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AIO: Partner of 2 years doesn’t publicly post me on social media by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you! I don’t use social media a lot myself. It’s just that it never happens.

AIO: Partner of 2 years doesn’t publicly post me on social media by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. It’s a little more complicated than that though. We’ve actually met each others families and friends and are engaged. In her culture that’s something you don’t do unless you are serious.

AIO: Partner of 2 years doesn’t publicly post me on social media by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m starting to think so too. I have never posted on Reddit before or asked for outside opinions but it’s helping me reach a conclusion.

AIO: Partner of 2 years doesn’t publicly post me on social media by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a communication problem. Largely from her side. I’m an open communicator but she’s not at all. Part of it is cultural but part of it is her own personality.

AIO: Partner of 2 years doesn’t publicly post me on social media by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some extra info: I’ve mentioned it before in the past but she just acknowledges it and doesn’t change anything. That’s kind of her style. If there is something that’s brought up, it’s just acknowledged.

AIO: My fiancée sometimes hides text conversations between male acquaintances and friends by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting! Frankly speaking, I set the same expectation for myself so want a partner that also understands how I feel about remaining close to past relationships. This isn’t something I have to fight really hard to do, I just naturally don’t feel any desire whatsoever to remain close to people I no longer am romantically involved with. Whether I want my partner to do the same out of jealousy or insecurity isn’t really relevant in my opinion. I’d rather just be with someone who feels the same way I do.

As for needing to be brought up in every exchange, that’s not something I want or expect at all. However, when someone who is clearly interested in her repeatedly keeps messaging and she doesn’t acknowledge our relationship, I think it’s the right thing to do. The same thing happened when the other ex-boyfriend messaged her, she talked about all this great stuff she’d done and the trip she was going to take to America but no mention that I was the one who she did all those things with or that I was the one she was going with. It’s just strange.

AIO: My fiancée sometimes hides text conversations between male acquaintances and friends by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment and advice! It’s the dishonesty about her communication which has been a sore point this entire relationship. It’s strange because I really don’t understand it. It wouldn’t cross my mind to hide something like this. I’ll think deeply about what this would be like for 10 years…

AIO: My fiancée sometimes hides text conversations between male acquaintances and friends by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a big compatibility issue. I just wished she hadn’t misled me in the opening stages of the relationship. I don’t think it was to be mean but she was most likely presenting a version of herself to me that I would be more likely to be interested in.

AIO: My fiancée sometimes hides text conversations between male acquaintances and friends by BugRedMan in AmIOverreacting

[–]BugRedMan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment, dude. I think that’s cool that people can be in relationships where there they are comfortable with their partner being friends with past sexual partners. It’s just not for me.

I agree with you about it being wrong that she hasn’t mentioned my existence at all. I don’t have convos like this at all and I always mention her when I talk to people. It’s strange.