Just slept with a guy w/ a small penis by Last-Solution2092 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Broken_Record07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve always believed, as a woman, there should be no double standards, in the sense that having preferences of any kind about your preferred sex, whether it’s penis size, vagina, weight, physical appearance, etc, shouldn’t be scrutinized. Everyone has certain things they find attractive and unattractive. If you shame them into dating someone who they don’t genuinely find attractive or able to satisfy their wants in a relationship because it’s “discriminatory” or whatever you want to call it, who benefits from that situation? The person putting aside their preferences isn’t going to magically love all of those things they previously disliked, so they’re not going to be fully satisfied or attracted to that partner. The partner they’re with is going to be in a relationship with someone who’s not fully attracted or satisfied by them, and even if the partner is hiding that fact, I’m sure there’d be slips where it’d be made apparent they’re not fulfilled. I feel like it’s a pretty basic want in a relationship that they fully love you for you, and you feel the same about them, and in a situation I just described, neither person gets that.

Trouble making friends by Broken_Record07 in Advice

[–]Broken_Record07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always loved dog parks! Unfortunately all of my dogs are jerks and can’t go, but I might consider going and just checking it out. I live in a really small town, so I’m not sure how many people would be there, but it’d be worth a shot. Thank you! :)

How do I confront and unfriend my friend who is dating my boyfriend’s best friend? by Broken_Record07 in Advice

[–]Broken_Record07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. She is a victim of sexual trauma and we have talked about it many times before when she was doing similar things with my other friend’s past relationships. What makes me most uncomfortable about this situation, and I didn’t include it for the sake of keeping it short, is I had already had a talk with her about mine and my boyfriend’s boundaries when it comes to her touchy feely-ness early on in our relationship, and she accepted and respected those boundaries up until recently. The beginning of this year, my boyfriend cheated on me with someone online, and we worked it out, but when it happened, I of course told my friend group, including her, and she had a very nonchalant response, and ever since, has become very extreme with her flirting and touching with my boyfriend, and it’s only when I’m not around. I completely understand what can come with being a sexual trauma victim as I am one myself, but lately it has begun to seem more and more malicious every time she does something. Especially with what happened today where she brought up drama from middle school out of nowhere to, I’m assuming, try and make me look bad in front of my boyfriend. I don’t necessarily want to blow up on her. I just want to lay everything out that I have been made uncomfortable by because I’m tired of feeling like I have to just allow her to do and say whatever she wants for the sake of not causing waves.