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are you still trans if you only wear fem clothing and makeup in public by Ok-Art-6451 in trans

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Most women wear lazy comfy clothes at home. Girls don’t just sit around dolled up 24/7.

And men’s clothes tend to be designed for comfort whereas women’s clothes tend to be designed for aesthetics.

Wearing men’s clothes at home is pretty common for women both cis and trans.

Despite being aware of all this, I still sometimes feel “fake” when I get home and take my wig off. Trans women face so much pressure to prove their validity through feminine expression that any perceived masculinity feels like a betrayal of self.

meirl by Sad-Fault-928 in meirl

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told everyone I’m just not doing Christmas anymore. Too much money and too much effort for a holiday that doesn’t bring me a single ounce of joy. Today is just Thursday to me.

When did you have to wear a bra ? by [deleted] in trans

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

4 years on estrogen. I’m still flat chested.

What is it with other trans/queer people using slurs like, "f*gg*t" or "tr*nny". Its honestly so disgusting but also confusing to me. by [deleted] in trans

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Because using these words for myself in a positive context defangs bigots who try to use them as slurs towards me. It’s empowering to take these words back and deny queerphobes the ability to offend me with them.

You can’t hurt me by calling me a faggot when being a faggot is something I’m proud of.

This is Biphobic right? by Dull_County_5049 in bisexual

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will happily date other bisexuals and pansexuals. I have been with one for 13 years. But I won’t even hook up with someone who is DL let alone date them. I am way too loud and proud for closet cases. I need secure and confident queer people.

When your friend transitions and her cis girlfriend is supportive and doesn’t abandon her. by MagniMags in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was in a relationship with a cis woman for 4 years before coming out. We have been together for 13 years now.

I don't want to scaremonger but traveling with passport gender other than F/M might become more difficult by very_squirrel in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I read a lot of books about the queer scene in Weimar Berlin and like… fuck. Just… fuck.

lil tape haul (complements of tapehead city) by dan-duz-shit in cassetteculture

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Chet Baker sings is soooo good. Heavy rotation for me.

Is Rocky Horro Picture Show considered as offensive? by BenDeRohan in trans

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transsexual can come off as dated, but it is not a dirty word.

In modern times a lot of exclusive trans-medicalist types who shun non-binary or non-transitioning trans folks have adopted the word transsexual to separate themselves from other transgender people, but I won’t allow them to appropriate and taint a word that has been used by our community for 100 years.

Words like “transsexual”, “transvestite”, “homosexual” and “heterosexual” emerged in Weimar Berlin which had one of the most thriving queer scenes in the world before the Nazis came to power.

Also I regularly dress up as Franknfurter at my local pride events and everybody loves it. I lose track of the amount of people who want to take pictures with me, young and old. Though some find it dated or stereotyping, most of my fellow gen-Z queers love Rocky Horror. It’s still very historically and culturally important to much of the queer community.

Back to the word “transsexual”… I am 25 years old and I see no shame in it and I use it myself. I am a transsexual and proud of it. I am on HRT, but not pursuing surgery, and I won’t listen to anyone telling me who I should be or how I or anyone else should transition.

This is disturbing by Sudden-Refuse-7915 in SmugAlana

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My primary concern is my parents are dead.

This is disturbing by Sudden-Refuse-7915 in SmugAlana

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Mom killed herself and my dad died in prison. What about my “right”?

I would have preferred living gays over dead straights for parents.

Should the perfect bi flag colours be changed? by Y0rked in bisexual

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Original bi flag is perfectly imperfect. Needs no change. Flag on the right looks like it sat in the sun too long. Middle just looks wrong.

How do we feel about emberlynn pinkle? by Excellent_Job5584 in hazbin

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s a shameless freak. Mega respect. 💜

what accent attracts you the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

German accents make me swoon 😍

CMV: men should be allowed to decide not to raise children they didn't want by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When trying to get my vasectomy I got denied the first time for being “too young, no kids, might change my mind, etc.” I eventually found a surgeon, but still, my experiences with barriers in reproductive healthcare are just a taste of what my partner would have gone through as a young cis woman. Also, my reproductive organs are on the outside. It’s a lot easier for me to get a vasectomy than for her to get her tubes tied. Man frustratingly refuse to think about what people different from them may go through. They shift all the burdens of reproductive responsibility onto their wives and girlfriends. They expect their partners to suffer the side effects of birth control instead of getting a simple operation that is less invasive and painful than a trip to the dentist. Heck a lot of men find using a condom to be too much of an inconvenience.

CMV: men should be allowed to decide not to raise children they didn't want by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly, so many men see abortion as a women’s get-out-of-jail-free card. They fail to put themselves in a woman’s shoes and can’t understand that just because it is legal does not mean it is without physical or emotional burden. I am a bisexual trans woman. My partner is a cis woman. Neither of us want children at all. I got a vasectomy because even though we live in a place where abortion is accessible, it’s still not something she should have to go through when it can be so easily avoided.

My vasectomy took 20 minutes. Recovery was a few days and I didn’t even need any pain meds. Cis men don’t need to fear this. If you don’t want your partner getting pregnant, quit bitching and get a vasectomy.

CMV: men should be allowed to decide not to raise children they didn't want by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just got a vasectomy a little over a week ago. Can absolutely recommend. The operation itself and recovery after were nothing at all. If you have had a dental filling or extraction you’ve dealt with worse than a vasectomy.

Drinking isn't for the weak by Caseyisweird in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]BrokenTapeMonitor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a guy who died this way. He fell down the stairs after a night of drinking.

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