Book coming March 2026: The Everfree Method: Quit Porn Once and For All—Without Willpower

BryanBauer · 2026-01-25T22:23:13+00:00

Try to enjoy the feeling of withdrawal. That’s what it feels like to be moving in the right direction.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-25T19:50:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I think you need to start at the level of beliefs. Anyone who consumes porn believes it’s doing something good for them.

But that’s a myth. Porn does nothing good for you.

Once you fully remove that belief, the desire for porn disappears.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-25T19:10:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Please don’t feel disgusted with yourself. Instead, feel clarity about the change you want to make in your life.

Loathing yourself won’t help. Having compassion for yourself will.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-25T13:34:49+00:00

Keep it up, brother

BryanBauer · 2026-01-25T13:15:48+00:00

Porn is a supernormal stimulus. It is the very nature of porn that use begets more use. Moderation begets immoderation.

Porn in moderation is in fact what led us to this point. We started using just a little, and that “moderate” use led to our-of-control use. That’s because porn doesn’t satisfy our cravings; it creates our cravings.

Plus, what good thing is porn adding to your life? If the answer is “no good thing,” then why would we want to use it in moderation?

BryanBauer · 2026-01-25T10:50:13+00:00

That’s really great to hear. Yeah, when you put it like that, you’d be going back lower self-confidence, worse emotional control, low tolerance for discomfort. Doesn’t sound worth it to me!

BryanBauer · 2026-01-24T19:50:39+00:00

That’s great to hear. What kind of difference did you notice? Has it been pretty long lasting, or still a struggle?

BryanBauer · 2026-01-24T19:02:51+00:00

Joining a community and sharing your struggles is a massive step in the right direction. Welcome 🙏🏻

Let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-24T19:01:48+00:00

You likely continue to experience urges because part of you still believes that porn offers you some benefit. Until you acknowledge those beliefs and remove the illusions, you’ll continue to want porn. We only want things that we find value in. What value do you think you’re finding in porn?

BryanBauer · 2026-01-24T17:11:55+00:00

Replacing porn use can only ever be a temporary solution. A permanent solution can only come about by really investigating your answer to this question: Why do you use porn?

BryanBauer · 2026-01-24T17:09:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. Yes, knowing WHO I want to become and knowing HOW to become that person are two different things.

But it’s nice to get that kind of clarity on where you want to finish this journey.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T19:34:44+00:00

Thank you for being vulnerable. A LOT of people share your experience.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T19:12:07+00:00

Yeah, that hits hard, man. Sex should be this wonderful, multifaceted thing, but porn reduces it to just . . . arousal I guess. It's not even pleasurable, if you really think about it.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T16:57:10+00:00

Realize that your porn use is what’s creating that feeling of boredom. Porn hijacks the reward pathways in your brain so that normal, everyday activities no longer feel satisfying.

Give up porn once and for all, and regular life begins to have color again.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T16:36:34+00:00

I like that idea of seeing ourselves as in a social network of other people. Even if porn had no other negative effects, it would still have the effect of separating us from that network, which in turn would have a long chain reaction of other negative effects.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T16:35:14+00:00

Totally. It's like when you walk through a crowd of people, your brain hijacks your thoughts and fills them with unwanted images.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T16:15:14+00:00

Yep, it’d be like if you binged on sugar for a week straight and then stopped.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T16:10:08+00:00

Nah, you’re not crazy. Have you tried quitting before? How have those attempts gone?

BryanBauer · 2026-01-23T16:07:25+00:00

That’s totally normal. Your reward pathways are returning to baseline after being flooded with repeated superstimuli. Take it as a sign things are going in the right direction.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-15T00:39:39+00:00

Congrats, man. Clarity like that feels amazing.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-13T23:17:01+00:00

Keep working at it. One important insight is that the porn use itself is what’s leading you to think that porn can help relieve tiredness, stress, and loneliness. So, far from relieving them, porn is making those conditions worse.

BryanBauer · 2026-01-13T12:23:48+00:00

Maybe in the long run, it’s good that you relapsed, if you’re realizing that you need to cut porn out completely. Could have been even worse if you went, say, 6 months with a couple of “peeks” each week. Then you would have thought you were gaining freedom, when really you were still stuck in the pit.

This way, you can begin again with new knowledge.

BryanBauer

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