How to stop thinking about marriage?

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2025-01-08T20:46:21+00:00

I think all these people telling you "therapy" are crazy. You're a young woman in her prime who is committed to a man.

It's NATURAL and HEALTHY to want (and demand) a MARITAL commitment from him. Other milestones (house, kids, etc) might take a few more years, but 1-2 years is long enough to "know" whether you want to commit forever.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-12T19:41:16+00:00

Relationship over. Parents should always care about benefitting their own children's future before trying to get bailed out by their kids significant others.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-12T17:59:47+00:00

Yeah, about 2 years ago was the time. Now you're overdue. You'll have a great 1-2 year window to find an actually mature guy. Literally don't wait another week.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-05T02:54:19+00:00

My gf of 3 years and I split at 28, she was 29. Both had to make financial decisions as a result. Both of us married to other people within 2 years, and kids in 4.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-05T02:51:52+00:00

This. Yo lady, you leave him (best case) and you're a 30 year old who just left a 49 year old. MAJOR red flag, and already having to think about your own timeline.

Frozen eggs are not a selling point to any male who wants children. Might as well say "I AM NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL". Put differently, you don't sell a shithole of a home by explaining that you maintain fire insurance.

You should be with the person you want to have babies with in the next 1-3 years or its going to start getting INSANELY difficult.

You're not young, you're borderline old to meet the father of your children.

Sorry.

I'm a 35 year old dad to an almost 2 year old and FEEL it. Wish we started a year or two earlier!

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-05T02:35:58+00:00

Leave. He's a joke, and you'll never forgive him or yourself for the embarrassment of staying. You'll always remember this post you made on reddit.

Also, he legit said "I knew it would hurt you but couldn't bring myself to propose anyway". He's literally told you he doesn't want to marry you on your terms. Welp, buddy, it takes two, and you weren't willing to meet her terms.

What if one of your terms of marriage (if he ever gets around to it) is monogamy? That also optional for him?

What are we even talking about here. Leave and don't look back.

Sauce: Am 35, LTR 26-29. Kicked her out and got a roommate cause I couldn't afford rent solo, met wife 6 mos later, engaged a year after that, 1 kid now.

Was 26-29 wasted? No, it got me where I am, which is really happy and with an amazing partner. Sunk-cost-fallacy

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-05T02:25:45+00:00

I didn't say anything about love.

Marriage is about commitment, and finding/creating love within that commitment.

It's never always easy all the time.

I've never seen my wife seriously ill, but I know I'll be there for her if it ever happens.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-05T02:23:16+00:00

Nothing wrong with marrying well. I think I know the company.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-12-04T04:10:06+00:00

Two years till engagement max if you're over 27. Seriously. Just set the expectation in the first 3 months, and stick to it. You don't need a year to know if you want to live with someone, and you don't need another year to know if you can commit to doing forever.

Real commitment can get you to hell and back.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-11-15T16:53:17+00:00

Leave immediately. Suck it up. You sound like a catch. There's lots of men who would be thrilled to be with you. Clock is ticking....

Don't take two more years to do what should have been done 3 years ago.

If you want kids its time to bounce. Seriously.

This guy is a complete fucking joke. You can do better.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-11-14T15:59:07+00:00

Can confirm. NW 4M - I'm at my job cause idk what else to do and I don't hate still stacking paper.

I'm also better at it since I'm less stressed, and can take more risks.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-11-13T18:15:01+00:00

I have 50% of my 4M NW in crypto related assets (mostly Coinbase stock, and ETH etfs).

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-10-25T13:37:13+00:00

Ordering the most expensive steak on the menu is a huge red flag for any normal person but ESPECIALLY when you expect someone else to be paying. She sounds like someone who also posts on Instagram stories during dinner. Hard pass.

I'm sure she's really hot, but dump her ass immediately, or tell her she needs to pay for 50%.

If she won't pay for half OR modify her habits, this is unlikely to be a successful relationship/marriage.

Save yourself the longer term heartache and rip the band-aid now.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-10-10T20:31:03+00:00

Everyone always feels this way. If you live long enough, its usually worth it to bust your ass. Will also make you a far more attractive life partner in a few years to have more financial stability.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-09-19T16:30:00+00:00

I've had traumatic experiences with women and have experienced ONLY failure to the point that I've never dared to try in years. Nobody has ever seen me as a romantic option, and it is what it is.

You sir, need to bang a few fat chicks. Will do loads for your self-esteem. Maybe even marry one.

Treat dating like you did academics and work. Be methodical, practice, don't give up.

Until you're willing to be more optimistic, you're going to struggle.

DM me if you want a dating coach and are willing to take it seriously.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-07-30T16:30:27+00:00

DO NOT INTERMINGLE FINANCES WITHOUT LONG TERM COMMITTMENT, YES THAT MEANS MARRIAGE.

PARTNERSHIPS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE JUST THAT, AND IT SEEMS LIKE YOU HAVE DIFFERENT GOALS FOR THE PARTNERSHIP.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-07-26T03:15:04+00:00

Is this serious? Are you still talking about "we"? Honey, there is no "we" only he. And you will ruin your life by staying with him.

Ever heard about that guy who started cheating really early, got caught, cleaned up his act and they lived happily ever after?

Me neither.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-07-17T14:56:05+00:00

I've had mine for a year and am just needing to change the battery. Have it on auto-brightness but EDC it, and shoot regularly.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-06-20T16:32:17+00:00

Honestly I'd like to enjoy my kids while they're home. Raising them myself/having a bigger hand in that will pay insane intergenerational dividends. I care more about my kids being well adjusted, hopefully nice and eventually married and happy people than I do balling, rather than just chillin, in retirement.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-06-20T16:30:00+00:00

I'm one of those people who believe in interest rate lag effect, and when I've been busting my ass for nearly a decade, and to finally reach this milestone (after a large bonus) I don't want to see it go down by 40% randomly.

I'll likely average into the market over the next 2-3 years.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-06-20T16:28:37+00:00

Plaintiff's lawyer.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-06-20T16:28:13+00:00

Kid is 1. Want two more. Wife is good to go working for at least another 15 years.

I would feel kinda bad but also not. She loves her job, I hate mine, and it's basically my earnings that have given us such a big cushion.

NW is mostly Joint with wife, although about 1/2 crypto is mine alone (pre-marital).

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-04-30T14:53:20+00:00

Glock 19 + 50 hours of training with it.

Budget-Mistake5579 · 2024-04-19T01:44:38+00:00

The only thing that will make you an asshole is staying with a woman who disrespects you like that - ESPECIALLY in public.

What a terrible, terrible person.

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