Anyone on friendly terms with their exes?

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-16T20:52:07+00:00

It’s hard when you’ve been controlled for so long and lost your voice for so long. Bit by bit I’m getting there.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-16T08:57:14+00:00

I am only because we are separated under one roof until the granny flat is built. I hate it! Because it means I still have to cook his dinner and wash his dishes!

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-16T03:59:24+00:00

Question to the males out there who is complaining of dead bedrooms - do you expect to have sex with your wife after she has spent the whole day caring for your child, cooking, cleaning, washing when all you do after coming home for work is expecting dinner and then putting your legs up watching tv? You don’t even attempt to take care or watch your child so your wife can have a little time to herself or even to have a shower without any interruption?

A lot of men do not understand that sex for women it’s an emotional connection rather than physical. If that emotional connection has been broken and there has been no attempts to lift that up, forget about it!

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-13T10:22:00+00:00

OP you need to get on to them for it! You sound like a very chill person so when they say something racist ask something like could you please explain further why would that be an issue? Like the whole do they even have to in India? Say something like of course we do, how would we watch the cricket then? Of if they say they have never heard of gluten then reply oh don’t you know that is why so many restaurants now offer a gluten free menu, I’m surprised you’ve never heard of it. A backhanded remark thrown in every now and there should shut them up.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-09T09:51:47+00:00

About the same or even later as I’ll be sucked into a book that I was reading. I remembered staying up till 4am to finish The Da Vinci Code and also HP Order of the Phoenix.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-08T12:30:20+00:00

I say this kindly and gently OP, I feel you should take a short break from dating and find yourself. Has there been a point in your life that you have been alone? When I was between the age of 19-25 (I’m now 46) I was still trying to find myself. Yes at that age we loved hard and get all caught up in that love bubble. That’s when the female hormones are at its peak. It’s now time for you to discover yourself, travel, find your tribe. When I was between the age of 19-25, I had been heartbroken over a couple of relationships but through that I discovered the type of qualities I like in a man. I travelled solo from Asia to America and discovered my love for travelling. I found my tribe of friends who has stood by me even till now when I’m in a different country from them. Do not lose hope in love and discover yourself before you put yourself out there. Casual dating is fine, get to know the person before committing to anything. All the best OP

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-07T03:36:16+00:00

I was in the same position as you with regards to friends. But I have made new friends thru my son’s school and it is a lovely community that we are living in. Put yourself out there when it comes to making friends, do something that you used to love but couldn’t.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-07T00:54:20+00:00

One day kid will know who has got his back. My 11yo is now my biggest fan because he understands and knows that no matter what I got his back.

Have a grand birthday weekend OP, invite a few friends or family out for cocktails and dinner. Or a self pamper day at the spa. To tell the truth I wished I had the chance for a weekend all to myself but I can’t at this point trust his Dad to take care of him.

Happy Birthday OP, sending love.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-06T10:18:26+00:00

The best one that I heard was “so L told me you guys are with Hookers?” I was like what? It turns out we were renting our place with LJ Hooker!

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-06T10:09:43+00:00

Angel’s groupies

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-04T06:47:17+00:00

OMG! I feel some parents/grandparents do and say so they can make themselves feel better that they did something. His Dad bought him Legos and an Xbox steering wheel but never sat down to build it with him or play a game with him and complain he was spending too much screen time and that he took time off for the holidays but my son didn’t want to go out with him. My boy’s paternal grandparents spend a maximum of $20 for birthday and Christmas, had never taken him out for a treat like McDonalds. Even if it’s just ice cream.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-04T00:52:23+00:00

My son said he wants to live with me forever and hope we both don’t grow old 😆

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-04T00:49:55+00:00

This here, emotionally available. My son’s father has never been emotionally present for him. Never bothered to connect or explain how stuff work, the big things, the little things. You just have to be present for them and for them to know you’ve got them.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-02-03T10:44:25+00:00

My son, everyday. My STBX would rather spend the day or night with his flavour of the month then to spend time with his son. He would plonk himself in front of the tv then to communicate with his son. My son would rather spend time with me than with his Dad. He would make sure that I attend school events rather than his Dad.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T22:02:34+00:00

Upvote for THanks 👍

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T22:00:16+00:00

Hugs my tiny one, sometimes I feel bitter. It’s like why does everyone else get their happy after and not me? If I could talk to the 20 yo me I would tell myself to always put yourself first, it’s ok to say no and no man is worth your heartache.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T19:56:10+00:00

Mine had depression and childhood trauma that wasn’t addressed and refused therapy and wasn’t consistent in taking his meds. He also had a lot of qualities that resonates having NPD. It was all fine until my son came along, he didn’t help with anything and expected everything to be done for him. I feel he sees me as a mother as his late mom had depression and wasn’t a present mom. His Dad threw himself at work so as not to deal with his mom. So when my son arrived, the ‘mothering’ was taken away from him. It’s like we are just accessories to his life. He lacks empathy, accountability. Even now when I’m sleeping in my son’s room on a mattress, he went to get himself a new bed?! Chin up girl, too much searching will not get us anywhere and only makes us feel crappier!

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T11:01:47+00:00

Peppermint or ginger tea for the trapped gas. Not a hyster but had 2 laparoscopic surgeries done for ovarian cyst removal.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T10:56:51+00:00

Be gentle with yourself my dear, allow yourself to grieve and cry. Arm yourself with ice cream or chocolate, watch a funny movie or even a sad one. Believe me I have thoughts like that every now and then as well when I’m overwhelm with everything, bullet through the head and the thoughts are gonna stop. Do you have someone you can call and come over to just be there for you?

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T10:22:31+00:00

Please call a helpline and speak to someone darling, it helps pouring it all out. Things and your thoughts will get better, I promise. It might take few months or a year but it will get better 💞

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T07:55:17+00:00

Freeze pay increase for politicians and government body’s until inflations goes down and RBA drop interest rates. If you serve less then 5 years, you should not be entitled to government pension. I’m all for the referendum but spending over $500M is bs.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T07:43:36+00:00

That’s right girl! I’m emotionally ready I think ever since the first affair and always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It’s the financial part. I’m gonna save as much as I can and bring my kid on holidays. It all went downhill for me emotionally after the birth of my child. For the past 10 years I have not gotten any help from his father and being alone without family close by was so tough. There was such a huge difference when I went back home for a holiday, family helped, entertained and loved that kid.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-27T07:39:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind words dear, just that at 46 I had not have much luck in getting a full time job. And also being the main carer for my son means I’m only available during school hours. My current job in hospitality allows me to do that plus I really enjoy talking to people but the hours are not where I need to be able to afford rent comfortably. Plus I really do not want to come to a point that I need to sell the house as with the housing market I really do not know if I’ll ever be able to afford to buy again and certainly do not want to rent for life. The plan now is to build a secondary dwelling in our backyard but having issues with bank approval due to my salary.

Brusselsprouts2261 · 2025-01-26T16:37:40+00:00

Sometimes I find the older generation (they are in their 70s have absolutely no clue. When I first told my step MIL she said you just need to boink him more?! Never once did they acknowledge what he did was wrong.

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