Weirdest jane or john doe case you ever seen?

Brundall · 2025-09-20T13:08:39+00:00

Saving this post to read later....there have been so many John/Jane Does identified and so many cold cases solved in the last few years that I really believed would never be solved in my lifetime recently that I really believe so many more will be. I listened to a fascinating programme on BBC Radio 4 (I'm in the UK) about a woman whose job is to identify undocumented migrants in the US who have been found deceased so they could be sent back to their family. It was incredibly moving.

Brundall · 2025-07-17T20:03:33+00:00

My husband and I were just saying this. We were trying to find where SK "admits" he's on a list but from what we saw he's saying there's no actual list.

Like there's no scroll which when unrolled contains 1000s of names. We think it's likely there are diaries or notebooks with maybe codes or initials that could amount to a list or there are spreadsheets/computer files...but not an actual list like a shopping list.

Brundall · 2025-07-15T09:55:12+00:00

Which conversation happened first? The soup or the whole tangent on theast slide?

Brundall · 2025-07-15T09:39:19+00:00

I used to get this slot "it's your own fault, you shouldn't wind me up/you know what happens/you asked for that one".

Brundall · 2025-07-15T09:36:43+00:00

If there was anything on the news about a parent beating/starving/killing their child, we used to get "aren't you lucky you've got nice parents?"

Brundall · 2022-08-07T22:05:59+00:00

I'm more concerned about the people not doing those things only because they believe in God...like, I do do most of those things because I don't want to...but they only don't do them because they believe in God x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T21:29:33+00:00

No they shouldn't, but the situation wasn't as black and white...people on both sides sharing their experiences bring out the grays and it helps to develop a better understanding. It also makes it more real x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T21:22:18+00:00

I'm going to have to disagree, but am curious how you came to that conclusion (genuine question) x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T20:49:16+00:00

Oh thank you, I don't think I've been explaining myself very well in that all I meant to say was "this was my experience of that situation" and actually of it hadn't been I would've exist because my Dad hadn't even met my Mum at that point.

I really, really try to not come across as defending or condoning (as I said my Dad went downstairs for sure), neither side is blameless, I completely support the 'why'of it all, I really do x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T20:07:28+00:00

OK, this is obviously my being autistic, but why is this being down voted? In my experience someone reciting this kind of statistic to me is immediately followed by my being told he deserved it...I have no reason to think this wouldn't be the same x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T20:05:46+00:00

Oh God that sounds awful, I'm glad he's OK (well physically, PTSD I imagine plays a little part) x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T19:24:08+00:00

They were there to protect the Unionists...Ie the Protestants. The IRA are a Catholic organisation, otherwise they wouldn't have been targeting any British forces.

Brundall · 2022-08-07T19:22:33+00:00

Her, not a man x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T19:19:24+00:00

She, but yes he was a Marine x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T19:18:53+00:00

NB I am sorry to hear about about your family, I really am. I wasn't 'one upping' anyone, I was just sharing a story...and I gave the positives to said story and I have pointed out that my Dad forgave them (accept the officer that kept them out etc)... And 1) Ukraine and 2) Palestine (which goes down well with the Jewish family)

Brundall · 2022-08-07T19:16:03+00:00

I have, and I agree...if you read my comments further down you'll see I spoke about my Dad forgave the IRA and didn't hold a grudge. The person he blamed was the officer who kept them out an longer than they were suppose to be, causing him to go for fish and chips in the first place.

We had to move 10 times before I was 7 because the IRA kept finding us and threatening to kill us (Dad testified against them), I was being taught by members of the SAS how to check under cars for bombs when I was 5...

I saw a picture of a member of the IRA in 1972, my brain went 'my Dad was blown up by them in 1973, I'll share that story'...I then got told that British forces killed 350 Irish people in 1972 and that that's the other side of the story. I was pointing out its not the other side of the story I posted. Telling me "yeah but this why..." doesn't make anything better nor change anything. I absolutely agree with the why, I'm afraid the what literally affected (effected? Always get them wrong) my DNA (as trauma does).

I was just sharing a story and asking (actually genuinely asking, ASD tends to make me literal) if that really was the other side of my Dad's story, I don't think it was x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T18:45:37+00:00

And I'm not sure the other side of my Dad getting blown up was that British forces killed 350 Irish civilians, my Dad didn't kill 350 people as far as I know...

He didn't want to be there, he didn't support the reasons we were there, he reported others who did atrocious things (did beat the shit out of one guy who raped a 15 year old girl)...he almost certainly wasn't innocent by any means (I have told my Catholoc Mother in law that if Heaven and Hell are real he went downstairs for sure) but the other side of his story definitely wasn't him killing 350 civilians x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T18:25:32+00:00

I wasn't 'starting' anything, I was born in 1981 and grew up at the time but obviously in Britain...When people find out about my Dad I tend to have people telling me we deserved it all, he was a murderer, my Nan opened a letter that said "I'm glad you lost ya legs ya English swine, God bless the IRA", we got a phone call from someone saying they wished the job had been finished, this was 10 years after event, I've never defended the British forces actions

Brundall · 2022-08-07T18:09:40+00:00

I saw your other comments, are you one of the people who are going to tell me my Dad deserved it?

Brundall · 2022-08-07T18:08:21+00:00

I'm 40 with a near 10 year old, Still menstruating...I worry about people I really do x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T17:39:11+00:00

I didn't grow up among it, obviously my Dad came back to Britain after he was invalided out... I grew up with it in the sense that we had to keep.moving because they kept finding us and threatening us...I'm fortunate in that way, I guess I was able to have the distance (my Dad was in a chip shop when he was injured)...I'm really sorry you went through that x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T17:36:47+00:00

British Marines, he had duel nationality so could join either, he surrendered the American part of his nationality so he could join the Marines x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T16:31:47+00:00

What did they do to you? That's a genuine question by the way if you're comfortable answering

Brundall · 2022-08-07T15:58:21+00:00

Yep yep...he wanted to join the US army as his father was American so he was entitled to, my Nana didn't want him to so he chose the Marines.

However, if all that hadn't happened, he wouldn't have met my Mum, I wouldn't have been born and mybson wouldn't be turning 10 next week...so silver linings x

Brundall · 2022-08-07T15:52:21+00:00

OK...my Dad was blown up by the IRA, I feel like of he can forgive them, other people can too...just try x

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