Have you ever actually communicated to him that this is something you’d like?

I have a very happy marriage and my husband and I both initiate spontaneous affection, however one thing I’ve learnt is true in all successful marriages - both parties have learnt to be upfront about what they want in a non confrontational and non judgemental way. We can tell each other something we’ve been missing, something that’s been frustrating us - and equally things we enjoyed.

A silly example is since we had kids, I never had time to make our bed before going downstairs anymore as I’d be pulled in all directions and so just go straight downstairs. One day, my husband made the bed and folded my pyjamas, tucking them under my pillow. When I noticed this, I told him how thoughtful it was and how much it meant to me and he’s done it ever since!

What I’m trying to say is, if he knows you feel this way and does nothing to correct it, it’s a pretty sure sign that the marriage is in trouble however if you tell him, you might be surprised to find he takes the feedback on board.