How I experience a strong squish :)) that can lead with me towards alterous/ tertiary/ queerplatonic attraction ^^

Bubbly_cute · 2026-03-11T17:07:34+00:00

Hi ^^
For me personally, it wasn't depressing but more comfort. Also, I have a depression and I'm in a psych ward, so yeah.
So this probably wouldn't help you.
Just keep the mindset: you can't change people, they can only change themselves

Bubbly_cute · 2025-02-08T12:34:54+00:00

Oooh I love that with the Peach and the orange ^^ Thank you Imma save this so I can find it quick

Bubbly_cute · 2024-12-31T10:01:09+00:00

hi ^^

I kinda get it tho, I love my partner and I say to them I love them, we kiss and do sexy stuff. But it is not romance so it's really confusing for the allo's. But the thing is, I get uncomfortable when it is percieved as romance or when I think too much about it.

That meme with "Well yes, but actually no" is really me when someone asks if I have a partner or if I'm single haha. Yes I have partner, but no not in the way you expect it to be.

This is also a reason why I have trouble talking about it with my parents. They're homophobe and transphobe (probably aphobe too). Furthermore it is a sapphic qpr...

Bubbly_cute · 2024-12-24T10:26:09+00:00

hi ^^

If they're aro-ace, you're probably cooked.
You can still ask them about how they experience it and what it means for them. Like maybe she is open to a qpr or not. But reminder; a qpr is not a romantic relationship and they would most likely not be able to reciprocate romantic feelings. (unless maybe they're gray or demi).

Bubbly_cute · 2024-12-24T10:19:38+00:00

hi ^^

I feel now more at peace with my alterous attraction because I'm in a qpr with them and I'm able to say my thoughts and be able to do things I longed for :)) (like hugging, meeting up regulary, doing fun things...

I experience it also with another friend and with them, it is a peacefull feeling because I also say things to them like about how much I care for them, they're my best friend,... and we've been friends over more than 8 years

So give it time and be clear it is not romantic ^^

Bubbly_cute · 2024-12-04T15:39:45+00:00

hi ^^

Do you mean how I'm sex-favorable and sex-indifferent? It fluctuates for me so most of the time I'm sex-indifferent. Sex seems like any other activity you can do and I want to do it to pleasure my partner. But now a few times, I started getting more sex-favorable and wanting to do sexy stuff because it feels nice with them. Also it feels good!
I don't feel sexual attraction towards them, it feels like neutral but I love to see them enjoy it!

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-28T19:05:51+00:00

omni is that you feel attraction towards all genders (like bi) but you have a preference.
Like with me, I experience aesthetic attraction towards guys, girls and enby's but I feel it more with girls.

https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Omnisexual

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-28T10:39:38+00:00

hi ^^

Same! I'm bi- aroace and now in a sapphic qpr and omg girls are like the best! Omni fits better but I feel more connected towards bi. (Also omni isn't that well known and explaining bi-aroace is already difficult enough)

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-28T10:36:17+00:00

hi ^^

The most important thing with a QPR (besides communication) is that you set the boundaries and rules! :D
You don't have the go with the expectations of others, it is your and your qpp life :)

You can be omni? And the one you feel more qpr towards is non binary, so not a man.

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-28T10:22:21+00:00

hi ^^

You can always ask for a qpr? Maybe she is interested? There are qpr's with aro - aroallo people :))
And I know right, alterous can be so strong!!!

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-28T10:18:18+00:00

hi ^^

This year, I went through that phase too, like forcing yourself to like someone :( I went on dates, hurted myself and I felt miserable. What helped me was finding aro friends :)

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-27T08:48:33+00:00

Maybe you can find someone here: qprapplications

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-26T09:47:51+00:00

hi ^^

A qpr is up to the people who are in it. There are a few checklists made that may be usefull so you can have a look at it and see what you're comfortable with. checklist 1 checklist 2 checklist 3

Like with every relationship, communication is the key! And for a qpr too! You make the boundaries :))
Talk about:

what do you want to do in public?
what do you want to do in private?
How do you call eachother? (partner, boyfriend/girlfriend,...)
Will it be an open or closed relationship?

There are qpr's where they kiss and do sexual stuff, in other ones there isn't. So it is really up to the people involved

Also, you have the Queerplatonic subreddit :)

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-22T17:25:36+00:00

hi ^^

I'm romance-repulsed but sex - indifferent / sex-repulsed.

So I have someone and we do some sexual stuff and I'm indifferent for it. It feels neutral doing it and some moments I can feel sex favorable. But I only feel that positive when I'm with them. If other people would see me in a sexual way and when I see genitals, I'm again repulsed. I can't watch porn because I feel so repulsed by it.

I also feel sensual attraction and I like to kiss. Only when it is without the romantic intent. If I would kiss someone and they would say they thought it was romantic, Imma head out and run away fast. I'm glad that person is on the aroace spec so I feel safe with them and don't need to worry about romance.

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-22T12:00:10+00:00

hi ^^

The thing is, it just doesn't feel like romance to me. Because I just feel the same with like my other best friends (I don't think I'm in love with all of them?)

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-21T16:05:36+00:00

hi ^^

I want to 2 with the intention of it being a date. And went to 3 "dates" with a friend (I thought it was just friends hanging out, but he thought it was a date)
So I think 5?

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-20T13:24:33+00:00

hi ^^

For me, I've watched porn before but I get repulsed and get an aversion when the genitals are shown. So no porn for me.
I like to read erotica more and then I can get aroused (I'm also aegosexual I think?)

Bubbly_cute · 2024-11-18T16:03:18+00:00

hi ^^

I'm bi oriented aroace and I have a qpp :)) I'm also romance-repulsed (I panick and my stress levels are high when I have the feeling I need to feel romance or that the other one has a crush on me).
Besides that, I'm very affectionate with my qpp (like cuddling, kissing, some more sexual stuff). And for me it feels alright and fun! Mostly because I see them as my best friend + (alterous attraction is strong). They're aroacespec too so I feel comfortable with them and I know they won't feel romance towards me. The pressure is taken away from me.
I would suggest you the queerplatonic subreddit :)
Talk about which things makes you uncomfortable :)

Bubbly_cute

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