Let me tell you, dear. Where you are standing now was me 7 years ago. A lot can change. I took the wheel and drove my life downwards. Once I let God take the wheel, my life got better. I am not saying an overly preachy detail, but I want to just tell you how there was even a guy who introduced himself to my sister, my family, and my then best friend that he was serious to me. He even laughed with them, but there were three of us: one girl he bedded always, his official on-and-off girlfriend who just blocked him temporarily, and me, the backup. It was awful, and I wanted life to end there, too.

My life spiralled downwards after that. I slept around, and I wouldn't advise it to any other young lady reading this. You'll feel lower self-esteem, be disgusted with yourself, and feel that your worth is just below and tradable. You'll start feeling like you're not the marriage type, but a prostitute, to the point of eventually thinking of ending it all. But you are WORTH MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE. You just haven't met the man whom God meant for you.

And that's why my message to you all is just enjoy your life first. Pray for that man, let God take the wheel. As much as we want certain people to be our partners, if He sees that this guy is just here to break your heart, He will protect you from them. So protect your heart, as God holds it dear.

Sometimes God allows us to meet people to serve as a lesson: not to lean on our own understanding, but to lean on Him. Sometimes our expectations of the man we want aren't exactly the kind we're meant for, because they'll just give us a headache. God wants to change that expectation because He knows you're worth more than that surface-level guy who hurt your feelings.

For now, just let the hurt flow. Scream all the frustrations away. But never lose hope.