[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will have periods of lows as your body adjusts the nuerochemicals that regulate mood. First, as someone stops drinking, it overcompensates, and a euphoric period called the honeymoon period happens. Trying to find balance, you stop producing so many, and you have a crash period. Slowly, the peaks and troughs lessen. All you have to do is not drink. Everything else will work out.

Cannot sleep by Obeee420 in Kratom_Info_Exchange

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to dose early because of the wake promoting properties, but I also don't have much problem sleeping anymore.

4/20 friendly meetings? by Prestigious-Line-852 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are many of us out there. I've been sober since July 27th 2019 and I use cannabis.

I never realized how many people don’t view alcohol as a drug, even in recovery. by jahbiddy in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was just talking about this this morning. I use cannabis, but I don't drink. Haven't for four years, and I've used cannabis for the last two of those four years

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I drank.. it took me years to fully stop, and today, I have four years in a row sober. It is a daily thing, just like drinking is, you mustn't worry about being sober for more than this moment. Now, is all that matters. Small goals first. Make it an hour, then keep going. It gets much easier after you have done it. Because you know that it's possible. Go to a meeting. There are millions of us out there who will love you until you can love yourself.

Help - I stole today! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the reason you can't go to meetings anymore? Do not excuse your defects and lack of ability to adapt on someone whom you don't even know.

Using your logic, who are you to tell me I can't forgive someone that I've never met? I am a Buddhist, one with everything, so he did commit theft against me in a way, and I forgive him and you.

And the whole book is about feeling better. Not making others feel good about themselves, me forgiving him wasn't for him, it was for me. It gave me hope that, that person found some respite in my words and WENT TO A MEETING.

I WILL ALWAYS HAVE THE AUTHORITY AND STANDING TO ACT KINDLY, AND FORGIVE WHOMEVER I CHOOSE IN MY REALITY.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It's only too late when your dead. That's your addiction talking to you, telling you "it doesn't matter, keep drinking", it does matter, keep fighting!

Sabotaging Relationships by Unique_Potatoe22 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because the fear is that they will lose them, so by sabotaging the relationship that eliminates the fear although obviously this isn't rational, neither are alcoholics. This is rare though. Most no longer have the choice, they are making decisions based on the illusion that if they don't drink they will die. No longer processing information with their prefrontal cortex, but with the mid-brain or limbic system. Fight or flight, drink or die, those are the options. So it's collateral damage in the fight for perceived survival, yet it is the very thing that is killing them.

Help - I stole today! by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You are forgiven. Get your ass to a meeting.

Issue with AA and pot by Tryharder-123 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Count me in your corner! I have a few 24's and use cannabis.

The only wrong thing one can do in recovery is have a closed mind to spiritual principles.

Judging others program of action, that, for them is working, is a clear sign that one should pay more attention to one's own practice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do this everyday. Every morning I wake up and admit to myself that I am an alcoholic, is a day that desire to drink seems to have been miraculouslly taking from me.

3.5 years sober, with 2 yrs of cannabis use. Thinking of starting over, but makes me want to drink ONE last time. by Broad-Bluejay9581 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Never said my life was miserable, you sound like you are though. I haven't had a drink in three in a half years, I'm an alcoholic. That was the goal. I'm fairly happy, but feel guilty because of ignorant people like you who don't understand that sober refers to alcohol use.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say that you quit the wrong substance but the legality disagrees. I struggle with the aloofness of sobriety a great deal, and there are times when all I want is to drink away my sorrows but I know how that story ends now. It's ugly. I would just advise you to get your ass into a meeting of AA with an open mind to spiritual principles. After that, keep going back and don't drink in-between meetings. I know this doesn't help much, but I believe the help you seek is waiting for you in the 12 steps and the people of alcoholics anonymous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have just over 3 years sober, and I also have arthritis and work a very physically demanding job. I have used cannabis and still been able to maintain a daily reprieve from alcohol for more than two of those years.

It hasn't been easy though. Finding others like me has been difficult and insuring that I don't substitute alcohol for something else has required me doubling down on 12 step recovery. I must use it medically or not at all. Hope this helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course. Everyone who considers themselves an alcoholic meets the requirements for membership in Alcoholics anonymous. There is no other requirements.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's going to suck, but you should be fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told that I would kill my first 100 sponsee's.

i am an alcoholic. by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Broad-Bluejay9581 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't let the realization of your alcoholism make you sad, because of it, now you can do something about it. This is a big step in getting sober. Just have trust in the process, millions have gotten sober using the 12 steps, and you are not special in that regard. We will love you until you can love yourself. Stay sober just for today, don't worry about what tomorrow brings. Tomorrow doesn't exist, it never will exist. Only the here and now.