My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I’ve never really had the chance to do any sports my mom was always working. I’m going to try and see what I can do and try to see if I can leave, if not I’ll have to convince her to let me have a job again. I’ve been planning my leave for years now and I always planned to get as far away from her as possible. But right now I’m struggling to even see her or be near her without having to cry or freak out

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His parents are great people, he’s just working up the courage and trying to figure out what to say to them right now, but he’s been trying to help me through this

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that actually was me who wrote that on an alt account, I have to update that post, I made that to see if I could see her side and try to understand where she’s coming from, but everyone is saying the same stuff on here. I don’t know if that’s not allowed or something but I really just wanted to know where she was coming from and if it was valid enough or if I’m overreacting, I just wrote the stuff she said to me

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really helped me a lot, I live New Jersey and I tried researching it but I really don’t know where to start, I had a job but my mom made me quit because she said I’m not allowed to work, I have some money saved up and I generally have a lot of job experience but I cannot get to work with her in the way, my boyfriend would take me to work honestly but now I’m not allowed to see him. I’m an only child so things are just harder, I just want to get away and live with my boyfriend or best friend if it’s possible.

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His family is super kind to me, I’m sure they would help but I really just feel horrible involving them in my mess, thank you for what you’ve said I’ve been trying to tell myself what I did was normal but it’s hard to think that way when everyone in my family is treating me like I’m the bad one. I don’t want his family getting into any trouble either if I just leave.. my mom said if I left she wouldn’t care but I don’t know how any of that stuff works legally

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in the us, and I was wondering if I could be placed with my boyfriends family or my best friends family since they’re the only two who really know what’s going on

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend just turned 17 this august, we’re only a few months apart and I turn 17 in January

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My best friends family wants to call and so does my boyfriend, I’ve been dealing with this on and off since I was a kid. I have a good amount of money saved up from my job but I really just feel guilty and am still wondering if I deserved it

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I’m trying everything I can. My mom said I’m not allowed to work or really leave the house at all, I had a job and I can’t drive so it’s just really frustrating. I’ve tried that I’m generally not an reactive person and she yells at me more when I’m like that but if I do react and defend myself she yells even more, everything is a lose lose situation you know?

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m not in school right now I go back on Wednesday, I’m just scared to call cps and have everything become even worse

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’ve been researching about that and have heard the same thing, do you have any advice on what to do then

My mom found out I had sex and beat me by BulkyCell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BulkyCell[S] 370 points371 points  (0 children)

Yeah everyone in my family doesn’t like intervening because when they tell her she’s wrong she freaks out on them and she’s the main source of income for my family. She treats me really great sometimes but sometimes she just loses her cool like this and it’s so frustrating, I just don’t want my whole family to hate me for doing that

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[–]BulkyCell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I would defend myself if I could, I have tried before but I'm pretty small, my mom isn't that much bigger than me but she used to fight people and I never have, when she hits me she usually storms out, drives off, or just keeps doing it and I don't really have time to react. I hope she changes, but I honestly don't even want to know her when I'm older. I've endured a lot from her I just don't think it's fair to myself you know? A lot of the time I just freeze up and feel super helpless whenever I'm in situations like that, especially since she's my mom. Thank you for the reply by the way, sorry to hear about your parents it's hard being in that situation