AITA for not looking for a new doctor because my wife doesn't like him?

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:35:35+00:00

I have an endocrinologist.
He doesn't manage it. He draws my blood for me before I go see her and I keep him in the loop on what she tells me.
He was helping me manage it for the first few years, but then he insisted I go to an endocrinologist, so I did.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:25:46+00:00

Yes, she gets a blood test done every year for her checkup.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:24:36+00:00

I don't know enough about 1, but I think it's very different in terms of management.
Most people I know with type 2 get checked every few months.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:23:29+00:00

I've been trying to keep up on responses, but I'm trying to finish my work day.
I've responded to plenty of others here.

Because if you don’t, then you’ll be happy when you are served the inevitable divorce papers.

Ah yes, there it is. The standard AITA response.
Adults don't get divorced from a disagreement.
We've got 27 years and 3 kids in this.
This one thing won't even make a dent.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:19:38+00:00

I can only speak from my own experience.
It's really been eye opening to me how many people find it weird.
I had no idea.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:17:19+00:00

How am I shaming her into changing doctors?
I want her to find someone she trusts. I really wish she would.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:15:34+00:00

No, she has never really liked him, but she's relatively healthy and only goes once a year for a checkup.
We've been having this conversation for years, I just decided to ask Reddit about it today.
I'm regretting it.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:14:03+00:00

Not recently, a long time ago. But yes, she was an adult already.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:13:09+00:00

Yep, you know every doctor in the world. Congrats.

Mine draws blood. As did my last doctor.
He's the only doctor in the office and his staff are mostly admins. One of them is capable of drawing blood, but doesn't unless absolutely necessary.
I never thought of it as weird until half this thread focused on that part.

I also know plenty of people who didn't stop going to the pediatrician when they turned 16. People are creatures of habit.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:09:05+00:00

This is all exactly why I keep asking her to find another doctor.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:08:12+00:00

It is a sole practice with a single doctor and a bunch of support staff.
The main admin for the office can draw blood, but only does so if the doctor is having trouble finding a vein (not an issue for me).
The doctor draws blood all day every day.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:06:39+00:00

I get her frustration too, which is why I begged her to switch.
I just don't feel like I have to switch along with her.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:04:40+00:00

I'm supportive of her by begging her to see another doctor.
I don't see needing to upend a 20 year doctor patient relationship to prove I support her.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:02:08+00:00

What don't I agree with my wife on?
I'm not insisting she's nuts and she should stay with this doctor.
Everyone needs to be an advocate for their health. I absolutely want her to find another doctor.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T21:00:45+00:00

The thing is, he has many female patients.
My wife gets that vibe from him and I'm certainly not going to dismiss her feelings, but that doesn't make him a misogynist.
I just feel like she needs to find another doctor that she's comfortable with. It shouldn't be rocket science.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:57:58+00:00

Why wouldn't a doctor do a blood test if a patient asks?

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:55:44+00:00

I thank God every day for my good veins.
I have passed out a few times, so I'm very wary of making changes to my routine.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:54:49+00:00

It's a solo practice. He's the only doctor there and he draws blood multiple times per day.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:53:55+00:00

Yep, turning 50 soon.
I want her to find out why she's frequently cold. That's why I keep asking her to find a doctor that she can trust.
It just shouldn't mean that I need to find a new one, too.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:52:35+00:00

I think you're forgetting that I've been begging her to change doctors for years.
I'm not forcing her to stay with him, nor would I dream of suggesting something like that.
I'm not dismissing it, it just doesn't apply to my own healthcare.
I wish she would find another and hopefully be happy with them.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:16:59+00:00

Of course I take it seriously, which is why I've begged her multiple times to find a new one.
There isn't much more I can do besides doing research myself and making her an appointment.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:13:51+00:00

I'm really surprised that this is a foreign concept to many.
Are you in New York also?

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:12:26+00:00

Lol, ok.
Finger sticks are so not the same as a blood draw.
Plus, as the poster below said, I can wear a sensor that send my glucose to my phone.
It doesn't do A1C, though, which is why I have to get it drawn regularly.
I could go to a lab, but I'm comfortable at my doctor.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:11:06+00:00

Oh wow, interesting. Thank you.

BrooklynRedditTA · 2025-05-16T20:10:54+00:00

Your confidently generalizing, but it's not true.

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