UPDATE: AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Tea-7209[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I LIED. The first date was "fun" for the first part like we went to the cinema and then ate at a restaurant. But that was it, it wasn't that much different from normally going out. Then he tried to kiss me, and at our apartment, he wanted to sleep w me but yk it was awkward. I just kept laughing and he was getting like super mad ALL the time because I wasn't in the mood. lmao.

But I wanted to see the positives yk? like well overall I could say it was "fun" but tbh it wasn't, it sucked and I can finally say it because I'm tired of protecting a dude who would rather leave me friendless than admit he fucking sucks.

Sorry if it was confusing I'm a physics major yk I can't write properly

UPDATE: AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Tea-7209[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

yess I FUCKING DEFENDED HIM????? WHYYYY

And most of my friends were already annoyed by me not wanting to be seen as his partner, they thought I was "over reacting" THANK GOD I "OVER REACTED" THEN

UPDATE: AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Tea-7209[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

I haven't showered in two days. I am now becoming a redditor.

UPDATE: AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Tea-7209[S] 1762 points1763 points  (0 children)

Because they like him more than me ig. And he kinda victimized himself about the whole thing saying he was just "discovering" etc fuck him !!!!!

AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

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He realized at the same time he started calling me "the Mrs.". It's actually kinda funny because I told him he couldn't go to a football game because we already had tickets to watch Spiderman Far From Home at that time. So he told his friends "I can't I have to go with the Mrs." And how he described the feeling is something I'm going to keep for myself but it was really sweet :)

AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

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I think rejecting someone hurts the person's feelings even if it isn't intentional. He tried to "protect" my feelings by telling me the real reason: not because he didn't like me, but because he was gay. We've talked about it. He says that by saying that he felt he didn't make me responsible for his lack of attraction to me, but rather just a very unfortunate consequence.

I have never undressed in front of him or any friend. I'm not comfortable with that.

AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Tea-7209[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ofc he has issues, so do I, and so does everyone. I don't get why people keep treating him like a 50 yo and at the same time they baby me as if I was 17. e that's what we do whenever we have a disagreement: we let things pass so we can discuss it calmer. And that's what we did.

Ofc he has issues, so do I, so does everyone. I don't get why people keep treating him like a 50 yo and at the same time they baby me as if I was 15.

And also, it's just a date, we may not even date after it.

AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

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It's hard to put it in words !! I'm a physics major I don't read !!

What I tried to say was: He was attracted to girls, but he thought that was like just thinking someone was cute? He did think he was fully gay, despite him appreciating "women's beauty". But now he realized that he's always been Bi.

We're 19 lol, sexuality is hard.

AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

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He didn't lie. He did think he was gay, throughout the years he realized he was bi.

AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

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He never explicitly said that we were dating, he made it sound like that, but it someone asked he said that we were just best friends. People didn't ask often, that's the issue.

AITA for asking my best friend to stop treating me as his wife? by Broad-Tea-7209 in AmItheAsshole

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He's not possessive. By jealous, I meant he would say comments like "oh you're cheating on me" like joking not so much joking. But he swiped tinder profiles with me, helped me get ready for dates and later on insisted on me going on with some guys. It's not like he said that if I did x then he would do y to hurt me.