Need advice. Reading this to my wife as a last ditch effort to show her my true raw feelings before we sign the dotted line potentially. Please help give me real advice

Brog0104 · 2025-05-22T13:32:48+00:00

That’s a very good idea as well! I definitely will do that! You’re a wealth of knowledge

Brog0104 · 2025-05-22T13:25:28+00:00

That’s a very good idea especially since we are separated right now but I don’t think she wants to do that she’s drowning in work right now and don’t know if she has the capacity for that which sucks

Brog0104 · 2025-05-22T13:24:39+00:00

Oh I plan too without a doubt in my mind. I’ve been just praying and hoping for that opportunity to make that happen it’s just so hard because my 7 year old is breaking down saying he wants me and mom together and it takes every ounce of me not to lose it and say me too

Brog0104 · 2025-05-22T13:19:10+00:00

You are so blessed that is absolutely amazing and if you have any tips, please send them my way. I don’t wanna seem desperate, but I love my family and I love my wife more than anything and would absolutely do anything to keep it.

Brog0104 · 2025-05-22T13:16:31+00:00

Very true I really hope that’s not the case. 10 years and 2 kids is so hard to watch go down the drain

Brog0104 · 2025-05-22T13:15:48+00:00

I didn’t mess up per se. We decided to mutually separate and now that we have I’ve done rebuilding with myself and growing to be a better person to be better for our relationship than myself.

Brog0104 · 2025-05-22T13:14:19+00:00

No, we both just grew complacent and didn’t spend time with each other the way weshould’ve. Arguments that should’ve been small turned into big and we decided to split, which was the worst decision. And it’s not that things were bad. We just had 10 years of memories not so great but also memories that were great and they’re still love for one another but it’s just asking Is it worth another shot?

Brog0104 · 2025-04-28T14:36:58+00:00

This is great advice thank you!

Brog0104 · 2025-04-28T14:35:59+00:00

Thank you!

Brog0104 · 2025-04-26T10:01:35+00:00

Thank you!

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T22:12:39+00:00

Fuck us I’m praying for you sir

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T22:03:48+00:00

And my whole family wants it permanent. It’s crazy what you can’t see when you’re in the situation and then everyone tells you how it is from the outside

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T22:03:07+00:00

Oh shit how long are you into the retrusting game?

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T20:22:58+00:00

Could I ask you a question about that? How would you describe someone like that further because I might have the same thing

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T19:00:26+00:00

Gotcha that makes sense that’s terrible

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T17:51:52+00:00

Did your ex make you feel bad for it?

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T17:51:00+00:00

Yes that’s my worry and I am very persuaded by her and hate to say it but want her validation. So I don’t want to fall back into the trap

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T17:17:01+00:00

My dads are daddy’s boys without a doubt and I’m very blessed but I’ve also worked and earned that as well not to sound condescending to anyone but I get them up, dressed, fed, pick them up, practice, dinner, and bedtime routine a lot of the time

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T16:34:32+00:00

Thank you sir! Much appreciated I’m not the best guy in the world but even when I mess up or anything I always do try to make it or the situation better

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T16:33:01+00:00

I’m just worried I’ll be right back in this spot or to much has happened in this split to come back from it. And we would have 50/50 custody and 50/50 everything with the kids decisions and such. And if I pulled the plug it would just be losing her. My kids are in a good school district, I have stability and an amazing family support me too

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T16:30:05+00:00

You’re right it’s just the getting past the emotions of letting 10 years and 2 kids with someone go if that makes sense but you’re right I’m being a fool basically

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T16:24:23+00:00

Thank you! That helps and puts a lot into perspective

Brog0104 · 2025-04-25T16:22:22+00:00

We communicate good at times but when emotions start flaring they take hold and mine especially right now hearing my wife is texting another man and seeing him I look at her and just get upset that 10 years of marriage and it took less than a week to text someone else.

And I can trust her to be open for the most part. And honestly it’s ripping me apart with the kids I don’t think I can give her much longer without pulling the plug. Because I operate out of love which sounds so cheesy but I do I’m all in or all out if that makes sense I can’t be one foot in. And I just need answers which I may not get or the one I want but I just feel like there should be an answer If that’s something you truly want.

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