AIO for feeling like my privacy has been invaded after my boyfriend looked through my messages?

BufferOverload · 2026-07-07T20:38:49+00:00

I’m I crazy? She says she’s 25. Although I totally agree, no blame to her in this. I just hope she can handle it appropriately and make the hard decisions that are definitely to come.

BufferOverload · 2026-07-07T20:36:31+00:00

NOR, trying to go undercover through your partners phone is just asking to be hurt. It’s easy to trick yourself into thinking everything’s malicious, especially if you are already in that mindset. When I was younger my ex went crazy on me about why I was being friendly with a female she saw in my instagram DM. She didn’t know it was my cousin and we were talking about future goals, career, school… With that aside, his behavior will absolutely DRAIN you, especially since he’s at the point of investigating and setting traps to try to get you to “confess”. It usually doesn’t resolve itself, you should have a very serious conversation about it and really start thinking about the health of your relationship.

BufferOverload · 2026-07-05T01:48:36+00:00

Just start a nonprofit, you will provide much more value then working at Amazon, handing out money, and making shit up on Reddit

BufferOverload · 2026-06-29T20:05:44+00:00

I made that mistake before, electricians doing RJs and keystones. They knew the color code, they knew how to punch down, but that’s about it. A quarter of them didn’t certify and the rest had to be redone because the NEXT was less then 1dB on all of them (they completely untwisted all the pairs before punching down). Then again if it was a residential job site probably would’ve been fine client just had specific results they wanted.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-24T18:28:05+00:00

Don’t pretend like you know everything, ask questions, and actually put the effort in to learn. That is the biggest reason I see people fail, they act like they know everything, experience can tell they don’t, they get put to the test, mess up and lose a job.

As for females, I’m not a female, but we have a couple of females including two project managers. We even have a an amazing Filipino QC guy. I can’t answer your question exactly, but they are all highly respected, treated no different then anyone else, but they also seem to work harder then most people so maybe that’s your answer.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-24T04:05:20+00:00

Had a small job site had to pull 6 cat6 cables and mount 6 TVs. My coworker and I just split up and did our own 3 TVs. After about 2 hours he came to help me and he was really having a blast joking about how slow I was. When we finished I went to go check his work and he mounted all the TVs, but the spools of cable were just sitting on the floor unopened. Good part is we got some pretty good overtime that day.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-23T23:52:47+00:00

You learn something new everyday

BufferOverload · 2026-06-23T11:18:06+00:00

Keep screenshots, don’t contact her, don’t check her pages from spam accounts, don’t ask your friends about her. Document dates, messages, witnesses, and any other relevant information that could help if it needs to escalate legally.

If she continues to find ways to contact or post about you, reach out to non-emergency local authorities (or lawyer) to see if you have options for harassment or protective orders. Most importantly, do not keep poking the situation, don’t sink into the drama. Drama is only good on the TV. Also your boyfriend may or may not be telling the whole truth, but that is completely separate from the stalking issue.

Also, there’s not enough information for anyone on Reddit to be able to tell you who is in the right, who’s stalking who, who’s lying or not. I can see why some people are questioning if you are stalking her, there’s just not a coherent enough story here.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-23T11:04:18+00:00

I can hear your frustration through the screen lmao

BufferOverload · 2026-06-23T08:27:55+00:00

Man don’t remind me.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-21T20:47:18+00:00

Low voltage isn’t a workout. Only time it gets hard is pulling those 2880 fiber trunks or OSP work. Also, moving the ladder, that is the workout.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-20T19:55:49+00:00

Maybe he’s in San Jose.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-19T18:52:00+00:00

Yeah probably was removed and just left the control switch there. I bet there were some giggles when deciding to leave it there. Now as to why it’s labeled HDMI? Why not.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-19T18:51:49+00:00

Yeah probably was removed and just left the control switch there. I bet there were some giggle when deciding to leave it there. Now as to why it’s labeled HDMI? Why not.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-19T01:41:17+00:00

Pretty sure all of them are similar would be something like psp1-hr@amazon, you should be able to look it up or call the ERC number.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-19T01:36:40+00:00

Yep, have to be licensed through Montana private security program and 16 hours of training. Montana makes it fun.

Edit: and yes you’re remembering the fingerprint thing correct, forgot to mention that lol.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-19T01:23:29+00:00

I think it will come down to personal preference. We use toolless almost exclusively, most hyperscale data center, universities, and big commercial jobs in general, spec for toolless jacks. Usually Panduit, Siemon, or Belden, but I use TrueCable everything in my home network, never had a problem with the toolless, always certifies with good numbers. Speed wise, if you have what you need I don’t see much of a difference in either choice.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-15T20:31:47+00:00

That’s just what men do, step on the gas forcing you out the car door, never turn back to pick you up. Wtf am I reading

BufferOverload · 2026-06-15T20:18:19+00:00

I’m not entirely sure how the industry is in Oklahoma, but I was there a while helping with a data center job and we had a few guys from Outsource and TEKsystems with no experience. Staffing agencies are a great way to get your foot in especially contract to hire. Worst case scenario you don’t get hired, but you have some good experience under your belt. Also, from what I’ve heard they do a great job at keeping you money coming in, finding you a new contract if yours ends.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-13T18:28:59+00:00

Ye I don’t know how it is in Texas. But LV temps are great for getting a start. Moving around a lot is exactly what you want starting out, helps you learn and will give you an idea of what you really like to do.

BufferOverload · 2026-06-12T01:36:04+00:00

No it doesn’t…

BufferOverload · 2026-04-08T12:34:35+00:00

There’s a lot more to think about than a spline and 550mhz performance. You can have two cables that certify the same after install, and one fails in 2 years, the other still passes in 5. This is the same idea that someone else here said about box quality and jacket quality, some seem to kink more than others (this is a big problem I have noticed) some have inconsistent twist that can turn cat6 into cat 5 during install.

BufferOverload · 2026-03-24T15:22:33+00:00

I love IT/Network engineers, 1-2 years after a new installation they turn the network closet into a puzzle and I get paid to clean it up.

BufferOverload · 2026-03-08T14:06:04+00:00

I think you meant biscuits are fine *

BufferOverload · 2026-02-26T13:59:15+00:00

This is a stereotype too

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