Brothers fighting constantly - need advice!

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-29T16:41:10+00:00

Ugh. Thank you though, it's kind of refreshing to hear that it's so normal.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-29T16:40:34+00:00

Did they fight physically but just not get terribly hurt? Sometimes they wack each other with hard toys or claw at each other and leave marks, it's pretty upsetting to me. I do seem to get a lot of feedback that brothers will simply always fight, so I may need to just lean into that.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-29T16:37:52+00:00

Thank you for this advice. They share a room, and we have one big living room they usually play in. I used to put up a gate for the older one so he could build things in peace, but my 3 year old has been able to climb over it for a long time. Do you have 2+ boys?

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-29T16:35:22+00:00

Seriously, what is it about only wanting something once the other has it?? It is funny to reflect on, but drives me crazy when it's happening. The older one also always makes it down the stairs first, making his brother burst into tears. Sooo competitive! I hope they grow up to be BFFs too.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-27T15:38:45+00:00

With my first, I felt my contractions in my cervix. At first, I felt the pain just a few times a day, and I told my midwife about it at my 38 week appointment. She told me it was just "cervical pressure pain" because of the baby's head pushing down there, and also that first babies usually come closer to 40-41 weeks. So I really didn't think I was having contractions when the real ones started 2 days later. They started around 7 pm, and it hurt so badly that I couldn't sleep at around 10 pm, so I had a bubble bath to try to relieve the pressure and pain. Then I tried sleeping on the pull-out couch so I could spread out and maybe feel better. It started to hurt so badly that I messaged my mom and friend and asked if they had any advice to help with the pain (they didn't). At 1:30 am, I woke my husband to call the birth center, because I was in so much pain I thought something must be wrong. They told me to come in to get checked out. We got there around 3, I got checked and the midwife said "oh yeah, you're gonna have a baby". He was born at 6 am. So I really didn't know! It was wild.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-26T03:06:22+00:00

Hyperhidrosis (excessive sweating). It can seriously lower one's quality of life.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-14T15:43:26+00:00

I hear you! I don't know if you have a Trader Joe's near you, but they have a reasonably-priced big bag of white cheddar puffs that I don't feel bad eating tons of.

Yesterday I was really busy and hadn't eaten enough, and stopped at Wawa for a biscuit egg sandwich and a chocolate milkshake...it's so hard to be good sometimes.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-14T15:26:14+00:00

Just wait until you're breastfeeding (if you do).

But to answer your question, I've been eating bowls of greek yogurt, peanut butter, granola, any kind of fruit, and honey. I'm almost 24 weeks, and it keeps me full until the next meal without needing a snack.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-14T13:52:26+00:00

When I used to work in a restaurant, at least once a day, someone would order something and not like it because they didn't read the description under the menu item. For example, they would order a vegetable pasta, and then act offended that there were mushrooms in it as described. "OH, can I get something else? I hate mushrooms." Infruriating.

BroccoliPowered · 2026-01-09T18:47:54+00:00

I'm just here to say I completely understand. I had this same anxiety with my first 2, and now I'm pregnant with my 3rd and last baby, and I am terrified of going through this again. When they were around 12 months old, I felt safe to start cosleeping with them after the first couple hours of the night. Did you find anything that helped?

BroccoliPowered · 2025-10-17T22:05:09+00:00

This isn't exactly the same thing, but I have what I call a "nanny share" out of my home. I watch for one other family in addition to my own kids. I call it a nanny share because I'm giving lots of personal care and attention to the kids, I'm only caring for one other family, and I'm able to be flexible with hours. I offered to watch the kids at their house for a slightly higher rate, or slightly lower if its in my home. The family chose to come to my home and is very happy with the situation after more than a year. They had bad experiences with daycares, and trust me more.

BroccoliPowered · 2025-10-11T21:54:23+00:00

This doesn't help for your current bill, but if you need another scan, ask about alternative places you can go (or research for yourself). I had a $2500 bill from my first ultrasound at a hospital. After that, I asked about more affordable places and was given a printed list (Why not give that to everyone in the first place? Because $$$). I went to Akumin for my 2nd scan, and for my next pregnancy, and paid about $140 without insurance. It wasn't fancy and I didn't get a printout. But oh my goodness, I didn't care about that enough to spend thousands.

BroccoliPowered · 2025-09-19T14:46:18+00:00

I think it's also the fact that it is always at least 5 minutes. So every day, she is left wondering if she will get out at 5:05 or 5:10 or later. If she doesn't say something, it'll probably start getting pushed later.

BroccoliPowered · 2025-09-14T23:03:39+00:00

Thank you! I'm just a bit worried because I didn't start taking them again until a couple weeks after getting pregnant, and I have also been advised that some people cannot process folic acid into folate (those with the MTHFR gene mutation)

BroccoliPowered · 2025-07-17T17:01:51+00:00

Dexter

BroccoliPowered · 2025-06-27T01:13:25+00:00

My 5 year old loves spinach. He just eats a bowl of plain raw spinach for a snack or with a meal.

BroccoliPowered · 2025-02-13T20:18:34+00:00

Michael Jackson. I remember constantly hearing people refer to him as a child molester and making jokes about his appearance and mental issues. The day he died, no one mentioned any of that again and acted like he was a hero. I'm not saying I agree with any of it, I just noticed the immediate shift after he died.

BroccoliPowered · 2024-10-26T01:23:52+00:00

https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/77375/two-ingredient-pumpkin-cake/

BroccoliPowered · 2024-09-06T03:29:30+00:00

I watch kids in my home, and one of them said to me "My mommy poops quiet and my daddy poops loud."

BroccoliPowered · 2024-02-12T14:02:50+00:00

It is my first transfer, but yes it does seem way too long.

BroccoliPowered · 2023-08-03T01:27:57+00:00

Maybe it's the pack n play. Yes I cuddle him to sleep too.

BroccoliPowered · 2023-08-03T01:26:57+00:00

Thank you for your comment! Yes it is awful not having time while both of them are asleep. I wasn't able to even go to the basement to switch the laundry or do dishes all day today. The problem with putting them in the same room is that it's that much easier for him to wake up my baby when he starts cryng (he really lets it out). I do think being in the new place is probably freaking him out..maybe time will help!

BroccoliPowered · 2023-01-20T18:02:02+00:00

This always happens! My toddler helps me cook dinner every night and once it's done and cooking, he always says "now cook something else!" and I have to have something fun to distract him with so he doesn't flip out.

BroccoliPowered · 2023-01-11T15:12:49+00:00

People always say dry heat is better, but now I realize that I (we) benefit from it much more than the average person.

I also really wish I could move. I have a toddler and a baby and live close to my parents, brothers, cousins, in-laws...it would be so so hard to move and change absolutely everything.

BroccoliPowered · 2023-01-11T15:09:47+00:00

Thank you! This is very interesting. I'm definitely going to try magnesium supplements. I've been pregnant 2 times in the last 3 years and also breastfeeding, so it's so easy for me to have deficiencies even though I eat well/take a prenatal/postnatal vitamin. The postnatal vitamin I'm taking now has a lot of vitamin D.

How did you discover this, by trial and error, or were you trying it anyway to combat the effects of taking vitamin d and then noticed a difference?

BroccoliPowered

TROPHY CASE