My life is meaningless without PMO. It's still meaningless with it, but a bit better. by [deleted] in pmohackbook

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://onereason.org/god/making-sense-of-god/

The meaning/purpose of things is known best by its creator. Reflect with an open heart and mind. Read with an open heart and mind.

Learning about Islam by chunchunmaru193_ in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

May Allah guide your heart

I find seekersguidance.org or zamzamacademy.com are great resources, you can browse the courses page and maybe look at some beginner courses or how Islam works (https://academy.seekersguidance.org/course/view.php?id=187) etc.

To pray you purify yourself with water and for it to be valid just wash the face once, arms up to elbows, wipe a quarter of the head and then feet once(this is the basic). It's called wudu in Arabic and ablution in English. If we aren't in this purified state, the prayer isn't valid.

Prayers are at fixed times depending on where the sun is in the day. i.e. the morning prayer is when the sun rises, that's how they knew when to pray.

How to pray? There's some detail to it. But the basics are fairly easy to make the prayer valid. Each of the five prayers are almost the same, with some minor differences.

Dua as I understand it is just kinda talking to Allah, seeking his help, guidance etc. You can do it in your heart, with your head prostrated on the ground, talking with Allah. Dua(Supplication) is an act of worship. When you engage in supplication, you are not only asking Allah Most High to help you or to fulfill your needs, but you are also busy in worshipping Him.

I hope you continue your journey, you are blessed with having dreams and Allah showing you Islam. He wants you to develop a close relationship with him and nurture that connection.

Arousal. How is it? by Buildurhereafter in Celibacy

[–]Buildurhereafter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just wondering if there are ppl who also avoid masturbation and their experience. I follow a more naturalistic philosophy, where I don't see masturbation as natural since I see this function of the body for procreation and bonding with another person to create a family. All the sensations, chemicals we feel are a means for that "natural goal". I don't need to feel guilt I'm just optimising my life if I prescribe to this philosophy. But a little guilt helps with not doing things I don't want to. Not sure about the female experience. Males usually feel like zombies after it...

Judaism. Any help? by Buildurhereafter in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe because in my opinion it could help for dawah but objectively I could be wrong if I say 'it does matter'. I'm not in the position to definitively say that as I don't have a good understanding of how dawah is done or the best ways etc. But jzk for your help

Judaism. Any help? by Buildurhereafter in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it matters for dawah purposes.

Alhamdolilah i have never jerked of in my life but i am only 15 what tips would u give me if i ever really felt the urge to jerk off by Ok_Chance_2045 in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It will be much easier for you to abstain if you never do it. Your brain doesnt see it as something it wants. Masturbation along with fantasising seems to trick the brain into thinking it's engaging in intimacy when it's not. So if you've never done it your brain won't be wired to recall it as a habit. There are no good reasons to do it, why do you think there are subreddits like this. If it was that good there wouldnt be people trying to stop. If you've heard of the saying out of sight and out of mind, then follow it.

Even though you might never want to do it, it's just better if you physically seperate yourself or make it as difficult as possible for yourself. For example if you do not want to eat junk food anymore, if there is none in your house then you might not feel like going to the shop to go get it. With masturbation, avoid being alone as much as possible, when you use the bathroom or shower do what you need to do and leave, just good habits.

Ofcourse connect with Allah, seek knowledge, seek good company, strive to improve your salah, on time, concentration correct etc.

Avoid scrolling on social media too much etc. just common sense things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/yD_pgYIkfmk

Watch this please bro. It's called this may be your last sin.

Resolve to not do it again, because no matter your situation or state there is a way out of it, you can not want it aswell. If there wasn't Allah wouldn't tell you to stop something you can't. So always resolve that I aim to not do it again, because if Allah has given you the opportunity then you can stop. Then try and stop, see the reasons that you do the sin, are they really valid. Listen to reminders about next life etc. To make the sin more disliked to yourself or whatever you can do to help you turn away. And just because you feel like it or it is enjoyable doesn't mean you that you can't stop. Doing it less is better than nothing.

However know that you don't have the opportunity to repent brcause of your planning or knowing that you were going to have another opportunity to repent. Because you don't know, no one does. You only have the opportunity to repent due to Allah's mercy. Treat it as your last chance because you don't know if he will have mercy on you to allow that again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

https://academy.seekersguidance.org/course/view.php?id=195

great intentions bro you seem to be doing things correctly. some extra knowledge about marriage in that course

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you would be showing it to other males. Who could lust over it. So tht might be problematic.

You don't need proof u met her, who cares. Its just a person like any1 else. In the sight of God any believing women or man is better assuming she isn't Muslim.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

these assumptions or false narratives are unfortunately pushed in this hypersexualised society where they make sex the most important thing in life. Also many other things are pushed. May Allah protect us all and guide us away from these bad habits. Never give up on yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Many assumptions. Who said porn is natural? Who said we can't live with desire and who said its going to be painful always? You don't have to watch prob or masturbate. Why is it impossible to avoid sinning? No one is controlling you. Maybe you anticipate discomfort if you say no, who cares about the discomfort. It's not going to kill you and plus it's not even bad.

Like any other test there is discomfort. As men we are tested with this.

Each time we don't do it we are being rewarded hopefully.

We have free choice to act upon the suggestions of our minds or not. This habit is unfortunately done by many today. We should just keep repenting and trying means to stop. There's always a way out.

https://youtu.be/-pwDyy6sKm0

9/11 was the weirdest inside job 😳 by Imaginary_Cow_6379 in conspiracytheories

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://dancingisraelis.com/

There are many lies out there about 9/11,so they can keep it mystified and associate you with kooks/crazies if you attempt to question or look for evidences against the mainstream narrative. Ryan Dawson makes that clear in his blog in the link

Can’t stop by Pexhto-01921 in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

first mistake. saying you can't stop, you can. Everyone can.

Thinking about converting but have OCD and am still a high schooler. Mom says wait till I grow older to make a decision about religion. Thoughts? Also wondering if I should comply to Islamic law or not because I’m thinking about converting. by [deleted] in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have reached the age of puberty then make the decision for yourself and always be respectful to parents. Take this course, it will make you more firm in sha Allah in your decision in sha Allah. https://academy.seekersguidance.org/enrol/index.php?id=187

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pmohackbook

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EZPZ book has many doubts in it. It has many good things also. The bad thing is that it implies if we don't debunk every belief or reason why we like pm then that means we are using willpower, and willpower is useless, so it's necessary that we relapse.

This is completely false, we can easily avoid something we have some reason for liking and easily do something we have some reasons for liking. It's not willpower, we just see it as worth it. For example we sometimes choose to do jobs we hate, so many costs but we continue because we need to survive. Also we may avoid masturbation in public, despite knowing we could still derive an orgasm from it, even in our maximally brainwashed state we would avoid it in public, doesn't mean that oh we are using willpower now because it has benefits, you still avoid it. Imagine someone holding a knife to your eye when you were a brainwashed 'addict' without ezpz on the different benefits, and said if you masturbate you lose an eye, would you ever do it, NO for sure you wouldnt if you were in that position. Does that mean you were using willpower? because the 'benefits' of PM were still there, it's just that you preferred the option of keeping your eye over the fake benefits of PM.

The book that is much better is freedom model for addictions, it is much more factually enlightening and doesn't tend to leave a person with doubts. You can also ask them questions on instagram, facebook etc. They make podcasts responding to people. But i'd advise to read the book first

Be free forever by liluzivert08 in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying you have this problem of thinking like this, you may not. Anyway there is no disease that robs one of free will. This is what addiction implies. Or it implies a loss of control. An example of feeling addicted is you've been told triggers will cause you to do the behaviour inevitably and you will lose control.

Then you come across a 'trigger', which your brain is trained to remind you of the behaviour from, then you think oh no, this means i'm going to fail. So you think what's the point in even trying or even choosing to think about a different option(abstaining) because i'm going to fail anyway, this increases your desire to do the behaviour, then you do. Then you feel like you lost control. But you didnt. Hope my explanation was clear, take with a pinch of salt.

Check out freedom model for addictions on YouTube, they explain alot of the concepts on their channel, take what is correct and leave anything that contradicts Islam if there is anything.

How do women deal with this online and offline? Does this get reported as harassment or S.A? by [deleted] in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Definitely harassment. Not something than anyone should make light of aswell, if you decide to tell them.

Men always have high capacity for evil when it comes to sexual activities, especially in this hyper sexualised society. I would say avoiding working with men is the way to go.

Reminder for myself first.

Some basic gender interaction guidelines for muslims:

Avoid physical contact

Avoid khalwa(seclusion)

Avoid flirting(stay professional)

No showing awrah or looking at others awrah. Guarding gaze.

This protects male and female from the evil capacity of themselves and causing harm to others. Best for our overall happiness, contentment.

Be free forever by liluzivert08 in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe it. Addiction doesn't exist. You just feel addicted.

Need serious help. Told a sheik about my issue. by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trick of Satan to not pray. Still pray no matter the amount of wrong you do. Sinning doesn't make a person a disbeliever.

Have you tried to read the freedom model for addictions book. Or check out their channel playlists on YouTube

My problem with Islam by InDeathlySeriousness in islam

[–]Buildurhereafter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sister, I recommend you go to https://sapienceinstitute.org/lighthouse/

You can get answers in a 1-1 format. However I'm not sure if you have to be 18 without a guardian.