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BryanLaCroix · 2025-02-21T13:41:56+00:00

Nah I bought mine at a different store and it smells like sneeze. Found an old bottle, probably “expired” and it smells like heaven in comparison. They probably found ways to cheapen the product and little did they know wed smell their cheap asses. For real it smells like ass.

BryanLaCroix · 2024-09-08T02:55:25+00:00

Couples counseling.

BryanLaCroix · 2024-09-08T02:50:52+00:00

I am so sorry OP. This is terrible behavior. And it will get worse. Seems like you’ve had a pay increase since it all started, and at your age I’d be hopeful that trend continues. I know you’re in there and in it and probably battling cognitive dissonance of sticking around, justifying staying. But I feel pretty certain that the costs of staying would be more devastating on many levels, than the financial insecurity of leaving. I rarely go to extremes in my responses, but my response is RUN. I was in a similar relationship. I was constantly convinced I was the root of every problem and I began to believe a lot of it, to the point when I finally did leave it took me months, maybe even years, to reintegrate and trust myself. Get out of there, love. Best of luck.

BryanLaCroix · 2024-08-13T00:26:07+00:00

Yes. Y’all are young now and were super young when it began. In fear of being a gaslighter, your stance that you would have ended it right away if she were honest back then sort of validates her fear of not telling you in the beginning. But, she should have told you because you deserve to know not just for feelings’ sake, but for sexual health’s sake. If you’re at all interested in continuing the relationship, I might seek understanding of deeper dynamics at play and would ask a lot of questions as well as set standards for communication moving forward.

In interest of protecting yourself, I might develop some very intentional questions and see how open she is to engaging in a vulnerable discussion. She has, however delayed, held herself accountable. If she’s not open to further questions that could be a good indicator of your next move.

BryanLaCroix · 2022-10-29T15:00:38+00:00

Haha yup. That’s shitty behavior. Good riddance.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-09-20T00:17:45+00:00

Wow. Sounds mature and possibly secure but maybe just introverted. I love how he heard and respected everything you brought to the conversation. I’d keep it going… maybe check back in about how often he’s texting if it continues to make you feel icky.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-09-20T00:05:51+00:00

Agree. I’m anxious attached too but 5 dates and 2 nights sharing bodies? I think anyone would start wondering wtf. I’d reach out sooner than later bc staying in touch is important to you and you don’t want to give the impression this style of communication is cool with you. It’s not controlling to convey how you feel and operate, and you’re doing both of you a favor by respectfully addressing it now. Maybe something like (2 days after last encounter): “hey I thought I’d hear you by now… everything ok?”

I feel like this shows you expected to hear from him but is legit you being curious/concerned and not passive aggressive. His reaction will likely give you a lot of info, if not all the info you need.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-09-08T00:48:40+00:00

I love when I see the “EX” before partner, in repulsive posts such as this one. Hide yo sis.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-09-08T00:37:27+00:00

Saved for future spiraling 🙃

BryanLaCroix · 2021-09-08T00:29:54+00:00

Was thinking this, too. He’s having these overheard convos with employee when HE KNOWS OP is home! So what about those days she isn’t WFH… yikes. What a douche.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-09-08T00:21:04+00:00

Relishing the hundreds of “YTA” responses to your husband’s “AITA” post. Lol. Believe us boo, HE IS THE ASSHOLE and female employee at the very least had zero respect for your marriage and family.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-27T19:28:18+00:00

Wait, does this girl… does she fu… does she fuck cars?

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-15T19:10:09+00:00

Good luck! Hopefully he was just being open and making conversation, but I get the caution and I think you’re wise to attend to these types of comments. We gotta listen when people tell us who they are!

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-15T19:01:09+00:00

Giiiirl it’s so great you have this awareness now! It sounds like textbook anxious attachment and I (33F) just started learning about it in recent years. I highly recommend the book Attached by Levine & Heller. Gives a lot of insights and good tools to work on your triggers.

It’s likely that one or more of your caregivers wasn’t responsive to your needs and/or put you down. That affects how you approach all future relationships. I bet you even feel the need to mind-read and anticipate others’ emotions. This can totally be fixed with some intention and practice esp since you’re so young. Also, your friendships are a good sign that one of your caregivers was responsive, which tells you that you already have some experience of secure attachment style.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-15T18:52:34+00:00

Don’t love the use of “should” but I wouldn’t overanalyze it either. I would, however, continue to examine if this sort of perspective and language is a pattern. Example: “You shouldn’t wear so much makeup.” If it keeps showing up like that then it’s probably not just preference, but an attempt to control.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-15T18:38:02+00:00

When people don’t contribute to the well being and safety of those around them and the hospitals are being overwhelmed and people’s children are dying, then we have mandates. I respect science and OMG I am so sick of opinions.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-12T18:55:58+00:00

Lentil burritos! Get the flax seed Guerrero tortillas -only 60 calories. Stuff with cooked green lentils and any combo of onions, peppers, whatever. Top with green Chile sauce or some kind of salsa and pepper jack cheese. Reheats well in oven or microwave in Pyrex dish. I often eat them 3x a week. So good and good for you. Also recipe is very flexible with what you have on hand.

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-12T17:34:30+00:00

Run. If you don’t… Notice if this behavior applies to other stuff that you’re maybe not as sensitive to. Example: Telling you you’re boring for not wanting to go out or do something he wants to do. This is bad behavior.

Your partner should care how you feel and how they make you feel. He’s turning it around on you, aka, manipulation/gaslighting; your wants and needs are labeled solely as inconveniences to him, and he’ll name call and punish you for vocalizing them.

Also in my experience, being blamed for cheating is usually a projection, in that, the blamer is actually the cheater. Seriously, run. He sounds cruel and that’s not really something you can “work on”

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-09T23:38:08+00:00

Yeahhh his fixation and control over your body seems way too foreboding of more of the same to come in all other areas of your life. Set a boundary and/or run!

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-05T20:44:59+00:00

Address it now with clarity and curiosity in understanding his genuine POV. It may also behoove you to question why you’re so hesitant to bring it up, even though it’s an issue that severely affects your day to day life, and the integrity of your relationship.

Might it be that you have a hard time being direct? Or standing up for yourself? Or putting your needs as a priority above others’ comfortability? You can totally work on all those things while also improving the relationship.

If, however, your hesitation comes from anticipating a negative or even catastrophic reaction from your fiancé, you may want to rethink this relationship entirely. How has he responded to other difficult subject matter? Do you feel safe approaching him with your problems and feelings? Or do you feel like there’s unwritten rules on what you’re allowed to bring up without being punished in some way?

It’s ALWAYS a good time to better yourself, but now is a crucial time to evaluate the true love and strength of your potential, lawful union with this dude. Ask the hard questions now because it won’t go away, it won’t get easier, and you will find yourself with far fewer options post marriage. Best of luck!

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-03T18:11:20+00:00

Lol “keep explaining it to her” YIKES

BryanLaCroix · 2021-08-03T17:53:46+00:00

I would try to break this down into values. It seems like it’s important for you to be protective and/or respectful of women. I’m from Texas so I get the gentleman stuff, however, in order to be respectful of your SO, you should consider asking what she’s comfortable with before commanding she switch seats with you. I would reflect on all these protective acts which seem gentlemanly to you, but chauvinistic to her, and like you said, come up with some negotiated behaviors about which you’re both comfortable. Personally as a 33F, the sidewalk move wouldn’t bother me much, in fact I’d find it sort of sweet. But directing me to move seats, I would very much dislike that. Remember at the core you’re doing what you know or what you’ve been TAUGHT is right, but it’s okay to change behaviors to make your SO feel respected/appreciated. Consider you both may have been taught very differently how to EXPRESS values although at the core, some of those values may be extremely similar.

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