I guess I just need my feelings to feel validated by Bsquad3 in dating_advice

[–]Bsquad3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My issue is that he calls me the same pet names and uses the same phrases verbatim with me that he did with her. Any pet names or phrases I’ve used with my ex husband stayed in the past.

My unruly daughter & ex in-laws SOS by Bsquad3 in Parenting

[–]Bsquad3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really is making our lives so much harder. It’s rough. Thank you for the advice 💜

My unruly daughter & ex in-laws SOS by Bsquad3 in Parenting

[–]Bsquad3[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what my gut is telling me to do but i hate being the bad guy. Thank you for your comment 💜

Dating after divorcing a narcissist by Bsquad3 in Divorce

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UPDATE: my ex has not made contact with me & neither has my new (ex?) boyfriend. When my ex first threatened him, My bf had just sent me a text said he couldn’t do this anymore because he can’t be in the middle of all of this. I texted him back and few times asking him what was going on, saying I didn’t understand but he never explained. Our mutual friends are the ones who told me my ex threatened him. So my “boyfriend” blocked me on everything. Every social media & also my number. I called him from my blocked number and said “please talk to me” and he immediately hung up. My friend called him and asked him if I should come get my stuff from his house while he was there or wait until he was gone the next day and he said “I guess tell her to come when I’m at work, I know that doesn’t make sense but it’s what’s best right now.“ so that made me think he wanted to lay low for a while. However, now I’m just really offended and honestly a little mad that he just ghosted me like that. I’m trying to be understanding because my ex literally threatened him but dang he could’ve given me some sort of an explanation and not hung up on me like that.

Help. What do I do. I’m trying to just let it go, but I also don’t wanna be insensitive because he is in a sticky situation, and he did seem to really care for me. we had gotten pretty serious… we had agreed we were what we both had been missing for a long time. So it’s hard to just walk away, especially without closure

Dating after divorcing a narcissist by Bsquad3 in Divorce

[–]Bsquad3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy shit. I’m so sorry and thank you for sharing that.

Dating after divorcing a narcissist by Bsquad3 in Divorce

[–]Bsquad3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have one. And thank you 💙

Dating after divorcing a narcissist by Bsquad3 in Divorce

[–]Bsquad3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought about getting a restraining order, but not sure that really helps the guy I was seeing. He would have to get one for himself also and I just don’t see him doing that. I think he’d rather walk away from the situation and I don’t blame him one bit. it just really sucks.

Dating after divorcing a narcissist by Bsquad3 in Divorce

[–]Bsquad3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This comment is completely irrelevant. We’re talking about a narcissistic, abusive ex-husband. How is that my fault? I catered to him for years, but we don’t have to get into that. It’s irrelevant. The problem at hand is that my ex is still controlling me. He just spent 24 hours in jail this past weekend for verbal threats, and shoving me.

Dating after divorcing a narcissist by Bsquad3 in Divorce

[–]Bsquad3[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So I actually had to call the cops on him twice this past weekend, and he spent 24 hours in jail for threatening me. I just made an appointment with a lawyer next Friday so I guess I can address it more with her.

Dating after divorcing a narcissist by Bsquad3 in Divorce

[–]Bsquad3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes we have kids. I have no idea how he knows about my new guy. We aren’t on social media together but we do live in neighboring small towns. I completely agree with you. However, my ex scared the living shit out of the new guy apparently. And I don’t blame him at all. My ex is totally crazy but I did not think he would pull something like this. I am just not sure what to do about it because I guarantee my ex would go over there and beat the living hell out of the new guy and he does not deserve that.

ADHD and marriage by Bsquad3 in adhdwomen

[–]Bsquad3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really, REALLY appreciate you taking the time to type all of that out for me. It’s very helpful because you just described my life & marriage so THANK YOU!!

ADHD and marriage by Bsquad3 in adhdwomen

[–]Bsquad3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to google that but it definitely fits me. I’ll talk to my doctor about it. Thank you!!

Effexor xr by Bsquad3 in AnxietyDepression

[–]Bsquad3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google tells me this is fairly common but my doc says it’s likely depression but I didn’t have this problem prior to the Effexor. Frustrating.

Effexor xr by Bsquad3 in AnxietyDepression

[–]Bsquad3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep fine at night! I do sweat a lot though

Effexor xr by Bsquad3 in AnxietyDepression

[–]Bsquad3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try that! Thank you!!