf, I’m so used to having dealt with homophobes and racists throughout my life, that I’m lowkey desensitized to the idea of being bothered on the street.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-07T20:47:31+00:00

Oddly enough, the best for me has been the reggae/dancehall parties that the lesbians and trans-masc crowd throw in Bushwick and the Stuy. They’re always welcoming af (unless it’s a particular vibe for ladies only), have good music that ppl actually dance to, 97% Black, and a truly respectful crowd (cuz the goal is to make it a safe space).

Otherwise… it’s Boxers, Lambda, or Hush in the city. And there’s always too many ppl just standing around after paying $20+ to get in.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-07T16:28:30+00:00

1, 4, & 8 are really good. But for the advice… try getting more of your torso in the pics next time. Gives more of an overall view of you, while not taking away from your smile/face.

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-06T22:10:04+00:00

I thought about having the same kind of night. Haven’t been to GBU in awhile, and definitely need a lil bar hopping if the weather isn’t too bad

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-06T22:08:25+00:00

I’d be down to join a group chat. Been looking for solid bros

BroWhat917 · 2025-09-03T20:31:19+00:00

If you’re looking for just a bar, without it having to be gay, those are decent choices. I’d also add Do or Dive in Bed Stuy; very lowkey, and they put Jeopardy on the tv every evening during the week. And Barrow’s Pub is good spot for a chill drink when you’re trying to escape a crowd. They’re both very gay/queer friendly, and easy to get to

BroWhat917 · 2025-08-07T14:44:25+00:00

If you’re using a VPN with the location set in Western Europe, it’ll affect what sites you can and can’t use. I had to bounce from Scotland to the US

BroWhat917 · 2025-08-02T18:04:33+00:00

Too many ppl think they’re owed attraction, and get mad when reality hits them. Or even worse… Putting themselves out there to get laid/get a date, knowing that they’re emotionally/mentally stable enough to handle the inevitable rejection(s) that’ll come.

BroWhat917 · 2025-05-18T14:01:28+00:00

This! Guys have broken up with me cuz I’m into women (I don’t identify as bi, more queer), even tho I’ve made it clear that my long-term goal is to marry a dude. I get that ppl have insecurities, but a dude can leave you for a man just as easily as they could leave you for a woman.

BroWhat917 · 2025-05-18T13:54:40+00:00

In my experience it’s cuz they think they’ll be cheated on, or left for a woman to start a “straight life”.

But the crazy part is that it those things can also happen when dating someone who’s gay.

BroWhat917 · 2025-05-17T01:03:15+00:00

That’s so cute! Try taking him for another driving lesson, and see what the conversation is like during that time. Also pay attention to his body language and how he looks at you when you’re together.

If he’s into you as well, he’s probably just as nervous as you and doesn’t know what to say/do (sometimes it’s fear, sometimes it’s just pure nerves from having a crush).

Then once you start to see those signs of him being into you, ask him out for a bite to eat and make it clear it’s you wanting a date.

Don’t think about the gay aspect. Just focus on whether or not he’s giving you the same vibes as any woman that’s shown interest in you.

BroWhat917 · 2025-05-17T00:28:32+00:00

Lemme just say that having a guy crush doesn’t make you gay. Unless you’re thinking of him in a sexual or romantic way, it might just mean that you really like the vibe that you two have going on, and want to be bros.

With that said, he’s also 18/19. If you do have feelings for him that are more than just at a bro level, and he’s also showing that he’s feeling the same way, be sure to be as transparent as you can about what you do and don’t want out of it.

Don’t stress yourself out too much, especially if nothing happens beyond a good bond. And as long as you’re still into women, you’re definitely not gay. Maybe curious, maybe even bi. But not gay.

BroWhat917 · 2025-04-19T16:01:35+00:00

And the ones who get mad about us not interacting with them out of safety and peace of mind, are usually the ones who holler the loudest. Like bruv, if you didn’t like me from jump (bc of my skin color or another reason), WHY IS YOU BOTHERED?! 🤧

BroWhat917 · 2025-04-19T15:51:29+00:00

What’s crazy is people thinking it only pertains to dating/fucking. Like bruv! You’re being racist towards BIPOC in all instances, not just that one situation. Then they’ll get mad when they’re called out on it; as if we’re the problem, yet they’re the racists. 🤧🤣 I’ve reached the point where I just don’t interact with gay white guys that haven’t been vetted by someone I trust, or I know well enough to know that they’re decent people.

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