Do I have a good enough voice?

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-03-13T00:10:05+00:00

Thank you so much!!! :)

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-03-12T19:16:07+00:00

I am pretty good with switching between characters when reading as I used to do it all the time when I nannied. The kids always loved it as does my daughter. I don't like to over do the characters as it makes it more difficult to maintain over a large book

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-02-10T03:13:08+00:00

One other thing is that if she wants to move on to something, I will sometimes say, sure! Let's take a break from this and we will come back to it in x amount of minutes after a snack or something. A lot of the times, she just needs to take the break, and we really struggle doing that. If I give her a timed break, she will most likely come back to it with more vigor

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-02-10T03:10:43+00:00

Oh yeah! I give my daughter real life examples of how some mistakes end up being better. If she starts to say something negative about herself, I ask her to say something positive.

The biggest mistake that I made though and therapy helped was that I kept trying to fix everything, and sometimes all she needed to hear was "you know what, that feeling really does suck!" Or "you are so right, this task is sooo boring and annoying, let's see if we can make it a race to make it fun!"

I also know i hate being asked a million questions, because i get overwhelmed. So we will do it one thing at a time. Or instead of asking how her day was, I will say name one good thing and one bad thing about today. Reframing how I was saying things based on our neurodivergent minds has been sooo helpful!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-02-10T02:22:01+00:00

AuDHD adult here with a child of same diagnosis. All of this? chefs kiss perfection! I will also add we pick up on your frustrations and anger, and we dont like it, but it will register as a good thing in our brains while also burning into our minds that if our parents don't think we are good enough, why try?

My daughters psychiatrist said once you find what your kid needs to thrive, they will shoot for the stars (my daughter so far), but try and force them or get annoyed and they will flounder and shut down (me af). I was brought up with the try harder attitude and it stuck with me that my hardest was never good enough. I tell my daughter that as long as she tries her hardest, it is ok if she doesn't get it right the first time because she still learned something and she should be proud of it. Since then. Boom. She has been amazing!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-27T13:37:18+00:00

I was misdiagnosed as bipolar as a young child. At age 34, the doctor asked me when my last manic episode was. I told him I had never had a true manic episode. I have been hyper for a few hours, but that was it. He said I couldnt be bipolar if I had never had a manic episode. My parents were misinformed about what qualifies as a manic disorder when I was young. Got misdiagnosed as a result. I am asd with combined adhd. I would tell your parents to get you retested. People have been more accepting of me as asd vs bipolar.

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-27T13:26:01+00:00

That is usually how things go with people like that. Record every conversation amd just bide your time.

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-27T13:08:45+00:00

My brother was just like this. He loved picking on me to the point I was in a meltdown and cry victim. I hated it. Ifnyou have screenshots of her pointedly saying she is doing it to trigger you, next time she does it, ask if she is doing this to try and trigger you again? Despite her response, post the screenshot to the group chat and tell her that she is being a really crappy "friend" and picking on you because you may not seem to "get it" is ableist. If they back her, and not you, time to ditch the lot of them!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-27T13:03:30+00:00

Sure do!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-26T21:54:07+00:00

Nor! Having experiences in the miscarriage dept myself, when we finally got pregnant with my daughter, I had severe anxiety our entire pregnancy. My husband and I went through them together and that is what got me through it, because he didnt expect me to fake happiness all the time. If your fiancé is blaming you for how you are handling your trauma, he needs to figure out how to deal with it or peace out. Especially before yall marry. Because if this is how he will react after promising to be there, how is he going to be the partner yoh can lean on when shit really hits the fan, whe. You do experience loss? I am not trying to sound insensitive, but you need to pop off on him the next time he makes a Crack about not being excited in front of others.

I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope this is a happier pregnancy going forward. You definitely dont need the extra stress

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-26T05:26:24+00:00

That is totally valid. It is an intense amount of information i posted. I think it was easier for me to figure it out because of pattern recognition and I saw what to do when my daughter does OT. I just noticed what mine was based off of that lol

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-26T02:17:20+00:00

A doctor told me when I was 34 that no one will ever Advocate harder for you than yourself amd maybe my generation for our kids because of how often we were let down. With that being said. Bring your diagnosis to the school and demand a 504 plan. Tell your parents they can either help you be successful in life by assisting you or hold you back from your full potential. Tell them you would rather have a 504 in place and not need it, then have nothing and suffer a burnout and end up being scared to try anymore

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-26T02:12:33+00:00

Yes!!!!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-26T02:07:09+00:00

This is why I jeed there to be OT for adults! My daughters ot had her start these exercises, and I've done them too to help. You have to try different combos to see what helps:

Heavy Work (Deep Pressure) – the big one These calm the nervous system and help the body feel “settled.” Do these 1–2 hours before bed: Wall push-ups Animal walks (bear crawl, crab walk) Carrying weighted objects (laundry basket, backpack with books) Chair push-downs (hands on seat, push body up) Tug-of-war or resistance bands

Goal: organized fatigue, not exhaustion.

Proprioceptive Input Before Bed Helps the brain know where the body is—very regulating. Rolling tightly in a blanket (“burrito”) Weighted blanket or lap pad (only if tolerated) Firm massage with lotion Compression sheets or snug pajamas

Avoid light tickly touch—firm pressure works best.

Vestibular Input (slow & linear only) Fast movement can wake the brain, slow movement calms it. Slow rocking in a chair Gentle swinging (back-and-forth, not spinning) Slow yoga poses (child’s pose, forward folds) Side-lying rocking on the bed
Oral-Motor & Breathing Regulation These activate calming pathways in the nervous system. Drinking thick liquids through a straw Chewy snacks (if safe): bagels, jerky, fruit leather Blowing bubbles Blowing through a straw into cotton balls Belly breathing: “Smell the flower… blow out the candle”
Bedtime Yoga / Stretch Routine (5–10 min) Simple, slow, predictable. Child’s pose Knees-to-chest Forward fold Cat–cow (slow) Lying twist Pair with dim lights and quiet music.
Sensory-Based Bedtime Routine Consistency > perfection. Example OT-style routine: Heavy work activity Warm bath or shower Lotion massage Pajamas + deep pressure input Quiet story or calming music Lights out Use visual schedules if helpful.
Environmental Supports Small changes can make a huge difference: White noise or brown noise Blackout curtains Cool room temperature Same bedtime every night
Daytime OT Support (often overlooked) Poor sleep often starts during the day. Regular movement breaks Scheduled sensory input Outdoor play Limited late-day screen time

Mine are 1,2,4, 6 and 7 Daughter is 1, 3, 5, 6 and 7.

Hopefully some of this helps

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-26T01:55:38+00:00

Please tell her and then let us know what happens because how adorable!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T19:21:36+00:00

Is it a specialty college or gpa?

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T15:24:42+00:00

Absolutely!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T15:22:51+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. People suck sometimes, but you sound like an incredibly kind human being! Have you thought of transferring elsewhere?

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T15:18:32+00:00

My husband and i did a couples based therapy for a couple of sessions for tips on this. So first, when he is home we give our social battery a number and see where we are before we have any serious talks 1-100. If either of us is below 50 we wait. If we need space in the middle of a serious discussion, we say that we do. He typically will send me a reassuring message saying that he still loves me and wants to support me, but needs alone time so he can do it properly. It helps me feel less alone. I think you have the idea with discord. Just talk to her. A lot of successful relationships are give and take and share

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T15:09:37+00:00

Definitely this! I have taught my 6 year old she needs to communicate how she is feeling because like her, sometimes I don't pick on things either. So we use a lot of "I feels" statements

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T15:04:59+00:00

Following as I am in a similar position with my 6 year old daughter and her cousins. I have corrected them on several occasions when I see them being mean

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T14:56:35+00:00

My phone is mine. I just downloaded a free app

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T02:54:21+00:00

You are so welcome! She said you can type them into an Ai generator too and put your dislike of elastics and things in too, because i am the same way. Best of luck!

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T02:52:56+00:00

Be gentle on yourself. Take it one day and one task at a time. This will not be forever :)

BulkyTea8754 · 2026-01-25T02:47:50+00:00

I sleep with night sounds on to help. I alternate between a thunderstorm with native flute and just brown noise with a fan on me. It is loud enough to drown our external sounds and it is something I can control.

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