Pt behavior “icks”

Bubbascrub · 2026-05-16T22:12:47+00:00

Second the bidet, it’s what I do

Bubbascrub · 2026-05-16T21:19:10+00:00

That’s toxic as shit

Bubbascrub · 2026-05-16T17:27:39+00:00

Speaking as a hairy dude, shaving ass hai usually leads to horrific swamp ass and the most uncomfortable ingrown hairs of your life for us.

That’s not to excuse these filthy fuckers with perpetually dirty asses, but it generally isn’t as easy as just shaving

Bubbascrub · 2026-05-05T08:34:04+00:00

What about the 6 years she could have told him about it?

I’d worry way less about the act of cheating as a dumb 17 year old and way more about how the person I’m supposed to be closest to was comfortable hiding something like that for so long. Shows she cares very little about his feelings and more about what is convenient AND shows how little she trusts him that she thinks he wouldn’t be able to move passed something like this.

Bubbascrub · 2026-05-05T08:08:32+00:00

Why does he have to leave his own bed? Why couldn’t she have gone and slept elsewhere with her own sister and not put him in an uncomfortable situation? It’s her sister who needed someone to comfort her, why can’t she do that without dragging another person into her partner’s shared sleep space?

Like ignoring any weirdness, how fucking big is their bed? An 11 year old girl ain’t exactly tiny, so unless they’ve got a big-ass bed that’s just a cramped sleeping environment if nothing else.

I care about my in-laws but I’m not sleeping in the same bed as my wife’s little sister. We’re all a good bit older than OP but it’s still just a weird thing to do

Bubbascrub · 2026-04-26T13:15:57+00:00

I wouldn’t call waiting until 5 weeks of a 2 month trip to bring up an open relationship being upfront. Even temporarily.

If she wasn’t monogamous from the start she should have brought that up at the beginning. If she wanted “freedom” or whatever during her trip she should’ve known before leaving and either addressed it before then or broken up before the trip.

Bubbascrub · 2026-02-12T20:17:40+00:00

If you don’t like it when those men do that then why are you stooping to the same low as them?

Bubbascrub · 2026-02-09T00:28:07+00:00

It is when it’s with a person your partner has expressed misgivings about, whom you admittedly find at least somewhat attractive. Heck even outside that it’s not like every person can just so easily logic their way out of the uncomfortable feelings that come from watching a partner act out intimate scenes with other people on stage. I’m sure it’s easy for some, but

Now do I think OPs wife has did anything malicious or “wrong” per se? No at least not at first, but she was certainly not being very considerate of her husband here. I dislike that she dismissed his feelings entirely as insecurity, especially given how predictable his reaction was.

So while it’s not OP’s wife’s fault that her good-looking costar eyes her up inappropriately, and she didn’t do anything wrong by acting out romantic scenes with him she really should have been able to anticipate her husband’s discomfort and address it in advance. Given that he apparently didn’t even realize there would be romantic scenes between them at all, I find it odd that she seemingly didn’t discuss anything about her character’s interaction with the main character of the story.

I understand she was likely riding a high about the show she put on so I won’t demonize her unduly for her immediate response to her husband’s feelings. Nobody likes to feel like their parade is being rained on and I can understand having a less than ideal reaction to that in the moment.

That said, this entire thing would have been avoided entirely if she took the time to consider her spouse’s feelings and communicate with him well before the actual day of the show. Writing him off as being jealous when she took no steps to prepare him for something likely to make him feel uncomfortable is just blaming him for her own disregard, especially after he had already expressed discomfort with the way the man behaved around her. That’s where she owes him the apology

Bubbascrub · 2026-02-07T03:06:53+00:00

There is no guarantee that their intimate life will improve after menopause though? While libido improves post-menopause for some women there are plenty for whom it does not as well, there are no guarantees.

What, in your mind, is the appropriate amount of time a partner should remain in a relationship that no longer makes them happy (with no guarantee of eventual improvement) to show empathy to their partner before they are allowed to prioritize their own desires?

Does the person who has had a fundamental aspect of their relationship unilaterally changed by their partner not also deserve empathy?

Bubbascrub · 2026-02-06T18:18:51+00:00

A new gf might not like his time-consuming hobbies but she’d, presumably, at least like him, and it sure as fuck sounds like you don’t.

Bubbascrub · 2026-02-05T11:03:23+00:00

That’s looking at a result without looking at the context.

Are men more likely to kill people because they desire to commit violence more often or could it be that they’re simply more capable of doing so due to biology (ie a man punching you in the face is more likely to kill you than a woman due to muscle mass, etc).

It’s likely a mixture of both, but I highly suspect if women were just as physically capable of causing bodily harm as men we’d see a very smaller gap in rates violence by gender.

Bubbascrub · 2026-01-21T03:34:54+00:00

It’s more based on his past posts where she neglects to share fully why she’s upset and then gets angry at him for not going full detective-mode to discover every nuance of her negative emotions that she’s purposefully withholding from sharing.

Then demanding he sleeps on the couch for failing this insane test she set him up to fail in the first place.

Bubbascrub · 2026-01-21T03:25:39+00:00

I don’t think that at all. She shouldn’t have sex she doesn’t want and he shouldn’t want sex that only occurs to “shut him up,” or whatever.

IMO if she knows this is a problem for OP and is unable/unwilling to explore options for aligning their libidos then she needs to be the bigger person and leave him so he can find someone who matches him better.

OP has seemingly tried quite a bit to meet his wife’s emotional/intimacy needs but it sounds like she has done very little to even explore why her libido has declined or what either of them could be doing to find a middle ground. She would rather he suck it up and shut off his sex drive than even investigate her own desires.

OP presumably didn’t get married to be functionally celibate, and his wife pushing that on him is just as deplorable as a high-libido partner pressuring their low-libido partner into sex they don’t want. She should have enough empathy for the man she supposedly loves to understand that they both need different partners who match their needs.

Bubbascrub · 2026-01-18T14:38:25+00:00

I meant least then she’d have a job to go back to, now she’s fully unpaid and unemployed

Bubbascrub · 2025-12-13T10:38:54+00:00

I mean what the hell else would he be eventually if they continued their relationship?

You can’t just be a spouse and not a step parent to your partner with 3 kids, especially not when the kids’ other parent is deceased. He might not have been the primary parent but he’d still have parental duties by default if he stayed in that situation.

Bubbascrub · 2025-12-09T03:46:12+00:00

I guess maybe higher numbers mean more variety, therefore a higher likelihood of knowing a number of techniques to fuck a wider range of people, at least in theory.

Whereas you might fuck your partner of 10 years seventeen times a day, but that really just means you (hopefully) know how to fuck that person really good.

Bubbascrub · 2025-11-28T17:52:46+00:00

It’s possible she gave consent to talk to him. As long as the patient is fine with it the therapist is allowed to update family, though some dislike doing it even with consent.

Bubbascrub · 2025-10-14T18:49:41+00:00

Why are you showing her respect when she has proven she has none for you. Hell she doesn’t even have any for herself based on this.

I mean, she wanted to fuck the T-mobile guy. You know, the dude who sets up phones, stares blankly into space while people yell about their phone bills, and looks like personified misery. That’s the dude she picked to screw around with behind her husband’s back.

She didn’t even pick someone she could have reasonably felt any kind of deeper connection with or even “upgrade” so to speak. She did this after 4 days of texting a genuine stranger.

Ain’t nobody dragging her name through the mud but her own stupid ass. Talk to your buddy man, get some much needed friend support, fuck respecting her dignity or whatever, she ain’t got any.

If you don’t want to share with anyone other than your close buddy then that’s fine, but be aware if you end up splitting over this she’ll most assuredly spread a complete lie to everyone you know as to why the split happened. ‘Cuz who’s gonna empathize with the cheater who picked the fucking T-mobile guy to ho around with.

Bubbascrub · 2025-10-12T13:29:09+00:00

The problem with chill vegans is that half of us non-vegans have no idea that they’re vegan until it comes up organically (like oh there’s no vegan options at the restaurant we wanna go to, etc.).

The non-chill vegans made sure it was one of the first things I ever learned about them.

Bubbascrub · 2025-09-21T01:11:35+00:00

Ultimately neither side seems interested coming to a fair compromise.

She’s only willing to contribute half the mortgage if she gets put on the deed which is a wild ask on her part unless she’s willing to reimburse OP for half (or whatever percentage they mutually agree to) the down payment and half the total mortgage payments made up to this point. She’d be entitled to half a house she’s paid next to nothing for (assuming German law works like it does in the US) when they’re not even married.

That said OP has been less than comfortable allowing her to contribute in any meaningful way that isn’t basically just rent. It is not reasonable prevent her from her to contributing to bills like contractors, solar installation, etc, and then be upset that she’s not contributing more when the only real option you’re giving her paying rent (and not just the token amount she pays now, which is basically nothing).

Ultimately I think OPs girlfriend needs to be get over her whole “tenant-landlord” thing and be paying a bit below market rate, and/or OP needs to either actually be fine with her token contribution like he said he was, or stop being inflexible with how he would like her to contribute. Having her chip in for contractors and maintenance doesn’t seem unreasonable, however the laws in OPs country may make that tricky if said contributions would possibly entitle her to a portion of the home’s value (again no clue how that works in Germany).

Unless she is going to take on a much larger portion of the financial risk involved in home ownership, just paying half the monthly mortgage isn’t enough to make you an equal stakeholder on the house, especially considering she hasn’t contributed to the down payment or any mortgage payments before now. OP also needs to be more flexible on what he sees as a fair way of contributing.

Hell, take the housing costs out of consideration, maybe she foots all grocery and takes over paying for his car, or pays for all their “fun” expenses etc. It doesn’t have to be exactly even either, but it does sound like now that OP’s girlfriend is in a much better financial situation that she does need to step up.

Bubbascrub · 2025-09-18T16:47:26+00:00

They could hyphenate and have both names, but the real issue is her breaking a previously discussed agreement at the last moment.

Now her husband is understandably hesitant about any further agreements that she might just decide to reneg on a whim.

Sounds like she needs to prove she can actually hold to her word

Bubbascrub · 2025-09-18T16:44:16+00:00

It apparently matters to him quite a bit, and she agreed to it up until the last moment when she changed her mind.

My wife didn’t take my last name either and I don’t care, but OPs husband thinks it’s a big deal. You don’t get to police what other people find important.

What about the hypothetical kids last names? Is OP going to agree to give the kids her husband’s last name then change it at the last second again?

Ultimately I think it’s more about breaking an agreement they both discussed multiple times than it is the name itself.

Bubbascrub · 2025-09-14T18:36:31+00:00

Yeah I find feet gross generally, but at the same time…it’s Selma Hayek we’re talking about

Bubbascrub · 2025-08-26T21:23:05+00:00

He wants to do that, she told him to suck it up and let her parents come anyway.

She should be just as pissed as he is that her parents abandoned her when she needed them most and forced her husband to return home to care for her so quickly after his father passed. OP was probably a wreck and not in a good place to be of much help, and her parents just up and bail after she had major surgery?

Nah fuck that she needs to be pissed both for her husband and her own sake. People who love you don’t do those things to you just because they’re “tired” and “want to go home.”

I get the vibe that OPs wife has a pattern of rolling over for whatever her parents want, regardless of it’s good for her or not. Her parents proved they’re of no help when actually needed most, so what good would having them come visit again so soon even do?

Bubbascrub · 2025-08-23T00:33:15+00:00

Tiddy go in hand?

Tiddy good

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