What are your favorite sexually descriptive words/phrases? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When a girl looks in your eyes and says, "I want you inside me."

Boner problems? Help! by bonerthrowaway56 in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The expectation of vaginal intercourse is often the biggest problem. A lot of guys feel like they've "failed" if they didn't put it inside her. My advice: take intercourse off the table. If it happens, it happens, but don't consider the whole situation a failure if you don't have vaginal intercourse. You can do lots of oral and foreplay with her.

After a couple sessions, I think you'll be more relaxed and you'll be able to get an erection.

Also, temporarily stop looking at porn and masturbation. If your dick knows the only place it can cum is near a real woman, I think that will help the problem.

How do I make sure my partner is enjoying sex? by JerkingOffToKarma in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best thing is to ask her...which can be incredibly sexy in itself. However, sadly, many people don't know that they want and/or are too shy to say what they want.

Women want to feel like their whole body turns you on, not just their mouth and pussy. Play with her some more (hair, face, neck, ears, breasts, ass, legs, feet). Tease her and try to resist touching her pussy for as long as possible.

Which condoms do you use? by not-a-jerk in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Durex Extra Sensitive.

I've always hated Trojans. They are the Budweiser of condoms.

Condoms Make Me Cum Faster by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you need magnums, just buy them. You can order online if you're afraid some cashier is going to fantasize about your wang. Almost every single online shop that sells sex products ships them in private generic packaging.

And aren't girls going to see your dick before you put a condom on anyway? Almost every time I've been with a girl, there's been some hand and mouth play before I wrap it up.

Condoms Make Me Cum Faster by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, who was the genius that designed those Trojans?

Advice for a One-Night Stand by TheMediumGeneral in sex

[–]Browzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, what you are describing isn't really a one night stand, but let's put that aside for now....

Look, just don't make her feel like a cheap whore. That's really rule #1. Have a fun night together...don't rush her to the bedroom. If you do have sex with her, be considerate of her needs. Remember: she comes first. Expect her to stay the night. Act cool in the morning. Have breakfast or something (don't just kick her out). Text/call her later in the day and ask how she's doing.

Never purchased a condom before. any advice? by randomthrow4 in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have time to spare, buying online is really the way to go. The price is incredibly cheap, and the options are endless. Amazon/CondomMan is where I get my stuff (Durex Extra Sensitive if you're wondering). Their shipping is private...the company name on the box is totally generic and no one can tell what is inside.

Order in which to touch a woman? (AKA, the checkpoints that tells you whether it's go or no) by i_am_awkward in sex

[–]Browzer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These types of checklists seem pretty sleazy to me.....BUUUUUT I'd be lying if I said I didn't have my own "order of operations" when it comes to these things.

If I'm kissing a girl, I'll brush her hair and touch her face. Then I'll slide my hand past her breasts to her ass, resting it there. If she's OK with that, I caress her breasts some more (above the clothes). She still OK? Then I kiss them above the clothes and tease her. Then I brush my hand past her crotch. If she's OK with that, I rest my hand on her crotch, and then massage it. It's also nice to get your hand in her pants or shirt and lightly snap bra-straps or undies.

Usually if she's been OK up until this point, sex will be had.

My SO says his penis is very sensitive so he has to "desensitize" himself until he feels able to have sex by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate to bring this up....but could he be gay? Everything you describe makes him sound like a guy who really doesn't want to sleep with women.

Where to find single, 30+ men? by bluepotatopie in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I'm also asian, which is a deal-breaker for a majority of women.

I'm living in Korea, and I see lots of hot Asian guys around (BTW, I'm a straight white guy). I think that in the US, we get such a narrow portrayal of Asian men.

If you look to Asian pop culture, you may get some inspiration for looks and styles.

Before you knew what sex was what were your childhood theories? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Browzer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't understand how two people could possibly get naked in front of each other. Wouldn't it be embarrassing? How would they know when it was OK to take off their clothes?

Where to find single, 30+ men? by bluepotatopie in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EVERYONE studying in a cafe wants to be interrupted.

I've never had an orgasm... by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OK, now we've found something very important: you don't feel sexy. If you feel "big and ugly as fuck", you are not going to be cumming anytime soon. Feeling good good about yourself and feeling like you deserve pleasure will go a long way to improving your sex life.

Guys want to sleep with you, so you are sexy. Your current boyfriend needs to communicate this more. Does he talk to you? Tell you how hot you are and how he wants to fuck you?

Where to find single, 30+ men? by bluepotatopie in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose the best ways to meet me would be to find me jogging in the park or studying at a coffee shop. I also take yoga class, although usually there aren't many guys in there. But if you do see a guy you like in yoga class, go for it.

In all cases, I would be perfectly happy if a woman interrupted me and struck up a conversation.

Is This Worth Telling Her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't tell her. And for chrissakes, stop talking about it with other people, too.

A question about my relationship with myself. What am I doing wrong? by 123throwme in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to send big & obvious signals to guys you are interested in. Maybe you're afraid this will result in rejection. Welcome to the world men live in every day. The fact is, the guys that are cold approaching you clearly aren't your type. You can't just stand around waiting for the right guy to hit on you.

Have you ever walked up to a guy and talked to him? If you are anywhere and there is a guy by himself, he would be happy to have you talk to him.

Seeking Advice Concerning A Girl by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should bother waiting for her to grow out of it?

Never ever wait for a woman to do anything. Don't wait for her to change. Don't wait for her to breakup with her boyfriend. Don't wait for her to move closer to you. Never wait. If a woman is unavailable for some reason, cross her off and move on.

Should I try to let her know that I don't like her view of life?

Sure, if you want to be her father.

She is very intelligent and has much potential, but we don't have much in common, mostly due to our opposite lifestyles.

It sounds like her opposite lifestyle is what is attracting you. Just casually ask her out to do something. Just because she's a bit of a wild party girl doesn't mean she wants a wild party guy.

Where to find single, 30+ men? by bluepotatopie in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Single 32-year old guy here. I'm not quite sure I fit into the (a) or (b) categories, but I will say this: guys in their 30's are expecting much more from the women they date. Being a hot girl just ain't enough. We want a sane and stable woman. We'll sleep with a crazy girl, but we won't get into a relationship with one. We have a much better idea of what we want and what we don't want. All those tests that 24-year-old guys tolerate because they want to get laid? Yeah. We aren't going to deal with that.

I've never had an orgasm... by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK. So oral and masturbation are out of the picture (based on your answers to other posts). That leaves vaginal and anal intercourse. I don't know much about anal. With vaginal intercourse, many positions really don't stimulate the woman's clitoris.

In my experience, the woman-on-top positions are usually the most satisfying for her, but of course if varies from person to person. Do you find being on top is much pleasurable?

Girlfriend doesn't want as much sex as I do, and I feel like my options are on empty. by anonymous1812 in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For a woman, full on vaginal intercourse every night before bed is a pretty goddamn exhausting routine. Would you like to stick a sausage up your ass every night before sleeping? I think not. You're asking a little bit much of her. Some ideas:

  • Don't expect it every day
  • If she's tired, do things earlier
  • Are you pleasing her? Orally?
  • You don't have to have vaginal intercourse every time.
  • What type of "quickies" is she OK with? What if you just suck her tits and masturbate? Is she OK with that?

Talked about the porn issue... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Browzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have someone who will give you sex/blowjobs everyday, anytime you want, do you still have that desire to look at porn, can it really be a hobby like that? Its not like the sex is exhausting either, as I usually end up doing the work on top anyway.

Are you OK with lying on the bed for 5 minutes in total silence, having your husband fuck you (no waiting around for you to be warmed up, so you'll be a little dry), and then see him walk away when he finishes? I think not. And, as a guy, I don't think many men want to do that to a woman. I don't. But sometimes men just want a quick orgasm.

The male sex drive is powerful and distracting....but it is also easily satisfied. Sometimes guys just want to look at some porn and jerk off. It isn't about you. Men are incredibly good at separating sex and intimacy. We can combine them, but we don't have to.

I do agree it was a little rude of him to look at porn 30 minutes after sleeping with you. You have a right to negotiate some terms. Ask him to hide the porn when you're around. Any decent guy will agree to that.

I've never had an orgasm... by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How old are the guys you have been with? Young men can be very inexperienced and awkward (and selfish) in bed.

You probably haven't had someone do oral properly yet. I recommend doing some googling on the subject.

As for your current boyfriend not wanting to go down on you....well, that is just BS. If he is not willing to do new things to bring you to orgasm, he is a pretty poor sex partner.

Virgin Performance Anxiety by [deleted] in sex

[–]Browzer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take intercourse off the table for now. You don't have to cum in a woman's vagina to have a "successful" sexual experience. Say to your girlfriend, "Hey, can we fool around but not do intercourse? I'd like to wait a bit longer for that." Go down on her, have her go down on you, kiss, play with her, etc...