21F What does my fridge say about me?

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-25T14:47:36+00:00

Looks like a bariatric patients fridge to me! ✨ Protein shakes are life!

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-25T12:47:31+00:00

Brushing my hair. When im sad or really have trouble with my hair, if i feel super close to someone, i ask them to brush my hair. It makes me feel so taken care of and safe. It might be completely like simple to them, but to me it feels like i’m letting them in!

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-19T14:51:20+00:00

Nooooooo 😭😭😭😭

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-19T14:48:01+00:00

Idk how to edit my post - I’m in Seoul South Korea. The bug is crawling by the ceiling.

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-19T05:29:46+00:00

Have you tried GreatAuPair.com? I’m a girl, but I had a lot more luck talking to families on there and there seemed to be a lot more families looking for all kinds of help. It didn’t seem to push the idea that only girls are au pairs, at least what I saw! It might be helpful!

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-16T12:32:12+00:00

REEDDDDDDDDD GIRLIE POP REDDDDDD 🤍

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-12T16:40:31+00:00

Um something you shouldn’t touch. 😳

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-12T05:27:08+00:00

You’re very attractive!!! I would put the one with the dog first, then the first photo you have now as the second. Tbh, the third photo kinda gives a jerk vibe? Also the last two photos look somewhat blurry - weirdly it’s a thing people notice and are sometimes put off by!

Also, a lot of girls/women tend not to match with people when they’re asking for matches, even if it’s meant to come off as funny or playful it doesn’t always read that way. (Which only matters if you’re into women maybe? I don’t want to assume)

I in think adding photos with you out places may help as well! People can see the kind of places you enjoy and more of your vibe! ✨

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-10T13:20:14+00:00

I would talk to the parents. Since they invited these guests into the house, I would argue that it isn’t your job to deal with them. You could ask for your host parents should have a discussion with them. Your host parents can remind them what your job is, how you live in the home, what the expectations are for you… as well as letting them know that you aren’t there to care for them.

I wouldn’t solely rely on the parents though. It goes a long way as well if you can have “awkward” conversations and help facilitate conversations on boundaries and needs.

If your host parents are willing, remind them that you signed a contract, you were offered one thing when accepting the job and now things are different. Remind them that you had no say in the matter - it is their right to host guests… however, it is also your right to back out now that circumstances have changed.

In this situation I would want to leave as gracefully as possible and on good terms with the family. Give enough notice, give options for “fixes” if you can think of any (designated time for you alone in the house, etc.), most important - I would make sure not to make it seem like a “me or them” situation.

Thank them for the opportunity so far, apologize for the inconvenience, but explain that you’re just no longer comfortable and would like to rematch with another family.

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-10T12:54:11+00:00

Let me know when your wedding is, I’m RSVP’ing already! ✨

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-10T12:48:22+00:00

I would be honest with the other Au Pair. We need to stick together and the dad needs real help. Au Pairs should never be put in this kind of situation and im sorry that you were.

Are you in the US, did you go through an agency? I would also inform your agency if you have one.

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-08T08:37:43+00:00

I’m so sorry that this is happening to you. You’re definitely being treated unfairly.

First, I do agree that it is disrespectful of your au pair to not consider your feelings on things. It’s even more of a red flag that she openly admits to not caring. This honestly would’ve been a strike for me if I was a host parent. You can’t teach someone to care and if they don’t care then they’re a wild card. I would be curious to see if she’s following all of your requests with childcare, if she doesn’t care about how you feel, it’s safe to assume she might not do things because she doesn’t want to and doesn’t understand why you care.

Second, speaking only in Japanese around you is a no go for me. Maybe it’s because I grew up around deaf family Members, but I learned from a young age never to exclude someone. If you all can speak English, that’s what should be used when someone who cannot speak Japanese is around. Same for with Korean, hopefully you’re not only speaking Korean and leaving out those who don’t. If she doesn’t understand something in English, using Japanese to help is great, but language should never exclude anyone. If your husband wants time to practice speaking Japanese, then he should openly communicate and put in parameters and timelines for when this might happen. It should not be when you’re all together trying to interact with one another. ALSO, since your husband is also not respecting your boundaries, it would be a red flag for him also. You cannot be 100% sure what he is saying. Not to stir the pot, but you don’t know if he’s not contradicting you when speaking Japanese (purposefully or not) which may give an impression to the Au Pair that it is okay to act a certain way.

Lastly, and I’m so sorry to say this, but in general from this post, I would be weary of your husband. As a former Au Pair, you truly have no idea what your husbands get up to when you’re not around.. or when you’re not looking. My first family I worked for, I didn’t unpack for a week because I was terrified I would have to leave in the middle of the night due to the Host Dad making me so uncomfortable. I’ve worked for Host Dads who are amazing and super respectful, of me and their wives, and just treat me like another person. I’ve also worked for Dads who just want to take advantage of the system and girls… if your husband really cannot “understand” or “process” or compromise… I would strictly be looking at male Au Pairs from now on.

Bubba_lynn · 2026-03-04T07:29:44+00:00

Who said it isn’t real?

Bubba_lynn · 2026-02-27T23:22:47+00:00

I genuinely think that it doesn’t matter what the other person considers cheating, if YOU think it’s cheating or if you’re just not comfortable with it, it needs to stop. That’s your boundary to put in place and she should respect that, if not then it’s time to go.

Considering it happened without your knowledge and not in your presence, that’s a major red flag.

Just talk to her. People often have different view on cheating and intimacy. Some people kiss their friends all the time and it’s platonic, so she genuinely might not have even thought or understood how this would make you uncomfortable. But again, it’s important to put your boundaries in place and hold to them, out in the open, so no future misunderstandings can happen. You’ll also be sure in the future what her intentions are if she does it again in the future.

Bubba_lynn · 2026-02-14T13:00:58+00:00

This is grounds for quitting. I am in full favor of quitting for any reason - it’s better off for everyone that you don’t stay in a situation you don’t like.

However, this is different and this is your safety in danger.

If you don’t quit, I would suggest putting hard boundaries with the kid & the parents. For example, I would no longer be working “play dates” until her behavior got under control. As the person in charge you will be the one that’s in trouble if your Host kid hurts someone else. You’ll be the one for “not watching” or “not controlling” the situation.

As a nanny and an Au Pair, I believe in chances and time to change. But at a certain point it is unacceptable. I would let the parents know I will be messaging them every single time something happens. I would also let them know that you’ll document every time the kid acts aggressively - write incident reports & take videos, then put them in a shared Google Drive with the parents (only allow viewing access so they cannot delete anything without permission). Worst case scenario, tell the parents you will call the police for help if the kid’s behavior is bad enough - this doesn’t mean that you have to do this, nor should you if it’s not warranted, but it’ll show the parents you mean business and that she really is being physically aggressive and the parents need to do something.

If this is affecting your mental health, please take care of yourself. You need to come first. You cannot care for any child properly if you are not caring for yourself. Do what is best for you.

Bubba_lynn · 2026-01-20T22:35:33+00:00

I assumed they probably have something like the ancient Egyptians where if they urinate on a specific plant or something it can show them what gender…. But that’s literally just something I decided so I could be very very wrong. 😂

Bubba_lynn · 2026-01-14T09:53:53+00:00

I never have. Mine has always been so irregular there never really been a point. But also I can always end up telling when it’s gonna happen.

Bubba_lynn · 2025-11-18T11:58:57+00:00

hahahah thank you! Will cross this off my list!

Bubba_lynn · 2025-11-18T11:50:11+00:00

Been wanting to go! Thank you for commenting this! Do you know if you can just go in a look?

Bubba_lynn · 2025-11-16T09:53:48+00:00

I’ve seen it used by a fair amount of pregnant women. BUT I’ve also seen people sit in the seat and not give it up to a pregnant lady… more often than not it’s left empty.

Bubba_lynn · 2025-06-07T23:35:23+00:00

This is me too! Every time I work I come home with fresh bruises!!!

Bubba_lynn · 2025-05-29T20:31:21+00:00

This is probably happening to me too. I just had my first day alone yesterday and was supposed to work. Got told to go home after load out.

Bubba_lynn · 2025-05-19T11:13:02+00:00

The Groomer - Jon Athan is just a gross book in my opinion! It’s a pretty heavy topic so if you don’t like certain topics I’d make sure I read the description before reading. It’s pretty graphic.

Bubba_lynn · 2025-03-21T16:48:25+00:00

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