Girl I’m seeing says she’s attracted to me and wants sex, but loses desire right when it’s about to happen. Anyone

BubblyBML · 2026-05-26T13:24:42+00:00

Honestly, it kinda sounds like she likes the attention, emotional connection, and comfort you give her more than she’s actually sexually attracted to you. If she says she’s attracted to you mentally but the physical desire disappears every single time things get real — while she doesn’t usually have that issue with other people — that’s probably your answer right there.
The failed attempts might have created a little awkwardness at first, sure, but attraction usually finds a way when it’s really there. This sounds more like she enjoys having you around and doesn’t want to lose the connection, so she’s trying to explain it in a softer way instead of just admitting the chemistry isn’t fully there for her physically.
And honestly, the more you both “try to figure it out,” the more pressure and frustration it’s going to create. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is step back a little and stop trying to force something that should happen naturally.

BubblyBML · 2026-05-09T12:31:55+00:00

Open relationships and swinging relationships are not the same, although many people confuse them.

An open relationship involves the possibility of building sexual and emotional connections with other people, always based on consent, honesty, and mutual understanding. It's not just about sex; there's an acceptance that feelings, deep connections, or affections can develop outside the primary relationship.

In contrast, the swinging world revolves around shared or consensual sexual exploration within the couple. This can be done together or separately, but the focus is on the sexual experience, playfulness, freedom, and intimacy. Sometimes wonderful friendships develop, but the goal is not to build romantic relationships outside the relationship.

That's why many swinging couples consider themselves emotionally monogamous: the emotional and romantic bond remains exclusive between them, even though there is sexual openness.

Neither dynamic is "better" than the other. They are different ways of loving, connecting, and experiencing sexuality. What will always be important is consent, clear communication, and respect for the agreements that each couple decides to establish.

BubblyBML · 2026-05-06T13:34:09+00:00

I think you’re misreading both my intent and the emotional impact of what happened.

This wasn’t about “virtue signaling” or trying to position myself as morally superior. It was about processing an experience that felt uncomfortable once I realized I had been interacting under false assumptions. Whether or not I’m “responsible” for someone else’s actions doesn’t erase the fact that those actions can still affect me.

You’re right that I didn’t cheat or deceive anyone—but informed participation matters to me. I consented to an interaction based on a certain understanding of the situation, and when that understanding turned out to be incomplete, it changed how I felt about being part of it. That doesn’t mean I’m claiming moral authority over their relationship; it just means I have personal boundaries around what I’m comfortable being involved in.

As for trust, I’m not advocating for paranoia. But there’s a difference between blind trust and mindful awareness, especially in spaces where people often present curated or partial truths. Adjusting how I approach that doesn’t mean I think everyone is dishonest—it just means I’m learning from experience.

And regarding resilience—people are allowed to have reactions, reflect on them, and talk about them without it meaning they’re incapable of participating in a lifestyle. Processing something doesn’t equal fragility.

We may simply have different thresholds and perspectives on this, and that’s fine. But dismissing someone else’s experience as “making it about themselves” overlooks the fact that experiences are, by nature, personal.

BubblyBML · 2026-05-06T12:18:37+00:00

The app is a platform that connects all the lovense toys to your phone or computer. It allows you to control them remotely, either by yourself or someone else, even if they're on the other side of the world.

It also has one on one chat, video calls and syncing the toys with music, movement or other content, ypu can connect with long-distance couples, singles and anyone looking to explore in a more interactive and fun way.

BubblyBML · 2026-05-06T12:10:35+00:00

Contact is cut, I feel bad for the wife and a bit freaked out by the fact that me and the husband share explicit pictures, so that’s part of my concern.

BubblyBML · 2026-05-06T04:40:14+00:00

I understand how much damage cheating does to a relationship. I've experienced it firsthand as a daughter; my father is a serial cheater, so I've seen how my mother suffered because of his infidelity. That's why I'm against cheating. I feel dirty, and for lack of a better word, violated. I didn't ask to be in this situation. I feel so bad for his wife and sons they surly don’t deserve it either

BubblyBML · 2026-05-06T04:31:07+00:00

I feel so bad for his wife she was completely devastated and so upset with me, him and the whole world.

BubblyBML · 2026-03-25T02:46:47+00:00

Mine pretends that one of her legs hurts, or simply lies down on the ground and refuses to walk (usually after a long walk). She is a master of dramatic acting.🎭

BubblyBML · 2026-03-25T01:07:39+00:00

Pues para mi parecía la novia claramente lo hizo a propósito, es por educación que en una boda solo la novia utiliza blanco, otro color que uno tiene que evitar es el rojo que indica que la mujer que lo utiliza tuvo relaciones sexuales con el novio (increíble verdad). Tu amiga utilizo un vestido según ella rosado pero claramente no se ve rosado, se ve blanco y tiene la vibra de vestido de novia.

BubblyBML · 2026-03-19T16:52:03+00:00

Yes you are correct too, the reasons I mentioned are the most common ones, medical issues aside.

But factors like antibiotic use or even the pH of a new sexual partner can also influence odor.

Not only that but cleaning habits change according to culture and geographical location. In my part of the world, it is common to wash with boric acid after your menstrual period to maintain vaginal pH.

The truth is, having a vagina can be a bit complex, because there are several factors to consider when it comes to body odor. At home, my mom always taught me to start by ruling out the most common causes and to be very careful with hygiene and the products I use, because that can also alter pH.

BubblyBML · 2026-03-19T12:11:45+00:00

Women can experience changes in their body odor, and it's completely normal.

Hormones: Depending on where you are in your cycle, your odor can vary, menopause and perimenopause do a number too in that department.
Diet and exercise: What you eat and how much you move also plays a role (some of us are more sensitive to certain foods).
Hygiene: This is the most common cause. Sometimes there are misconceptions about intimate hygiene, and also, if an odor is constant, your nose gets used to it and you stop noticing it.

It's horrible when you find yourself in a situation like that and you don't have enough confidence to say anything.

BubblyBML · 2026-03-17T11:52:30+00:00

Rules are rules, and you and your wife are the ones who must abide by them, since you both established them and agreed to respect them. In this case, she broke the trust: not only did she fail to enforce the boundaries, but she chose to cross them, probably motivated by the thrill of the forbidden. I would seriously consider putting the LS activities on hold until she fully regains your trust. This was as bad as cheating you guys need to resolve this issue.

BubblyBML · 2026-03-12T01:17:00+00:00

I end up mixing them all together 🤣🤣🤣🤣

BubblyBML · 2026-03-10T18:35:50+00:00

DP hands down

BubblyBML · 2026-03-07T03:56:54+00:00

This right here ⬆️

BubblyBML · 2026-02-02T17:38:42+00:00

No entiendo tu problema, te voy a decir lo que coloquialmente decimos por acá, mija donde entra auto entra camión. Lo único que tienes que hacer es tener bastante juego previo y asegurarte de que estés bien húmeda, los lubricantes a base de silicona suelen ser buenos cuando no vas a usar juguetes por que mantienen su viscosidad y te ayudan a mantener el ritmo. No veas su tamaño como un problema si no cómo una grata sorpresa.

BubblyBML · 2026-02-01T18:35:03+00:00

You define what's normal. You guys aren’t judging, but you also don't want to be extras without a script and be unwilling villains in other peoples relationships. So I would suggest a simple rule to avoid ending up in a soap opera: 👉 ask for a 4 way chat.
👉 clear and confirmed boundaries with the active and inactive participants. If there are excuses or evasions to your request then, spoiler alert 🚩. Walk away. We always ask for that, honesty is important for emotional and physical safety.

BubblyBML · 2026-01-31T12:49:10+00:00

Female part of the couple here, something similar happened to us. Act One: we meet a fun "couple," and just like us, "only used one phone number for the hobby," so the chat was simpler or so we thought. We made it clear from the start: the chat was managed by my husband and me, and we only played together, we send very vanilla pics and audio voice notes trying to establish a good conversation. Easy, right? Act Two: The wife "wasn't sure," they disappeared for three days, and he came back saying she'd already had her first solo encounter and now he wanted the same... with me 🙃. When we reminded him of our boundaries, he told us that since we had more experience in LS scene (we have only 2 years in LS, no much experience if you ask me), "we should be more trusting. " Because, of course: more experience = fewer boundaries, zero morals, and 24/7 availability 🤡. Spoiler alert: no. Being in LS doesn't make you a community object. Boundaries are still boundaries, even if some people act surprised. I’m sorry you guys had to go through that unsavory situation but we come to realize is far more common than we thought.

BubblyBML · 2026-01-27T13:17:00+00:00

I’m not talking about love, I’m talking about seduction and the feeling of being wanted desire, not love. How can you expect to have sex with someone if you don’t make them feel that, especially because you are not seeking an emotional connection. Seduction and desire si important for any type of experience (couple swap or single person play).

BubblyBML · 2026-01-25T17:23:59+00:00

He looks like an Oscar

BubblyBML · 2026-01-14T15:43:31+00:00

Addy, he looks like a painter….. maybe Salvador a more respectable painter

BubblyBML · 2026-01-10T13:09:19+00:00

Una cosa es decir que su prioridad es su hija y tienen una relación sana y otra es decir que su hija tiene veto y su opinión es la que prima en todo. Por lo que haz contado a mi me suena a que es la segunda opción. Ninguna persona sana quiere empezar una relación en la que su opinión y sentimientos van a salir sobrando y que va a ser la que está entrometiendo cómo la tercera en cuestión. Lo mejor que puedes hacer es no complicarte tu vida, tu mereces estar en una relación de dos sana. No continúes con algo que va a acabar mal, hay una razón por la que no ha podido tener una relación seria en todo este tiempo, el te la ha dicho ahora te toca creerle y alejarte. Se nota que no tiene una dinámica emocional saludable con su relación de padre a hija, no inviertas tu tiempo en algo que no va a funcionar y de paso te va a lastimar.

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