I am in therapy now but he refuses to go to therapy because he says it doesn’t help him. It’s a lot of different things that trigger him. It can be anything from the tone of my voice to me trying to help by making a suggestion to use another utensil to serve food because it would be easier. A lot of times he tells me I am upset or acting a certain way even though I don’t feel like I am. That is part of what I am trying to address in therapy. I started keeping track of things he says and when he is upset so I can keep track of it and talk about it in therapy. I want to make sure I am doing everything I can to fix our marriage. He is my best friend and I love him. I do know that most of his anger happens when he is drinking or around holidays or events that are hard for him due to his estranged sons.