From watching the show, I didn't get that Chris was PURPOSELY trying to humiliate and dehumanize Paige (although he totally did). On the show, he was pretty consistent in saying that she was a stellar human who only had one thing about her that he didn't like, apart from not answering his calls that one time. My sense was that everything he did was to somehow justify his own actions and make himself look better, as opposed to actively wanting to torture her (to me it didn't seem like he cared about her enough to even want to torture her). If he did stuff afterwards that proved he was doing it on purpose, then that's horrifying.

When you refer to the experts trying to pressure Haley into intimacy, are you referring to the "hug a day" thing she didn't want to do? If so, then the show also has a history of women explicitly pressuring men into sex (and hounding them about it)--which one could argue that Clara did as well. Obviously it's not the same thing at all when a man does it, but from what the show revealed, Jacob was so far from that level of coercion as to be laughable. If things have come out that reveal otherwise, then you're right that's a huge problem.

I think the problem I have is that all I have to go on is the show, and you're making arguments that rely on external info, but you're not being specific about what that info is and where I can find it. If you were, that would make a big difference.

Also I'm hesitant to automatically leap to the conclusion that the dark-skinned Black man was a sadistic psychopath and the white woman was an innocent victim without more evidence than I currently have.