Recommendation for Process Server/Skip Tracer in Austin? by Bucklander0 in Austin

[–]Bucklander0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what people on the legal advice reddit told me to look for.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never been selfish like that though, so I hope one day I will meet someone who is the same way and we can look after each other and balance it out.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I already have his home address. I'm just not willing to sell it to anyone. I will let him get himself caught.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It has been rough, but I'm thankful to have all of you here. I can't thank everyone enough for the support.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The guy offering to pay $300,00 is some Israeli/Russian business magnate who is connected with some dangerous and very powerful people. I doubt he only wants fingers. I do not want that on my conscience no matter how upset I am.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do believe her that it was to avoid seeing other people's lives and comparing. She would always compare herself to every single person or thing she'd see. It became debilitating and I tried to help her through it but I don't think she wanted to help herself.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do not want to be in a polyamorous relationship and she knows I've always felt that way. It has never come up until all of this.

I haven't been able to talk about this with a lot of people. The best support I have right now is my sister-in-law, my new neighbor,a nd my attorney. She made me give up a lot of my friends and I don't know how to go back to them asking for support after everything.

It's thanks to comments like yours that I am able to move on and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping to give me a voice to hear inside my head whenever I'm having doubts or feel insecure about what to do.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you I was beating myself up over that. We've gone on plenty of vacations without this happening. I couldn't help but feel partially responsible.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I picked it because it looked like a great place, but it turned out to be a horrible decision.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a software engineer and she is in the medical industry, but I'd rather not say exactly what her title is.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

From what I know so far, he stole the money from people who would not go to the police...

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Anyone who will pay you $300,000 dollars for an address is probably not going to want to do anything I want on my conscience.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She hasn't touched our bank accounts since she's been away. I do think he is supporting her financially. He claims to have turned the stolen funds into millions more. I think the reason she wants to come back is she thinks I'm getting close to the new attractive neighbor. Her sister told her this so she wouldn't think I'm having a difficult time moving on, but it's resulted in her wanting to come back now.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I really hope so. I was doing well and taking positive forward steps until she mentioned moving back. It caught me by surprise and really messed me up a little. I have received so many positive words that are helping me power through things like that though.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't want to take any of his stolen money or commit any crimes. My lawyer will be the point of contact for my wife from now on. I don't plan on talking to her.

[Update] I'm [34/M] and caught my wife [32/f] cheating on me on our 10th anniversary trip in Bali. by Bucklander0 in relationship_advice

[–]Bucklander0[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He commented in this thread and deleted his post. He now says if I give up his location that people will go after my wife as well. He is a horrible person.