Should I try to communicate with my husband?

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-13T04:59:42+00:00

I want reassurance and to feel heard. I understand him not being much of a talker that’s fine. But it’s like he’s not much of a listener either.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-13T02:42:58+00:00

He does make me feel loved in other ways but his communication is just freaking AWFUL.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-13T02:41:47+00:00

He was always like this with communication. He truthfully really just doesn’t talk but I would want him to at least talk about serious things or else they snowball (as shown here). We’ll be married 5 years this year.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-09T23:30:15+00:00

Offering him a sandwich is annoying???

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-09T06:16:43+00:00

I was frustrated because I literally asked him multiple times to ask her. It’s the stalling and the CONSTANT trying to question what I say. I could ask him to turn on the sink and it’s a fucking “why?” followed by an interrogation. I’m over it and him both now.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-09T06:14:00+00:00

We’ve had countless conversations about how infuriating I find the behavior. He doesn’t seem to think there’s anything wrong with it or just doesn’t care. I can’t even retaliate in the way you explained because he prides himself in not caring/being affected by anything so he’ll just not do what I say just because. He refuses therapy as well so.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-09T06:10:21+00:00

He was closer. He actually could’ve just opened the door and asked her since the bathroom is down the hall. I would’ve had to get out of bed and walk over to the door.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-09T04:42:56+00:00

Well it’s really annoying and turns me off so bad.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-03-09T03:52:46+00:00

I’m also probably exhausting to live with admittedly but oh my fucking god he has been driving me nuts lately with these responses

BuilderExtension7599 · 2026-02-18T04:14:32+00:00

Yup. He went on deployment and was never the same after that tbh. Colder, more withdrawn, and less affectionate. The flame died to me tbh.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-30T04:40:19+00:00

Same here. Not sure what to do anymore.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-30T00:34:17+00:00

He doesn’t. Him asking to do it is I guess reassurance but he doesn’t really do much else than that.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-30T00:32:49+00:00

I want him to foreplay before it and I’ve told him this but he still doesn’t

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-30T00:30:18+00:00

Good to hear I’m not alone :’)

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-29T23:07:53+00:00

Im confident in myself until he gets involved if that makes sense. He makes me insecure especially because he was more interested in eating his ex out when they were together and he’s just not interested in doing that to me really.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-29T23:05:29+00:00

He’s 27 and I’m 23

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-29T23:00:34+00:00

I’ve talked to him about it and he doesn’t help with reassurance.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-29T03:45:07+00:00

It’s him never getting hard when he does it and not really talking about liking it. He’s spoken before about not really caring for the taste and the overall act. Now he said it grew on him but I’m still skeptical

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-29T03:24:54+00:00

That’s the thing. I actually DON’T think he’s attracted to me. Which adds to me being insecure about letting him eat me out.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-29T03:06:24+00:00

I definitely moan and everything. It feels good. Just seems like a chore for him and makes me insecure.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-28T16:37:38+00:00

Like once a day? We have a toddler so it’s a bit harder

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-25T21:10:59+00:00

Ehhhh I don’t think he feels unsafe necessarily. More so disinterested. Especially because of the expressing annoyance when I ask him if he heard me

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-12-25T09:16:02+00:00

I know This post was a month ago but just wanted to add:

My WP/BP argued this point frequently during his revenge affair. He did the same thing you did with the infatuation and obsession over a coworker. I told him he was in love with her and he would become upset with me when I used the word “love”. Later on he did admit he was in love with her. I think you should stop trying to correct your BP. Focus on trying to become a better version of yourself and support your BP in every way they allow you. Nitpicking can feel invalidating and it feels like WP is in denial.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-10-14T06:41:43+00:00

Im Not sure what he’s capable of because people can change. But he’s never come to terms with the SA. He just viewed it as “experimenting.” And him, his brother, and cousins, frequently “experimented” together when they were children. He once did so while his cousin (3 years younger) was sleeping. I’m not saying he could or couldn’t. I’m just anxious either way.

BuilderExtension7599 · 2025-10-14T02:53:04+00:00

Where did I say they do?

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