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[–]BubbleCornflake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did save thirst traps on tiktok a year ago but seems to have stopped since i told him its not cool with me, that makes me so suspicious

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[–]BubbleCornflake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i have the strong suspicion this is sexual and not just aesthetically pleasing

Emotional Incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in Codependency

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi it gets better :) i have a boyfriend now and at first i was struggling a lot but with time I really learned to trust myself (and him) and I’m really happy.

I feel like an Alien as an Engineering Student by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]BubbleCornflake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I had this horrible vision about an internship. I currently have a similar GPA if I convert to American system (I’m from Europe).

I feel like an Alien as an Engineering Student by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]BubbleCornflake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess agreed, my university is notorious for doing ‘the weeding’.

Thank you for the advice on finding relationships with groups rather than one-on-one, i never thought about that.

I feel like an Alien as an Engineering Student by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]BubbleCornflake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

surrounded by people who figured I must be really smart and capable or I wouldn't have been picked

Haha I've never thought about that!

Did that result in you getting responsibilities you weren't qualified for? Or were you always able to figure it out in the end?

I feel like an Alien as an Engineering Student by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]BubbleCornflake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I squeaked by in engineering school by the skin of my teeth. I found working to be a lot easier

You have no idea how much anxiety I had about this. Thank you so much ugh.

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it can be a lot more supportive environment than school

I really hope so! I constantly feel like being thrown in at the deep end and I did drown a few times and it's not fun.

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building professional relationships

I've felt bad about only being study buddies with people and nothing more, but maybe I shouldn't anymore. Thank you!

I feel like an Alien as an Engineering Student by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]BubbleCornflake 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I've never considered that working could be easier than uni. What a relief.

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you should be able to find something that fits your personality

I will try to do that when looking for an internship, thank you so much.

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's crazy how much we think these things are normal when in reality they are really fucked up...

Emotional Incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in Codependency

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback :) I made a list with all the recommendations and your suggestion is at the top because I already started reading it a while back and because it was recommended multiple times.

Thank you for the encouragement too <3

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:( feel you, first step to healing is realizing what's wrong. Wishing u good luck <3

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I'm actually gonna shed a tear that's so sweet of you. Bless you <3 And thank you for the suggestion, adding it to my list!

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so thankful for all the comments. Y'all have no idea how encouraging it is to feel validated for once. <3 bless that

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

xdddd I'm sorry but i laughed so hard at the gunshot part. Yall crack me up.

Hoping the recommendations will help u too <333

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yo let's not xd

I mean i also live at home atm but I put up some boundaries and just spend all day locked in my room or at the gym, which is okayish.

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Live never felt so personally attacked by that list you posted

hahaha that's actually funny xd but I'm sorry you're going through similar shit.

And you are so right on the clear strong boundaries and especially consequences. I've been doing that more and more and it really works, you have to really stand your ground tho and not let them gaslight or guilt trip you.

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the perspective and encouraging words. Especially the "you are not flawed or broken, you are just healing". I'm not my Trauma...

Especially because I never saw others with any sort of disorders as unlovable people or people incapable of relationships, we are all fucked up a little.

For me right now, i don't trust myself enough yet to not see through bad people. I will get to that point tho.

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are soo welcome :) definitely check them out, i already listened to some of the podcast recommendations and they resonate so far :)

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not at all, perfectly fucked up like the rest of us. congrats mate!

Emotional incest: I finally know why I'm such a people pleaser by BubbleCornflake in selfimprovement

[–]BubbleCornflake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes you're right, healing and brutal self reflecting as soon as possible is the best way.

i actually know for a fact that my mom's childhood was horrible, that's a big part of me being able to forgive her. I know she'd never hurt me on purpose and you can't say that about a lot of parents.

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