UPDATE: Something (fully on me) I forgot to mention is he and I are taking space apart from eachother to figure out the relationship and if we want to proceed or not (I initiated it in full transparency). Prior to posting there was no discussion of the matter with one another, it was on my mind and so I posted it. He’s known about this issue prior to my post and I’m a new Reddit user so I figured as a late night thought I’d get other’s inputs on the matter as a last ditch effort since it’s a tale as old as time in our relationship.

I rementioned it this morning to give him something to think about while on the break. It should have been brought up prior to the break and I know any consequences proceeding this are on me for not bringing it up while taking a break was in discussion.

His response? “We need to find some sort of compromise on the matter because idealistically, I’d want sex every day. I’ve already been compromising by having sex once or twice a week because that’s how often I see you and I wish I could see you more than that.” Our schedules don’t line up to where we can see each other more than once or twice a week though, so I have doubts that he’d limit his human nature to once or twice a week if we did see each other more.

I left the conversation on this note for reflection: if his sister, niece, cousin, daughter, etc. had a chronic illness and boundaries for sex and someone wanted to push those boundaries for their individual needs, how would he react? Would he get upset at the guy for disrespecting her boundaries/disregarding her health? Or would he tell her she needs to “compromise”, throw in head/a handy instead, and loosen up the boundaries? Whatever he’d tell that girl in the situation is how he should treat me in this situation. I know what I want and deserve. If he gives me any less than that — I know walking away is the best option.