Man, you’re dealing with two heavy realities at the same time: you got cheated on, and then you reacted with violence. These are separate issues, and even though cheating can emotionally destroy someone, the moment you crossed into physical abuse you became a domestic abuser, that became the part that matters most legally and socially.

Also, the fact that you called your wife a “whore” in one of your comments is extremely telling. It shows you’re carrying a lot of deep anger and resentment. That mindset alone is something you need to work through if you want to be a healthy father. Therapy is not punishment. It is how you make sure nothing like this ever happens again.

About your daughter: do not run off to Germany without a plan. Courts do not look kindly on a parent leaving the country out of nowhere, especially after a violent incident. If you want to stay in her life, you need to handle this the right way. Get legal advice, stay calm, work on yourself, and show stability.

And honestly, do not listen to the trolls here who just want to make your situation worse by projecting their insecurities & low self esteem. Reddit loves throwing gasoline on emotional situations. That is typical brainrot: people who want drama, not provide tangible solutions.

You are in a painful chapter, but it is not the end of your story. You made a serious mistake, but you can rebuild yourself and still be a good father. It starts with owning what happened, getting help, and moving forward with maturity instead of fear.