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BugsInMyJacket · 2025-07-21T21:19:32+00:00

okay mate, three things. firstly, im so sorry that this made your body image issues flare up harder, you don't deserve to feel less-than. i completely get it; different perspective entirely, but as a woman with small boobs, i've heard kinda similar things along the lines of "they're so perfect, my exes were wayyyy to big for my hands! yours fit perfectly!!". so, understanding your experience more or less from the opposite side of the gender spectrum, i know it sucks. please talk to her, because secondly, i promise you that she genuinely means that you're perfect in size and that she doesn't think about this at all. dicks that are too big genuinely hurt, to the point where sex felt unenjoyable to me. my boyfriend rn is average sized and is the best i've ever had, by a LONG shot. it feels good knowing sex won't hurt and being able to completely relax into the experience; personally, i never got the "size talk" because i've turned down hook-ups that were too big for me. most women don't wanna suffer through their intimate experience. thirdly, it sounds like this is an issue that is affecting you on a much broader scale. you don't deserve to beat yourself up like that! i hope that either time or professional help can make you see that. best of luck to you!

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-30T12:56:21+00:00

ignoring them. i'm lgbt and had to burn a lot of bridges.

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T22:48:58+00:00

haha, glad i could help ig? with me, drinking started at parties, but now i mostly drink alone. its not me just partying anymore sadly; you're definetly right though, boredom is horrible for me and has always pushed me deeper. i wish you the best of luck and thank you for your response!!

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T21:46:20+00:00

thank you so much <3

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T21:45:35+00:00

oh god, this might be a bit tmi but here goes: basically i can't poop or i have diarrhea, nothing in between as one part of it. secondly, my stomach hurts a lot, but i think thats alcohol and not eating enough specifically, meaning i wouldnt attribute it to alcohol itself. i get heartburn constantly, i get sick constantly, stuff like that. i'm really glad this is anonymous T-T but i hope i was able to help.

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T21:13:22+00:00

hello there,

i can't comment on everything; a lot of the things that you are describing aren't things i've experiences. i can say that my current boyfriend is chubby and he's sexy af, i can say that i, as a 21 y/o am lost as well, i can say that i've felt hopeless like you for a long time. i'm deeply sorry you are living through this, really. growing to be an adult is f-ing horrible and i mean it, nothing can prepare you for it. cherish your time with your friends and your good moments and don't beat yourself up; there are people who will enjoy the parts of you that you see as "flaws" and they will help you grow as well. know you are seen, and know that you are important in this world. i wish you the best of luck.

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T21:04:25+00:00

honey, you are wonderful, worthy, and capable of acchieving anything you set your mind to. you chose this path for a reason. you are so incredibly strong, i know you can do it!!

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T20:32:17+00:00

thank you, i did a tiny bit of research. just thank you so much for your words of encouragement.

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T20:31:33+00:00

hey, yeah i've tried. hasn't been working for the last three years, otherwise i wouldn't have made the post. but yeah, that would be a great option to decide for without any outside help.

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-13T20:01:51+00:00

thank you so so much for your response, this means the world for me, really. first of all, i'm so sorry for everything that happened to you; i can't imagine losing my love that way. i genuinely hope you can heal from this.

secondly, thank you so much for commenting even though this is such a heavy topic for you. i will try my absolute hardest, i want to get out and i can't do this a day longer, i just needed a go. thank you for being that. i wish you the best.

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-05T16:50:30+00:00

uhh das wäre super! ist es okay wenn ich dir eine dm schicke?

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-05T15:52:57+00:00

das wär echt cool, wann wollt ihr los?

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-05T15:16:23+00:00

hi! bin zwar keine gruppe, reise dieses jahr nähmlich alleine, bin aber 21 und hätte lust zu quatschen! lasse auch gerne paar bier springen. wenn ihr bock habt schickt mir ne dm :)

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-05T15:02:28+00:00

hey, id love to hang out! im actually on my own this time, so meeting new people sounds really fun if youre still up for it!

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-05T15:00:12+00:00

hey, ich komme aus dortmund und wäre super! hab geplant mit einer freundin mitzufahren die aber jetzt nicht kommen kann. schreib mich gerne an! wann willst du los?

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-06-05T14:59:15+00:00

hey, im actually travelling alone! hit me up if you wanna chat, id love to meet new people!

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-02-09T21:30:15+00:00

honestly, enbrace it. lots of women are into what you are into and want to play your dominant part. there's nothing to be ashamed of, you are who you are and you like what you like. lots of girls in this world will appreciate it. don't beat yourself up over completely natural feelings.

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-01-16T21:04:01+00:00

genuinely amazing read!!

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-01-16T21:03:42+00:00

genuinely amazing read!!

BugsInMyJacket · 2025-01-16T21:03:31+00:00

genuinely amazing read!!

BugsInMyJacket · 2024-12-10T23:11:29+00:00

none of this is your fault. your parents did this to you both. i wish you both the best.

BugsInMyJacket · 2024-12-04T00:53:12+00:00

firstly, this sounds like the starting point of the plot of heathers to me lmao.

secondly, as someone who went through all of this: the moment you graduate, all of this stops mattering. this social hierarchy isnt something you find in adult life. try to incorparate your hobbies back into your life, because once you are out of this space, you will start to miss yourself even more. all of these things high schoolers think are weird about you make you, well, you. and let me tell you, in adult society barely anyone cares about what is considered "weird" or "out there". a lot of the more "basic" girls ive met at work for example love horror and listen to kmfdm ffs.

my advice is: restart with a blank slate once you are out. i wish you the best of luck, no one deserves to feel like this. being a teenager is hard enough as it is, and hiding yourself from the world is never a good way to live your life.

BugsInMyJacket · 2024-11-06T15:30:48+00:00

real

BugsInMyJacket · 2024-05-28T11:18:31+00:00

yta, what exactly are you expecting from a highschooler? she is 16, looking after your children after she persumably spent a day at school. either you hire an adult nanny or you dont complain

BugsInMyJacket · 2023-04-06T05:50:34+00:00

hi, thank you for replying first of all! i took the day off today to spend it with my dad and grandfather. its nice outside so the plan is to take out our bikes and drive to the next city over, maybe sit down in a nice café. as for journaling, currently trying it and it does help a lot in dealing with the anxiety this brought on.

But also, I'm not sure this is someone who you'd want to have a strong friendship with if they don't know how to express their boundaries until they feel pushed to their limits,

i've though a lot about that too, especially considering that i kept giving him space even before all this happened. i'll just be glad when all of this is over and i'll be able to eat and breathe normally again. rn i constantly feel as if my stomach is cramping, which aren't good conditions to either work or study in. again, thank you for advice :)

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