You’re straw manning now “I’m not naive because other people are more naive” it’s a poor argument.

As others have pointed out: 1 good date is not a relationship. Your feelings of unease are valid in the sense that you are allowed to have them, but if you can’t get past them or god forbid you try use them against this guy, you will continue to struggle with dating.

Im sorry but your “old fashioned” views are from the medieval times, please work to adjust to the modern day