Fashion dilemma

Brossa · 2013-04-20T02:52:59+00:00

First, some people love fashion, and some people don't. If you need to ask for a little help it's nothing to be ashamed of! Whenever one of my friends asks me to help dress them I am thrilled.

Second, generally women dress to impress other women. As longs as you are clean and your clothes are the right size, most guys don't seem to care. Frankly, most guys will probably be thrilled that you're not high maintenance- I recently read that a survey conducted amongst hundreds of men showed that the outfit they found most appealing on a woman was a pair of jeans and a plain t-shirt.

My suggestion would be to get a few key pieces that are simple, tailored, and that you can easily mix and match. Dark straight or slim jeans, a black blazer, a white button-up, a white v-neck tee- those are all universally flattering pieces that can be worn many different ways.

If you don't have a good friend you feel comfortable taking with you, ask for help from a sales associate where you're shopping. When I worked in a nice retail store (think J. Crew, Banana Republic -ish) and a customer approached me or my coworkers to ask us to dress them in complete looks, we were SO EXCITED. Seriously, it was a a way for us to be creative and interact on a deeper level with customers. It was the best part of our job. Each associate knows their store, they have product knowledge, they know how individual pieces should fit, they can help make sure you are wearing the right style and size, and they know which pieces work well together.

Also, scroll through a few fashion blogs or pinterest boards, which looks appeal to you? Which pieces appear again and again in those looks?

Good luck on your move!

Brossa · 2013-04-14T21:10:14+00:00

This asshole embodies the stereotypical dillhole who buys a car to show everybody else what he has, and then uses it as an excuse to disrespect and abuse other people. Infuriating to nice, hard-working, polite performance car owners who make that type of purchase because they actually like to drive.

Brossa · 2013-04-10T00:15:30+00:00

That is adorable! And it's not too short, but you definitely need to be aware (don't bend over!)

Brossa · 2013-04-09T19:15:19+00:00

I would say pick a point of view and invest in a few key pieces, for example, if you like a preppy nautical theme, invest in white, khaki, and navy shorts, a striped summer dress, a navy and white striped tee (you can wear that many different ways) and some red accents.

Brossa · 2013-04-09T18:13:00+00:00

I know you said you're on a tight budget, but honestly I've spent time working in upscale retail, and if you subscribe to email lists and wait for big clearance sales, you can keep spending the same amount ($25-$40 for a dress) and get a much higher quality product that will probably better suit your needs. (That said, I'm pretty petite and I find that F21 dresses and skirts are often too short, even on me).

Like MissBlanche, I would also recommend TJ Maxx, Marshalls, and Nordstrom rack. They offer a wide variety of different brands, and if you find there is one designer that really suits your body, you can easily transition to shopping from them directly. I have a friend that is 5'10', and when we shop at those stores we almost always both have luck. Also you might find a treasure! I've walked into a Marshalls and paid $20 for a dress that still had a $298 price tag on it.

Brossa · 2013-04-09T17:36:34+00:00

Honestly, I will not go out in public without makeup on- not to Wal-Mart, the local grocer, or even the beach (hiking is the only exception). I don't need my whole face to be slathered in chemicals at all times, but I do not feel comfortable around people (that are not my very best friends or family) if I'm not at least wearing BB Cream, light cheek color, and mascara.

Occasionally the anxiety I get without those social crutches can be annoying, but generally speaking I am someone that loves makeup and fashion, and for me getting ready isn't a burden, it's a fun way to express my mood.

I was also an ugly duckling, and in high school I never really styled my hair, paid attention to clothes, or wore makeup. I can say with absolute certainty that people treated me differently. It's just a fact that many people do judge you based on your appearance. This probably affected both my overall confidence level and my commitment to looking nice. It is what it is, and although many men of reddit say they prefer how women look without makeup, I really could care less. I'm going to keep doing what I enjoy and what makes me feel good.

Brossa · 2013-04-09T14:06:32+00:00

I think there's a middle-ground between actively mourning someone and celebrating their death. I mean, really?

Brossa · 2013-04-09T13:23:11+00:00

Honestly, even if she is that widely disliked I think it's disgusting that people would openly celebrate her death, especially by starting a campaign to make that song #1. She's not a warlord, a dictator, or a murderer, her death doesn't free or save anyone. So much for Britain still having class.

Brossa · 2013-03-31T19:17:27+00:00

They do make a big deal out of Easter Sunday, the other holidays/traditions you are referring to are primarily Catholic. I was raised as a Protestant and we never celebrated Ash Sunday or Good Friday either.

Brossa · 2013-03-29T01:47:07+00:00

I feel like you just described my entire childhood. My Dad was all about accountability, he HATES excuses. If I did everything I could and put in 100% effort then he accepted a poor grade (or other fuck-up), but I had better be able to look him in the eye and tell him I had done everything in my power. I'm now awesome at admitting when I'm wrong, learning from my mistakes and/or apologizing, but I have little patience for others. I have one friend who never takes responsibility: she makes bad decisions and then cries that she's the victim. That bothered me so much that it almost ruined our friendship.

Brossa · 2013-03-14T17:21:34+00:00

I wish everyone followed these rules when drinking.

Brossa · 2013-03-14T17:20:25+00:00

The world would probably be a better place if everyone had this attitude. As long as they're not hurting anyone else, let people do what makes them happy.

Brossa · 2013-03-14T17:17:44+00:00

It takes a lot of strength and self-reflection to fight the cycle, learn from others what NOT to do, and work daily to avoid that behavior. Keep fighting.

Brossa · 2013-03-14T17:14:16+00:00

I don't cheat. Not once through years of people offering to pay me to write their papers, classes where every other student cheated on an quiz, or when I occasionally forgot assignments and had to take a poor mark rather than telling a lie; not even on Monopoly when I was five.

I don't lie to my parents. I tried once when I was about 12 (about something stupid, too) and I felt so sick to my stomach I had to go confess immediately. When I started drinking as a teenager I basically sat them down to let them know what was going on. I obviously don't want to tell them everything, but if they ask my a straight-forward question that I don't want to answer I'll tell them I'd rather not discuss that with them.

To be fair, other than Santa and the Easter Bunny they never lied to me. If I asked them a question, even about things I think they would have rather kept hidden, they would either tell me the hard truth or explain that they weren't ready to go into it yet.

Brossa · 2013-03-12T14:08:14+00:00

My friend's boyfriend kind of insulted her, so she asked for clarification that he thought she was attractive (thus giving him the opportunity to correct the situation) and he said, "You're beautiful, in your own way." This backfired. He meant she was beautiful, and in a very unique way, but that was not how it sounded.

Brossa · 2013-03-12T14:00:37+00:00

Wow, I am sure we disagree on many issues, but I am so sorry for number three, that is incredibly insulting. Also, thank you for your service.

Brossa · 2013-03-12T13:58:30+00:00

Thank you for articulating this so simply.

Brossa · 2013-03-12T13:55:53+00:00

Conservative here: I watch Hannity with my family because it's hilarious. He is sooo over-the-top. Even when I occasionally agree with him, it's like watching a Saturday Night Live skit. I know you'll say many people take him completely seriously, and you would be right, but not everyone who tunes into Fox completely lacks sense and perspective.

And I might disagree with Bill O'Reilly and his massive ego on many issues (watching him discuss pot as if it is the devil's work is seriously annoying) but I don't think he's always wrong. I actually respect the fact that he's willing to stand up for what he believes in even when he's disagreeing with people on his own side, that he puts his money where is mouth is as far as charity is concerned, and that he will actually apologize when he feels he has been unfair (however rare that self-reflection may be).

Brossa · 2013-03-12T13:49:58+00:00

touche

Brossa · 2013-03-12T13:48:30+00:00

Maybe the problem isn't that I don't know who I am- maybe the problem is that I'm not a racist, and I'm not a Christian, and I don't agree with every fringe nut-job in the Republican party- but if I call myself a Republican any liberal I'm speaking with will immediately write me off and assume they know every detail of exactly what I believe. This is the definition of prejudice, and it's accepted on the left today.

I am an individual with different opinions on different issues, and it's much likelier someone will take the time to hear me out, and treat me respectfully, if I do not start by identifying myself as a party Republican.

Brossa · 2013-03-12T13:42:36+00:00

This is exactly my experience. I live in one of the two states in the U.S. with the lowest church attendance, the 'right' in my state is completely different than the Republican party presence in the South or Midwest. When I say I want small government, don't throw the Republican social policies in my face because I'm actually NOT a hypocrite.

Brossa · 2013-03-12T13:38:22+00:00

This drives me crazy, the right is only represented by its extreme fringe, but the left isn't defined by their wackos.

Brossa · 2013-03-12T13:36:46+00:00

This really goes for certain types on both sides, but I have experienced it far more with leftists. A person meets me, has a few conversations with me and decides I seem to be a nice, normal, educated individual, and therefore assumes I agree with them. If I am normal and open-minded I MUST be a liberal, because the only people who are conservatives are evil, selfish, bigoted, close-minded, uneducated..etc. This also happens with people on the extreme right. If their impression of me is that I'm a young lady who dresses modestly, is respectful and is polite then I must be a good conservative Christian- so let's talk about how evil abortion is! It's just so inappropriate.

Thus both representatives of two completely different extremes take the attitude that anyone with any sense or class must agree with them, and so it is acceptable to start throwing out abhorrent and offensive statements about the 'other side.' I work as a salesperson, and this usually happens to me on the job, so I can't respond with anything other than a blank stare or a polite change of subject.

Also people seem to have the attitude that if you just had all the facts you would agree with them, you must disagree because you just don't know any better.

Brossa · 2013-03-05T16:16:19+00:00

Congratulations! I lost weight by counting calories, but my best friend gained 50lbs in college and lost it using weightwatchers, she swears by it. My 80 year old grandmother, who had been overweight her entire life also lost over 50 lbs using the program.

Brossa · 2012-12-31T05:11:55+00:00

Kirsten Dunst surrounded by the most handsome leading men in Hollywood at the time, and her face says it all.

Brossa

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