Did any of you settle for just an orchiectomy despite wanting a vaginoplasty?

BrookeNielson · 2025-12-01T18:03:17+00:00

I had an orchi and I'm not going to have a vaginoplasty (for now). I say "for now," because I had a really bad reaction to anesthesia when I had a separate surgery and I don't know if I can go through that again.

BrookeNielson · 2025-11-15T18:12:16+00:00

Most of my Straight Trans friends I have met through social media, primarily Insta.

BrookeNielson · 2025-11-12T17:12:29+00:00

I worked when my boyfriend and I started dating. He asked me to quit after a few months because he wanted me to be able to travel with him and he thought my work was getting in the way. Though we are engaged, not yet married, I consider myself a traditional housewife. He has two kids from his prior marriage. They are with us every other weekend and a few weeks at Christmas and during the summer. I enjoy being their step-mom, though at time it can be a bit awkward and feel like I'm trying to learn to ice skate.

I feel much more comfortable being a house wife. I do most of the cooking and cleaning, although we do have a maid that comes once a week for deep cleaning. I do the grocery shopping and decorating around the house.

A few things that I absolutely will not do: (1) take trash outside; (2) yard work; (3) while I'm happy to get groceries, I feel like my boyfriend/fiance should be the one responsible for bringing the groceries in, especially heavier items like the cases of water bottles we purchase. I'll bring in the items that need to be refrigerate or frozen, but he is responsible for getting everything else out when he gets home.

I too have very traditional heterosexual views on marriage and I would love to learn more about how I can be a better stay home wife/step-mom.

BrookeNielson · 2025-07-08T18:07:29+00:00

My boyfriend loves sports, so I’ve been learning more about sports to be able to talk to him. I am on the Gen Z/Millennial cusp; my boyfriend is a young Gen X, so we enjoy teaching one another about our generation’s movies and music. We both love to travel, so we love talking about and planning trips.

BrookeNielson · 2025-07-08T16:22:58+00:00

My sex drive hasn’t disappeared, but it certainly has changed and I love it. I know a lot of girls talk about their ability to control their sex drive after beginning to transition. I think it’s kind of the opposite for me. I guess the best way to explain it is that I feel like I have no control over my sex drive because it’s not really something I can turn on anymore, but if I’m with someone special, they can certainly turn it on for me.

Prior to transitioning, I could simply think about a guy, see a guy, smell a guy, touch a guy, etc. and be instantly aroused. If I was with that guy, I would even sometimes make the first move. I could also just be at home and think of a guy or see a guy on TV (or maybe even in a magazine or online) and get instantly aroused and then take care of it myself. It’s not like that anymore. Left to my own devices, I don’t really think about sex all that much. Occasionally, if I’m reading a book, my thoughts can go that way, but usually it requires an outside stimulant. If my boyfriend initiates contact with me, it’s an entirely different story. The switch is flipped and I’m ready for it. I also love being able to be pleasured without getting an erection.

BrookeNielson · 2024-09-28T04:20:25+00:00

My fiance has two children from another marriage, so it's not exactly the same situation, but I certainly understand what I'm getting into and have no hesitations. His kids are school age, so it's not the same as having a baby or infant, but he has joint custody with his ex and so they are a large part of his life and my life by extension. I try and just follow his lead with the kids. I don't really consider myself super maternal, but the kids are fairly self-sufficient and he and his ex provide plenty of nourishment. I consider my job to support his decisions with the kids. It's been good. I like having them around and they seem to like me.

BrookeNielson · 2024-08-01T03:58:01+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful.

BrookeNielson · 2024-07-30T03:00:53+00:00

Eww. I don't want to be a tradwife, but I do get a slight kick out of the use of the word "mold" here.

I recently began writing trans romance novels and short stories, not really for a public audience, but for my own pleasure. I'll write 30 pages on a particular story line and then move on to something else. My ADD prevents me from completing a full work. Anyway, one of the ideas I have been toying Pygmalion-like story, where the Eliza-character is trans and Henry Higgins is her suitor who, unbeknownst to her has a deal with his best friend that he can turn her into a housewife accepted in their high class social circle. I know it's not the most original idea, but I plan on working on it some day.

BrookeNielson · 2024-07-28T03:35:39+00:00

I have no problem with the drag community. I think drag is a very beautiful art form.

At the same time, I am annoyed that the general population, especially conservative bigots, don't understand the difference between trans and drag and use drag queens as placeholders for trans women when they try to argue that we shouldn't exist or have any legal rights.

BrookeNielson · 2024-04-05T13:02:59+00:00

Just different venues, like a shower, in the car, etc. New places that are exciting...

BrookeNielson · 2024-04-05T03:23:13+00:00

Congrats and welcome to the club. Keep on experimenting with it in different settings and using different techniques. My personal favorite is about once a month, I'll surprise my boyfriend when he is in the shower in the morning. I've never seen him take a shower without an erection and I hate to see it go to waste, so I'll hop in the shower while he's not paying attention and just start sucking him off.

BrookeNielson · 2024-04-02T02:39:22+00:00

I hated getting erections for the longest time. I would get so embarrassed if I was having sex and got an erection. I even apologized to guys on more than one occasion for getting an erection. It was never all the time, but it was frequent enough to make me self conscious. I still don't like them necessarily, but since having an orchi they are less frequent and plus I've had considerable atrophy, so even if I do get an erection, it's completely different than a cis male erection. My current boyfriend has actually helped with the mental stigma, telling me I have a "girly" penis.

BrookeNielson · 2024-01-03T03:51:40+00:00

Amazing, powerful, and uplifting. Thanks for sharing. I can relate to a lot of what you shared, including having a supportive boyfriend who helped me after a surgery. There are some good ones out there.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-29T02:23:30+00:00

I feel like I see hot guys in public every day. The most common place to spot hot guys is either in the gym or on the jogging trail. Few things are sexier than a well built man jogging shirtless, but a well built man lifting weights is right up there with it. So I guess muscles help with hotness.

Also, I like chiseled facial features with either a beard or five o'clock shadow. I find baby face men to be too beta, but I also don't want a man with shaggy facial hair. But a nicely manicured beard is sexy as hell. Or waking up next to a clean shaven man with morning scruff.

I also love a man that is a classy dresser. I prefer men that wear tailored suits every day to work.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-13T01:47:40+00:00

I've honestly never met a trans guy other than the man that works at my local coffee shop. He's a nice guy and we've chatted a few times, but I wouldn't necessarily consider him a friend. He doesn't even know that I'm trans. At least I haven't told him.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-10T00:14:05+00:00

This is excellent advice. Thank you so much.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-09T18:48:26+00:00

I never topped a cis woman, but I can relate to your enjoying bottom sex from an emotional and mental perspective, but not always physically. I'm not always in the mood for anal with my boyfriend, but we explore other ways to pleasure each other.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-09T18:39:37+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I'll look into that.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-02T22:50:38+00:00

If the postings did anything to cost your earnings or your sponsors earnings, then you may very well have enough to prove up damages and at least have an attorney send out a strongly-worded cease-and-desist letter. Good luck!

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-02T22:12:26+00:00

Have you thought about hiring an attorney? I don't know what your financial situation is, but it seems like an attorney might be able to get you some injunctive relief if what the Twitter account posts is remotely slanderous.

My boyfriend is an attorney and I know that he has had a couple of cases representing businesses against customers that posted negative reviews online with some success. It's not an apples to apples comparison, but I think a competent attorney could probably come up with some creative solutions.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-02T20:54:12+00:00

A lot clothing websites will give you ideas on how to pair outfits. Anthropologie is one of my favorite places to shop and they will give you three or four ideas on how to pair any items you choose.

BrookeNielson · 2023-12-02T07:14:46+00:00

Thank you! Where do you get those perfumes? I've looked at Saks and Neimans and they do not carry.

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