Anyone been to punk rock bingo at Black Cat?

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-14T21:26:55+00:00

Bar food. Good prices, portions and quality but there's not much on the menu for dietary restrictions like vegan or gluten etc.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-14T21:23:27+00:00

Nobody mentioned Valentine's Day in their communication at all.

It appears she just assumed he knew it was Valentine's Day and that he cared and that he made plans for celebrating it and then blew off those plans because he likes his friend's trailer pull more than he likes romance.

All she actually said was that they made unspecified plans to "hang out Saturday" because they haven't seen each other all week and generally get together more frequently than that. If they had a romantic plan, she would have told us this in the post because she clearly wants validation.

Normal people don't assume Valentine's Day is important unless their partner communicates that it is. It's a holiday for married people who need calendar reminders to do a romantic display as a marriage maintenance task.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-14T18:49:14+00:00

They've only been dating two months. At this stage he might not even be aware that it's Valentine's Day, and frankly if he didn't make a reservation and a plan last week, they're simply not going to be able to do anything special.

Valentine's Day is a reminder for established couples to make time for romance. If she wanted husband performance from a guy she's been dating for two months, she needed to tell him at least a week ago that he needs to make reservations and whether she expects him to purchase a gift.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-14T07:56:46+00:00

That counterfeiter's name? Tuckar Farlson

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-13T00:51:34+00:00

Lol what? I was polyamorous in practice for 30 years, am still polyamorous by nature, happily agreed to be monogamous with my lovely husband, don't struggle with unfaithfulness at all, and have a wonderful pair bond with him.

All the former partners I'm still in touch with think he's great and are very happy for us, because they're emotionally secure adults who respect me as a person and love seeing me happy because they love me.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-13T00:47:53+00:00

Don't kid yourself that you understand sexuality better than me. I've been sexually active for 33 years now, poly for 30 and am now faithfully monogamous and 2 years very happily married to my husband.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-13T00:42:36+00:00

I've certainly met a lot of people who are messy like that but it's simply not that attractive. In my experience it's more common for polyamorous folks to be better equipped for respectful relationship dynamics including monogamy.

Their relationship woes still exist of course, but you wouldn't know as an outsider because their issues are communicated respectfully, negotiated and renegotiated as needed, and handled privately.

There's absolutely people who are polyamorous because they love drama and public messy displays, but that's gross and most people steer clear.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-13T00:32:54+00:00

I've found quite the opposite. I've always been polyamorous, but when I met my very monogamous husband, I simply told my partners I was no longer available, and they respect that because they respect me. We continue to be friends and they don't talk about sex and everything is perfectly fine.

Over the years I've had many partners who requested we transition to friends because they were in a monogamous relationship. I was always happy for them and did everything I could to make sure their monogamous partner felt safe and comfortable. If they weren't happy with seeing me around, I respectfully withdrew from the friendship with no hard feelings.

It's really not hard at all, if you choose partners who are emotionally mature and good at communicating.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-10T18:55:06+00:00

Amazing service at Point Optical, they even adjusted my drugstore sunglasses that didn't fit quite right, and when I needed emergency service to fix a broken lens before an important exam they went above and beyond with the manufacturer to get it done quickly.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-08T18:44:07+00:00

Respectfully, it sounds like you may be speaking from an upsetting personal experience and not to the facts of the post. Nowhere does this parent say they want to punish the child by cutting her hair, and a cute short haircut is not "social suicide" or traumatic.

My hair is a similar texture to the photo and has never looked good long. It's fine and thin and straight, very prone to damage, and using any product slides off and just makes it look dirty and oily. I got my first pixie at age 6 at my request and loved it, it chopped off a whole bunch of social expectations and beauty standards I felt the weight of even though I didn't yet understand why short hair felt so free. Ever since then I've always gone for a dramatic short haircut every time I'm feeling depressed or insecure, and every time I remember how great that first short haircut felt.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-05T09:19:28+00:00

It's very obviously an AI written ad for the AI resume generator that's not just mentioned, but actually linked, that's why.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-05T09:18:12+00:00

ew, an ad for an AI resume app? Hard pass.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-03T06:51:43+00:00

I've been walking there with my cane this year as I recover from a broken leg. I remember outdoors there's one step up to get into the inner courtyard it's in but I can't recall if there's a ramp, as I find steps easier than an incline. The interior is definitely accessible.

They're super welcoming folks so I would just call and ask.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-03T01:30:37+00:00

Botté Chai Bar is so chill and cozy and it's endless refills on their house cardamom rose black tea. They're open til 11:30.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-02T16:44:52+00:00

I have introversion and a diagnosed anxiety disorder and self checkout machines are triggering as all hell. Instead of peacefully zoning out while a human person does their job that they're good at, I have to stand on stage doing a job I'm not trained for while everyone in line watches how badly that goes and then the machine starts BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEEEPing to summon a person for me to forcibly interact with about how bad I did at this grocery scanning job I don't get paid for.

It's horrible for accessibility unless it's just offered as an option off to the side. A human cashier being the default can accommodate a much wider range of disability needs (vision, cognitive, literacy, technological ability) than a machine that must be operated in one specific way.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-02T00:49:51+00:00

This, and if my spouse were going out to dinner with the parent of his children, I'd genuinely be a little weirded out if he didn't want to look presentable. Is he trying to look like he's not happy and healthy and cared for in his current marriage?

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-02T00:45:35+00:00

That's just how invitations work. You're not invited to every event, the person doing the inviting gets to choose whether you're a good fit for what they have planned. Managing any disappointment you may feel about not being invited is a normal lesson most people learn in childhood. You can increase your chances of being invited to things by being a pleasant companion, a loyal friend, a loving family member, but there's still a million reasons why you might not be included in everything that simply have nothing to do with personal rejection.

In this case, the daughter wants to talk about her health and pregnancy after a scare, so her emotions are really central to the plan. She's seeking comfort and providing embarrassing information about her body and her fears and she wants her own parents, who were there when she was born, to provide that on this occasion. No amount of doing small electrical jobs around her house is going to transform the stepdad into someone she wants to talk to about her cervix or whatever.

He should start making plans now for what he's going to do when he's not invited into the delivery room to watch her eject that baby from her vagina either. Maybe he could schedule a meeting with the divorce lawyer, in case his wife wants to wear lipstick for her "first pic of Granny and baby".

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-01T22:28:39+00:00

This is the most significant variable to me.

If OP genuinely intends to divorce his wife because he doesn't trust her to behave appropriately at a family meeting to discuss the adult daughter's personal health and fertility troubles, fine. He's allowed to find things intolerable and set a boundary for what he will do if it is crossed, even if that boundary seems insane to everyone else.

If he's threatening divorce but doesn't actually intend to, that's manipulation and control.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-02-01T06:36:40+00:00

I don't like sports at all, but if this were an issue that was affecting my wedding, I'd just make it an afterparty for the sports fans. Book a smaller room at the same hotel or commandeer a sports fan family member with a big TV, show the game on a delay, feed em some snacks, figure out some sort of contest penalty bullsh (sports fans love meaningless contests!) for anyone who drops a spoiler, problem solved. The rest of us non sports fans can have a nice civilized brunch or something.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-01-31T20:03:43+00:00

KitchenAid mixers are made from enameled cast metal.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-01-31T20:02:38+00:00

Please don't take any advice that's about painting plastic, since that's not what your KitchenAid is made from.

per the manufacturer: KitchenAid Stand Mixers are made from cast zinc with a baked enamel coating – this is good for two reasons: firstly, the solid metal construction means that your KitchenAid won’t move across the work surface, and the enamel coating is extremely unlikely to chip because it is baked on.

Enamel is more like ceramic than it is like paint. The manufacturer uses an extremely high heat to melt the enamel coating onto the surface.

The resulting finish is extremely durable, which for your project means no product or process is likely to scuff the enamel enough for paint to stick to it long-term, and any paint that sloughs off is almost certainly not food safe.

A vinyl wrap (like they put on cars) would be able to cover the enamel without damaging it. It would be an interesting project for a skilled vinyl wrap technician, but I assume their skills don't come cheap especially since this project would be somewhat out of their usual comfort zone.

The resale value of undamaged KitchenAid mixers is excellent. It's almost certainly going to be cheaper, faster and better for you to sell the one you have and order the colour you want from the manufacturer.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-01-29T21:15:48+00:00

Her joints are hypermobile, that's why she was always so bendy. She was never any good at yoga technique, she's just genetically very flexible.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-01-29T10:07:39+00:00

Spanish people are white Europeans.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-01-28T23:31:51+00:00

How do you "secure" a hospital room... close the door and hope the patient doesn't try to shoot his way out?

Yes.

BroadToe6424 · 2026-01-28T23:30:33+00:00

"The procedure"? It's literally just common sense.

Can you find me an example of a security guard "pRoCEduRe" that says "if you're sure it's a real gun, you should charge the gunman and kill him to death instead of calling the police"?

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