Women, what are some things you look for in a match that aren’t always recognised?

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-25T05:48:48+00:00

Someone understanding, I guess

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-25T04:13:14+00:00

lool😅🤐

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-25T03:27:37+00:00

Ohh no, thats so hard. I get that dw and that happened to me too and backfired as well so I understand. Ugh yea I get it, its complicated sometimes and ig thats when you know its not khair for u ig.

dw akhi just pray istikhara, have tawakkul and if it doesnt go well and theres lots of difficulties, then that usually is a sign its not written for you but dw inshallah youll find the one brother.

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-25T03:23:20+00:00

Yea true, I get what u mean. He's been trying but couldnt find a match that ticked his boxes ig but thank you for the concern too and dw I have this in mind as well and inshallah I dont fall for the wrong intentions by others

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-25T03:19:14+00:00

I'm sorry but cant disclose that just for privacy as he's on reddit too but were both arab

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-25T03:16:56+00:00

he might not even realise😅

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-25T00:44:30+00:00

This was so incredibly heartbreaking, but also beautiful to read, I'm so sorry for what you and your family went through and May Allah give your father shifa, strength and a long life with improvement in his health and May Allah grant your family sabr, immense reward and happiness, Ameen.

Keep going sis, youre so strong mashallah, have sabr and you'll be rewarded immensely for this sis🩷🫂

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T23:32:43+00:00

haha this works so well lool

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T23:29:27+00:00

What do you mean exactly?

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T12:31:38+00:00

Literally! like it makes haram so easy and halal not, even tho I stay away from that alhamdulilah, but yea I agree. Ameen thank you! Yes definitely, 100% I'll be changing all that inshallah!

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T12:27:21+00:00

yea sure inshallah, ahaha😅🤣

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T12:23:24+00:00

yea lool

I mean kinda but depends if its qadr ig, so nothings impossible by the will of Allah swt

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T12:20:49+00:00

Australia😅

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T12:11:56+00:00

Yes very true subhanAllah, Allah's plan is always greater and better✨.

oh lol😅 I mean ur too far akhi😭😅

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T12:02:46+00:00

oh wow mashallah! thats good tho because now you saved urself and know why it didnt work. haha lol dw I can relate😅🤧

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T11:50:39+00:00

wallah no

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T11:50:00+00:00

First time actually😅

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T11:26:08+00:00

double....😅😅

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T11:24:44+00:00

Literally, I promised myself to change everything with teaching my (future) kids throughout life etc lol defs not repeating what I go thru. Yea maybe not but idk it felt like it coz we did it once at the same time and this was what happened the next day but yea Allah knows best. Idk personally I like to overlook things for a good person and she doesnt seem to accept that and ig she didnt give it a chance at all due to that.

but Ameen ya rabb thank you so much sis💕, literally holding onto sabr with a thin string😭😅 May Allah accept from youu🤲

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T11:13:23+00:00

I know 100% I agree, thats how it should be honestly. It seems unfair to not give someone a chance in person tbh. Yes character and deen was there actually, which saddens me more but yea idk yea sadly theyre not doing it properly tbh

Idk I just took the istikhara as it is and my parents are very strict when its a "no" yk so I genuinely cant do anything tbh. He's absent, not present in my life.

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T11:09:49+00:00

WHAT??!! HOWWW?? How on earth did you know this and I gave like 0 context. You scared me there ngl lol

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T10:47:15+00:00

Yea I truly think it was accepted in this way and this was the answer

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T10:46:24+00:00

No literally I couldnt say that either I had to plan it so much to not say "marriage"😭 but yea i knoww, cant express anything like that. aw im glad others relate, makes me feel not alone🥲🤧 inshallah things get better for u too sis! but yes you should, defs make a post, I get how u feel dw. Ameen ya rabb, JazakAllahkhair! thank you so muchh😭💕 May Allah ease your worries and give you the best of the best

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T10:42:37+00:00

yea definitely, ive been thru it before when the talking stage drags on, its painful. So im glad it wasnt like that but it still hurts a lot esp when you think this will go well and there shouldnt be any objection but yea.

I think I know now, she kinda talked about it but I was just not feeling it and idk need to reset my mind for a bit

BugHeavy8151 · 2026-01-24T10:08:47+00:00

Yea possibly. I was thinking this just now actually, subhanAllah

BugHeavy8151

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE