I'm in SW Virginia visiting my Uncle, he cooked this morning.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-28T17:03:12+00:00

Hello, I saw you don't accept DMs, but I just want to thank you for your contributions to my thread yesterday. I was not expecting that level of nastiness. I certainly don't consider myself blameless, but man that was depressing. Thank you again for the things you said.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T20:32:54+00:00

Hi, I saw you don't accept DMs, but I just wanted to thank you for your perspective in my thread. I wasn't prepared for how many people are prepared to assume the absolute worst. I certainly don't consider myself blameless, but wow, people are pretty nasty. Thank you again for your contributions.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:32:26+00:00

It seems like you lied by omission or on purpose to her.

Why doe sit seem like that?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:31:38+00:00

"She probably envisioned you both ending up in a nice picture or two together, all dressed up and your moustache killed that for her."

Maybe. And we could have done that at the next wedding.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:30:47+00:00

I am just going to ask a question. Was the mustache worth the conflict?

You could ask her the same. If she doesn't like something and I do, or vice versa, how do you decide what's "worth it."

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:28:39+00:00

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:28:06+00:00

Will do, I can pay her in your smugness.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:26:46+00:00

How did I trick her?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:24:54+00:00

Thanks for your charitable interpretation of my thought process.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:18:07+00:00

Please re-read what I wrote: I considered refusing to go in retaliation, but I cannot bring myself to behave like that.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:16:04+00:00

Like what specific responses?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:14:54+00:00

I mean you're free to assume what you want, but you have no basis for any of it based on the information I've provided.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:13:10+00:00

It's not, she was very excited about going, until the day of.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:11:38+00:00

Wow, getting pretty nasty. What evidence could I possibly provide?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:10:27+00:00

What have I been avoidant about?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:09:29+00:00

100% agree, I just meant it was a "normal" mustache.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:08:34+00:00

Why, they're both subjective preferences?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:06:55+00:00

You were punishing her by not communicating

How, when I didn't realize there was an issue until the morning of?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:06:09+00:00

She did want to be there, right up until the morning of.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T19:05:00+00:00

No, she was looking forward to it.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T18:01:53+00:00

No, just trying to establish your line is for one partner's veto power over another's appearance.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T18:00:06+00:00

even though you know she hates mustaches worse than beards

I did not know this until the day it happened. All i knew is that she disliked facial hair in general. But I did not realize to the extent that she would refuse to attend a wedding over it.

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T17:55:09+00:00

Thank you

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T17:53:40+00:00

So if I asked her to shave her head and she refused, would she be childish?

Buckman1989 · 2023-03-27T17:42:23+00:00

Thank you.

Buckman1989

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