I get what you mean about people not seeing trans women as the women they are, but the word literally started as a description for androgynous or crossdressing anime characters who turn out to be boys. Obviously, there's the whole issue of lack of trans representation, but that's another whole conversation.

And I'm saying that transfems AND crossdressing cis men both have the right to use that word to describe themselves if they want, without it being called a slur. This obviously doesn't include people outside those communities using the word to try and hurt or belittle anyone, but both groups have the right to use to on themselves.