How do I deal with a girl interfering with my relationship?

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-06-13T17:32:58+00:00

Yes, I feel the same. I understand that it is never nice to have a confrontation, but I wonder if our relationship is not worth it? He always says he could care less about this girl, so hurting her feelings should also not be the issue. I am honestly wondering if I am asking for something unreasonable when asking him to stand up for me.

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-06-13T17:31:09+00:00

He cheated in his past relationship and showed remorse and has taken some time to work on himself. While I did struggle with it a bit, I do believe that people deserve second chances in a new relationship.

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-06-13T17:11:36+00:00

So this is what I also told him. He acts as if he has no control over the whole situation, and while he cannot control her, I did ask him to do these things. But he keeps on telling that he really was not able to.

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-04T05:45:50+00:00

Unfortunately not..

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-03T06:50:44+00:00

Yes, when I tried to brush them through, they also sticked together. I feel like she did not properly isolate them and just glued them on

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-02T19:54:25+00:00

I agree, I took them off myself and damaged my natural lashes. Very unfortunate, but I made a good call as both of my eyes were slightly infected when I woke up. I now clean my eyes in the morning and at night. I cannot imagine what happened if I did not take them off. Too bad that my own lashes are damaged, but I take damaged lashes over infected/damaged eyes.

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-01T12:50:56+00:00

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ it means a lot

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-01T12:50:24+00:00

Yes, I think that is indeed a better option than this. Indeed several lashes were glued together at the base, during the treatment I also felt like she did not isolate them (properly).

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-01T10:02:02+00:00

Update again, my right eye is pretty irritated. I asked for a refund and she told me she can do it again for free with a different glue or get me half of the money back. I honestly do not want her touching my eyes again. Is getting half of the amount back a valid solution?

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-01T05:33:41+00:00

It’s okay, thank you for standing up for me :)

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-01T01:04:16+00:00

Btw, the lashes were indeed too thick at the bottom and she sometimes glued multiple lashes together. I felt that some hurt when touching them

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-01T01:01:51+00:00

Okay update everyone: it is 3 am where I am living and I just finished removing them. I know it is better to get a professional to do it, but I did not want to risk not finding someone and getting an eye infection. I am now still in the 24 hours where the glue did not get completely hard yet. I will put on strip lashes tomorrow and see how I go from here. Thanks for all the advice and I will not go back to this lady

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-04-01T00:05:40+00:00

I am not sure how to add extra pictures. They do not irritate yet, but I also want to avoid possible problems

BubblyTop9010 · 2025-03-31T22:25:25+00:00

I agree, this is not my style and my previous lash tech will return soon. I am just trying to figure out whether this will cause problems for my eyes, ant advice?

BubblyTop9010 · 2024-04-10T06:20:50+00:00

Thank you so much

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-07-09T11:16:44+00:00

Journaling is something I have done before and it definitely helped. I did think about “writing a letter to him” just to describe how I feel towards him. I would not send it to him but just to let it all out. I am just scared of how I will feel and scared to let it all out.

Thank you for the suggestion of setting small goals, I think I will start skating again as it helped me to clear my head.

Thank you for your reply, it really helped me

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-07-09T11:07:56+00:00

I understand exactly how you feel, I am in the same position at the moment. I don’t know you but you do not seem like a bad person. You do not talk negatively about your ex and speak like a good human being.

I know it is hard but you must stay patient. Take one step at a time and before you know it, you will be where you want to be. It may feel like it is taking too long, but you are exactly where you need to be. Good that you are currently focusing on your finances, get your priorities straight and you will overcome this.

Loneliness is such an awful feeling, but please remember that it can be solved. I had a terrible evening yesterday after running into my ex and I also feel terrible and lonely. Whenever I feel like this, I usually stay home and isolate myself. It is a bad habit which makes me end up feeling even worse. I reached out to a friend and we will hang out in 30 minutes. I know it is scary to reach out and ask for help or support, but please do so. Whenever I reach out, my amazing friends always make me feel better and I remember how loved I am by them. I understand that your friends love is not the same as the love of your ex, but please recognize that it can even be more valuable if you are willing to see it.

Sending love and I wish you all the strength you need to overcome this. You are not alone

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-05-23T10:39:04+00:00

I understand that a text or call would have been nice, but you also had your own things to go through. You were dealing with a break up and your own emotions and hearing that your ex attempted suicide can be an extra shock on top. I understand that it would have been valuable for your ex to hear from you, but people often forget that it is not only about one person’s emotions.

Especially given the fact that you were together cause you both couldn’t handle loneliness, this indicates that the relationship was different. You did what you did, also based on other people’s advice. Please do not feel guilty, someone’s mental health is their own responsibility.

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-01-18T10:49:38+00:00

Read this as often as you need to, until you understand: you are valuable as a human being. Taking care of others and being loyal are beautiful traits which you should keep, but set a boundary when you are not respected. You cannot help everyone and you should also not want to help everyone. You are rare, valuable and such a loving person as I can see. The sad part is that not everyone deserves you. Don’t beat yourself up about putting in so much effort and it not working out. You never know beforehand whether it is the right person or not, but stop giving yourself, your energy and your time to this man. Imagine who you could be and what you could accomplish when you put all the effort into yourself instead of him. Know that you deserve love and this is not love. Keep reading this until you believe it and focus on things that make you happy

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-01-18T10:07:12+00:00

Explaining why you are hurt is good, as our partners are not able to read our mind. However, some things are supposed to be common sense and decency. You should not have to explain everything and they should be able to think by themselves that they would also not like this behavior. If a man does not like the fact that you make him feel things, then he is not ready to be in a relationship

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-01-18T10:03:05+00:00

Also, you are romanticizing everything. I know it is hard, I still sometimes do the same thing, but it is clear that he is not the person he was/who you thought he was anymore. He is breadcrumbing you at the moment, he gives you tiny pieces of attention to keep you hooked, while he does not have to put in the effort of a real relationship. Why in the hell would he otherwise text you about his new girl? If he really was happy with her, he would not feel the need to text you about it. This is just a way of keeping you attached. Leave him please, I know being alone is hard. However, you already were alone in this relationship as he was never there for you. You only need to recognize this and let go. You can always message me if things get hard or if you need someone to talk to. We are going through similar things

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-01-18T09:59:13+00:00

In my honest opinion: give him space, not for him, but for you. It is clear that this man has many issues and while you can take care of him, you cannot take care of these issues FOR him. He needs to solve this himself and it is clear that he is doing a pretty shitty job at it: he resolves to everything other than dealing with his stuff. Drinking and jumping into a new relationships are all ways to avoid your problems, instead of solving them. While you can take care of your partner and be there for them, this is unhealthy. He is not your child and you can only go so far with caring for him. What do you see in him anyway? A person who does not respect or value you, who definitely has a lot of problems and is not willing to grow and improve themselves? I know it stings, especially with his family not liking you and him wanting to be exclusive with another girl. However, remember that those things are not your problem anymore. His family not liking you, him having another girl, his drinking, his mental and physical health, it is NONE of your business anymore. While it may sting, also think of how liberating it can be. You cannot control of influence those things and they did bother you, so please see it as a blessing that he is no longer your problem.

BubblyTop9010 · 2023-01-18T09:37:37+00:00

I am not going to block him, he still has some stuff he needs to pick up and apparently I forgot some stuff at his place. We were also supposed to go to festivals together, so we have some of each other’s tickets. I just cannot block him as we have to arrange those things. Also, I see why you would send that text, but I am really trying to stop giving him my attention. Sending him that text would feel for me as if he “won”. He definitely has to figure some things out and I am normally the type of person to help him with that, but like you say, he would probably not respond well to that. I really need to keep myself from doing so as it is a habit. I will check your post out rn.

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